CrazyPanda Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 I'll give you a little background information about my relationship. My girlfriend and I met during high school. She was a senior while I was a lonely sophmore. So we are about 2 years apart. There was no "love at first sight" but once she graduated, a relationship began establishing during summer. At the end of summer, we talked and agreed we should give it a try. This was the start of our offical relationship. It began a little slow. We only saw one another when we had time, and when we did, we would always go out and have a good time. A month passed and it still felt like summer. A few months later I truely felt we were together and pretty much we were inseparable. Fast Foward now to 3 years later. Our anniversary is coming up and I planned a suprise trip for her. To keep her on her feet I let her know to take 4 days off so we can go on a trip on our anniversary. We were both exicted. That's the start. Now for the problem. She came over one afternoon and looked troubled. Of course, it took time for her to tell me about it but eventually she told me that she was beginning to have feelings for another boy at work. We talked for a short period of time. To sum it up, she feels that it's not fair for me if she is having feelings for another boy while she's with me. The problem I had with this was she just meet this guy a couple of weeks ago and she knows nothing about this boy. I'm afraid maybe she thinks it's "love at first sight" or quite possibly using the boy to start things off. She told me it was an innocent crush and after a while it began to get serious as all she could think about is the guy. My feelings about it that there is something the boy is doing that I'm not or maybe she's using this guy as a way to tell me something is wrong. During the converstaion she sounded a little timid and confused like she does not really know what is going on with her. So of course because I care and love her I decided to let her sort things out and let me know at the end (no time frame was set up). Sadly, the only way for her to sort things out was for us to break up so she can decided without having me conflict with her decision. The converstaion ended abruptly and I felt that not enough was said. The rest of the day I calmed down since it took a while for me to absorb everything and really figure out what I really wanted to say. Of course, bcause I felt not enough as said a lot of questions came up and there was no answer for me. Another point is since the conversation ended so quickly i felt like i wasn't able to really tell her how i felt about it. The next day I didn't want another sleepless night and decided to call her tha night. I asked if we could talk in person and she agreed. When we saw each other, I brought up about how the conversation we had was very brief and that we needed to talk it out more. Tears were shed of course when we talked. I was able to throughly tell her how I felt about this and she was kind of able to tell me how she was feeling. Of course, she says the boy seems to be the problem (which doesn't look like it to me) but anther problem she told me was that she is afraid for us. I guess it is commitment since we have been together for this long and worried she might come to a point of no return. She wanted me to see other girls as she might think I haven't been with enough girls to know if she is really the one to fight for. Obviously, I argued the point that after these three years, I'm with her for a reason and even after college where I was away from her and single girls run wild. I've seen how other girls act even without being with them and that comparing them to her was not the same. I explained that maybe I just go lucky my first try and found the right girl. I just hope she would see that. In the end, she said she needs to think about things and needs a little break from one another. I told her that we would talk again after a month to see if this is really want she wants to do or maybe that she figued out what was wrong with us and can be fixed. Not sure what will happen, but in a month I hope for more anwers and hopefully a conclusion. Now the questions to the people who was able to read through my horrible writing. Do you think it's wrong for me to give her a second chance? What do you think is the real problem? Me? Her? Commitment? The new guy? Another problem i realize is that we work at the same place and also the guy she likes works at the same place also. At the current moment, when i see her i just smile and wave, she does the same. But i'm bound to collide with her and the guy at teh same time. It's going to be hard for me to see them together but how should i react to it? Should i ignore it and walk the other way. Should i just wave, say hello and continue walking? It's been a week now of NC, i've only been able to drink fluids but not eat anything solid. sleeping has become easier. if you guys need anymore information ill be glad to let you know.
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