sheko kilmister Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 we've been together for a year .. but i don't know what we were .. friends .. or a bf and gf .. or what !!! she've never said that she loves me .. but i did .. she didn't bcoz she said she's afraid of relationships .. she's not sure it's love .. but she needs me beside her all the time .. i couldn't know how to handle that so we broke up for four months .. then she talked to me .. i thought she changed .. we got back .. but she's the same !! she never expresses her feelings .. never make me feel apperciated .. this day i made her a song she said "oh thank you!" and never mentioned it again !!! like i found her lost shoe or something !!! and this is only with me .. she apperciates her friends .. her family ..but NEVER ME !!!!!!! but sometimes i feel she's like that bcoz her dad was overprotective .. she've never dated before although she's 20 .. i want to help hdf but she doesn't give md the chance .. and i can't handle this too .. i want to feel loved from my girl ! should i stay or should i go !? i've been talking about that for so long with her .. she said she's gonna change but she didn't .. she says "just hold on me plz" but I'M REALLY TIRED PEOPLE !!!! i've got my own problems too !! .. we've been like that for a year till now .. in this ****ty situation .. what should i do .. i think she's a great person .. and i couldn't get over her when we broke up .. but she's not treating me good i don't think there's a guy in the world who would handle this ****ty situation for a year like i did !
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Every day you waste with this girl, you are taking away from the one who will show you what genuine happiness can be like in a relationship. She won't change, so you will have to: in the form of a solid irrevocable breakup, with no chance of reconciliation or friendship. Then... you move on. One day you'll look back from within a happy relationship and you'll be very thankful it never 'worked' with this girl.
Yamaha Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 should i stay or should i go !? You know the answer but if you need another opinion then you need to go!!!! and fast......
sao2 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 I held on to someone like that for 2 years. It sucks I know. Look I dated another girl that showed me love for 2 years, unfortunately I wasn't emotionally ready to handle it. But I do remember, being treated great is better than being treated like a distraction. Even if the girl treating you like a distraction is a great girl. You know what the girl that treated me great told me once, any girl that really likes you will treat you like this. I will never forget that lesson. Even if a girl is great, at some point if they don't treat you like an important part of there life you have to walk away. Of course this is me, but if my ex came back I would probably fall for it just the same. Sometimes you just have to be completely devastated in order to move on.
raidsniffer Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I would have to definitely agree with this. I dated a girl like that for a while. Ended not too long ago. I really liked her, but she treated me like an option or in better words a distraction or a burden on her life. She said she liked me and all that but had no time when i was asking for the smallest things, but she always had time for other things...i guess it was better for the breakup. although she was almost that ideal girl as far as looks, values, and personality. her past issues played a major role in our relationship. and it is what it is. Move on. It's her loss not yours.
Author sheko kilmister Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 I really liked her, but she treated me like an option or in better words a distraction or a burden on her life. She said she liked me and all that but had no time when i was asking for the smallest things, but she always had time for other things... oh man .. i feel like i'm the one who wrote this !! this is exactly the situation .. thanks everybody i already feel better and ready to take the decision .. but .. the last time i was talking about that with her .. i told her that i just can't take this anymore and u gotta do something or i'll just leave .. she said .. give me a month and see if i'll change or not .. a week already passed .. and ... yeah nothing changed .. should i break up with her now or should i wait till the end of the month .. ?
Lonestar23 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 This is like my situation I am currently going through right now! We are sort of on break/breakup terms right now. This is driving me insane. I really hope things turn out for the good for all of us.
funkybassplayer Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Communication is a very inmortant thing, if theres no communication, there will be no emotional bonding, and no true love, and no real intamcy. I know this, i loved a girl very much, and fancyed her like mad, but there was no emotional communication on her part, or any other to do with important issues, therefore, no bonding, and i went off her. she bonded with me, but i told her my thoughts, as i never with her, i pulled away she went off me and ended it-if you look at the deeper picture, the root was no communication on her part, and she would not change, so no hope. I suspect that she may be looking for a farther figure? She needs to sort her head out b4 she can give to anyone. It depends if you love her enough to do this with her, and i dought you will last .
sao2 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Do these girls all just "need time" why can't they just do the breakup? I told my ex that if she had no intention of trying again when "things settled down" (although admittedly her life is kind of complicated for the next month or so) that she should just be completely clear about it. That is not why I am here right now though. I had a relevation. What if she did come back and say she wanted to restart a relationship again, what would I say????? The relationship we had was "half a relationship" in my opinion, if that even. These girls put themselves on a pedestal, they make themselves unattainable and being the idiots we are we just go along with it getting more attached along the way. So really sit down and ask yourself, if this woman who you feel treated you like an option or even a distraction came back, would you really settle for what you were getting from her?
Lonestar23 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 honestly - sometimes i don't even kno wth I'm doing I know that there are more girls out there that is prettier - smarter etc etc. And I know I have a shot too but I don't know - something about this girl that keep bringing me back. Like I don't want to let go. I know if i let go it will hurt now and when I find some1 else that feelming might be gone. But I just dont want to let go.
Author sheko kilmister Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 what is the worst thing a girl would ever make to you !? maybe when she knows that you're dying and not give a damn ! till yesterday morning .. i decided i'll hold on to her for a little while again .. and i don't know why .. yesterday at night in the gym .. i fainted while i was working out .. my blood pressure went so low because of a high alcohol rate .. i was drinking like crazy last week .. because of her .. i was trying to have some fun to forget that i'm treated like **** from my girl ( i know that's stupid ) the wieght i was lifting felt on me .. i broke a tooth .. i felt that all my body is just numb .. and i woke up in the hospital .. thank god there was a friend of mine with me in the gym .. he called her and told her about what happened .. she told him to give me the phone to talk to her .. she said stuff like "oh plz take care more bla bla bla " and that was everything .. she didn't call again .. the passed and the day after is passing by .. and NOTHING ! i feel like if i died yesterday .. it wouldn't really matter to her .. maybe she would not even know .. you know .. i don't know how to cry .. but i spent all my night crying yesterday .. if that happens to a total stranger in the street you'd put much more effort more than that .. i really feel like ... oh my god .. that's enough i sound like an emo kid ..
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