singlecanadianmom Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 Hi there, can someone give me a little hope about finding a new partner as a single parent. I just depressed myself by looking at what was out there on the online personals. Why does everyone seem so messed up!? Do any of you know someone who found love as a parent of a young child? If so, how did they meet? It seems like, as someone over 30, there are not a lot of places to meet someone. I also can't shake that "all the good ones are taken" thing. Please, please, someone give me hope!
sumdude Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 Hi there, can someone give me a little hope about finding a new partner as a single parent. I just depressed myself by looking at what was out there on the online personals. Why does everyone seem so messed up!? Do any of you know someone who found love as a parent of a young child? If so, how did they meet? It seems like, as someone over 30, there are not a lot of places to meet someone. I also can't shake that "all the good ones are taken" thing. Please, please, someone give me hope! There are an awful lot of single people over 30 out there. Seems like most of my freinds are single right now and they're good people. Just take yout time work on your own life and learning to be happy with yourself and the rest will fall into place. Try to make today ... right now as good as you can and let tomorrow be until you get there. Worrying about what you can't control will just wear you out.
Gunny376 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 LOL! I love you newly-divorced/seperated rookies! First off, you don't need anyone! You did just fine before the X, and you'll do just fine after the X. Think about it? I was doing just fine and kicking around the planet for 22 years before I got married. And, I've had to adapt and overcome some, make some adjustments here and there, but all I'm none the worse for wear the last 17 years since the Hex's been gone. As a matter of fact, I'm better off. Thank God and Greyhound ~ her azz is gone! Now that all the dust has settled? Being married to the Hex, was like dragging a dead horse around with me everywhere I went. She was a liability. I like so many was young, dumb, in-experienced, and just didn't know what I was doing? Hate to be the one to break it to you ~ but being single and alone ~ isn't a curse, its a freaking blessing! Not that being in a relationship or married can't be a blessing ~ because for so many it is. IF you're with the right one. Is there a right one? I don't know ~ the jury's still out on that one. But, I do know that who you make your spouse can potentially be the single source of your greatest happiness or misery in life. All I can tell you is that for me right now? I'm not looking for "Ms Right" nor Marriage. Marriage? Marriage is going to have to find me ~ because I'm not looking for it. Hell, I'm not even looking for "Ms Right-Now" As a woman you can find a guy ~ but you're wanting and needing more than just finding a guy. Be in a relationship ~ just to be in a relationship? Be married just to be married? Forget that! OMG! Here's a concept! Why not establish your standards and determine what it is your looking for in your idea guy! I mean be realistic and all, but don't settle for a guy just because he can fog up a mirror. I saw a gal today at the gas station and she was my type! :love: :love: I've got a "thing" for really tall women, not too slender, with some meat on their bones. Grrrrrrrrrr! And feminine! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr! She smiled at me as we made eye contact, but I know that doesn't necessarly mean anything. The thing is? She's probally down on herself because she's 6 foot, and not pettie and slender. My "Boys" (My Marines in my platoon) use to chide me about my "shaved Shaskatch fetish) Quit worrying!
PWSX3 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 I saw a gal today at the gas station and she was my type! :love: :love: I've got a "thing" for really tall women, not too slender, with some meat on their bones. Grrrrrrrrrr! And feminine! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr! She smiled at me as we made eye contact, but I know that doesn't necessarly mean anything. Off topic here, but Gunny I hope you got her phone number?????:love: Back on topic, as Gunny said; it is easier for a girl I feel to get a guy but don't just get a guy to have one. Just go out, have fun see what is out there. Someone told me when you are out looking you will never find what your looking for, it will come to you when the time is right.
