golfer99 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 [sIZE=2]this is a long one. i don't know if my last post went through. browser closed right after i submitted it.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]I met this girl a little over a year ago at work. We got along pretty good. I never asked her out because she had a boyfriend. She is 20 I am 29. A couple of months later she switched shifts and said she was going to miss me but we should keep in touch. We talked through email every few weeks until Jan of 2007 when she told me she broke up with the boyfriend. We started talking on the phone and hanging out. She started talking about things we should do in the future. We hung out a couple times but I could tell there was still something going on with the ex. I finally got her to admit in May that she was still sleeping with him since like the end of March.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Anyways I backed of and only called her about every 10 days or so and also never asked to do anything. She would call me and talk about getting rid of him but I thought nothing of it because I had heard it before. Anyways I didn’t see her until the end of May when she wanted to come over so I said ok. I saw her for 3 weekends in a row and she said she had quit talking to her ex. I figured here is my opportunity. We hung out some more until I called her on a Thursday and she said she was busy and would call me back and never did, so I tried her 10 days later and she didn’t answer so I decided I was done and moving on. She called me like 2 and a half weeks after she said she would call me back, I wasn’t home at the time and called her back and she didn’t answer. Anyway I sent her a text msg a day or so later saying I called her and got no answer. She called me immediately. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Here is where I get confused, in that call she says her cell phone is messed up and doesn’t ring sometimes. I asked why she called a couple days before and she said just to talk because she hadn’t heard from me in a while. Anyways she tells me about how she went to lunch with a couple of ladies they now and one tried to set her up with a guy she knows. She says she hung out with him a couple of times and he was cool but she never has a chance to talk to him to see him. Now she has said things about guy before and I always hear why she wouldn’t date them. Also if I bring up any girl she doesn’t know she wants to know if she is pretty. I’ve asked her to hang out twice since then. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]We went to the fair Tuesday; all I heard about the other guy was how he didn’t call her back. And she also told me that one of her best friends asked her out. We got along good, she would laugh at everything I said, she told me I smelled good, when we got food we would only get one item and share it, and she would walk close enough to me to where we were pretty much always touching each other. And when I dropped her off at home she said I should go back to the fair on Wednesday with her and her friend. And that she would call me the next day.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]On Wednesday she called me and I was already at the fair so I met her and her friend there. She introduced me. Any way while we were there she would complain to her female friend about this other guy finally called her back, and his excuse was he thought she was mad at him and that was a stupid excuse and just wants to know if he is going to get back with his ex. This other guy is a cop, and her friend made a comment that the girl I like was lucky and she wants a cop too. The girl I like said no you don’t there aholes. Anyway everything else was the same as the night before she would walk right next to me would share food with me. One lady even made a comment about her being my date and neither of us said anything but her friend was like oh you guys are dating now. She would also ask me things and when I answered tell me how smart I was, and also talk about things we used to do when we hung out.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Anyways I finally told her I was confused and asked her what she wanted from me. She said "I was thinking friends, i guess, i don't know, is that alright." I said it wasn't what I wanted to hear and she said "i don't know what I want right now I'm just being single right now, will you still call me this weekend." [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]I don't know what to do I kinda feel like I have been led on and used as just a filler between guys. What is your opinion?[/sIZE]
norajane Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I think you're right...she's using you as her fall back when she's not out on a date with anyone else (or when she's not screwing her ex). Move on.
jcster Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Yes, I'm sorry, but I think you are the fill in. Don't get too depressed, though, because she sounds pretty immature and definitely doesn't sound ready to be in a committed relationship.
Author golfer99 Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 I think i'm going to move on. I guess the one good thing is that whenever we went out and did anything she paid most of the time.
dbtmarley Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I think i'm going to move on. I guess the one good thing is that whenever we went out and did anything she paid most of the time. Well then.. atleast you got some soda and popcorn out of her!
Arizona100 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 "I was thinking friends, i guess, i don't know, is that alright." I said it wasn't what I wanted to hear and she said "i don't know what I want right now I'm just being single right now, will you still call me this weekend." Move on. If she ever makes up her mind about you, she'll be back. If not, she's BSing you around and you're losing time on the right girl you're gonna meet.
Author golfer99 Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 Exactly, I told her I would probably still call her. I don't think I am going to though, if she wants anything to do with me she can make the effort.
Author golfer99 Posted August 26, 2007 Author Posted August 26, 2007 Well I didn't contact her for 3 weeks and she started calling me again. I've been pretty distant like the day she called me my phone lost signal and i never called her back. She wanted to come over and show me some pictures of her vacation right after she got back from her vacation. She was all flirty again and didn't say anything about this other guy. I'm pretty much to the point with all of the previous stuff that I try not to take any of this stuff seriously. Here is my question. Would your advice be to ride it out and see where it goes but expect nothing and let her make all of the moves; or should I ask her straight up again what is going on.
Arizona100 Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 I would let her go. From what you've been saying, she's probably falling back on you once more. Some people don't like rejection, you don't call, she does.. I don't know.. but I would tell her off politely. Or just say you don't have time ..
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