Tsuki no Michi Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Hi there, can someone give me a little hope about finding a new partner as a single parent. I just depressed myself by looking at what was out there on the online personals. Why does everyone seem so messed up!? Do any of you know someone who found love as a parent of a young child? If so, how did they meet? It seems like, as someone over 30, there are not a lot of places to meet someone. I also can't shake that "all the good ones are taken" thing. Please, please, someone give me hope! Hi, Obviously I don't know the specifics of your situation, but I would suggest you simply take your time. God has a way of leading people into our lives when we least expect it. My brother (late 30's) met a single mom of two young children a few months ago. They started seeing each other and long story short, her children love him, and the two of them are now pretty much crazy about each other. I think it is wonderful for him since he hasn't pursued a real relationship with a woman for several years since he broke up with his last GF. Mostly I think he was just gun-shy, but anyway. They met because she was an ex-GF of one of his co-workers (not the father of her children though). I don't know if this helps at all, but I think you're just panicking right now because you cannot see the future. Believe me there are men out there who are willing to take on the responsibilities and joy of step parenting if/when they meet the right woman. If my brother can find someone, you most certainly can. A little faith in yourself will go a long way I think. Best of luck... TNM
Missy27 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Hi there, can someone give me a little hope about finding a new partner as a single parent. I just depressed myself by looking at what was out there on the online personals. Why does everyone seem so messed up!? Do any of you know someone who found love as a parent of a young child? If so, how did they meet? It seems like, as someone over 30, there are not a lot of places to meet someone. I also can't shake that "all the good ones are taken" thing. Please, please, someone give me hope! Gunny's right ~~ and so is TNM. Fate has an uncanny way of smacking us right between the eyes when we REALLY dont expect it ~~~ AND ~~~ with people we least expect to be smacked between the eyes with. Same happened to me ~~ Long & boring story but basically I ended my 9 year relationship to be with current beau ~~ and he just turned up out of the blue one day. I thought I was happy in my last relationship ~~~ Jeez was I wrong ~~ I'm only finding out what REAL love (if there's such a thing) is now and I am 27 years old this year (Not that I SHOULD know it all at that age ~ ~ !) Just concentrate on making yourself sweet with yourself 1st. You've been through it for sure and you need to get happy with you before you get happy wiht someone else. Dont sweat it girl ~ ! There's loads of time and loads of men ~ ! It'll happen when you're just getting comfortable being on your own ~ GUARANTEED ~~ Always does ~ ~ ! I've got a "thing" for really tall women, not too slender, with some meat on their bones. Grrrrrrrrrr! And feminine! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr! . DEEEAANG ~ ! Rules me out then ~ ! ~~ Well ~~ I AM feminine - 1 out of 3 good enough ~ ???? ~~ :lmao::laugh:
whichwayisup Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Don't go looking for it, it will find you when the timing is right. In the meantime, enjoy your freedom. Have fun, do what you want, when you want. Do hobbies that you enjoy (also a good way of meeting people), spend time with friends, family and ofcourse, your kids.
directx Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 I agree with whichway is up. Consider yourself a little luck that you can take advantage of your hobbies and interests and hopefully meet someone there. I also agree don't go looking for it as if its the only important thing in the world. There is always hope.
funkybassplayer Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 have you treid a dating site? I met a girl 35 3 kids, had a good relationship untill the issues came out, and then was not so great! if you go on a site, take your time, its all too easy to think you have an instant boyfreind! or in my case girlfreind. Stay away from people with too much baggage or ones that have just come out of a relationship, (they will be lots) as thats just bad news. you learn to suss out the good ones. But above all, dont look to someone else to make you feel whole. If you are, then maybe take a little time to be happy in yourself first, so you bring to the table, rather than take from it.
Author singlecanadianmom Posted August 2, 2007 Author Posted August 2, 2007 Thanks everyone. I know I need to work on me before I am truly ready for a healthy relationship, or I will just attract more of the same! The more of you that said that, the more it sinks in. Gunny, you are so blunt (read some of your other posts) but I like that you don't hesitate to tell it like it is! Tsuki... thanks for your story about your brother, love to hear that there are men out there who are happy with adult responsibility. I think what I really need to work on is my family stuff, which taught me that your spouse should be the center of your world and you should do everything to cater to them (Not Healthy!!! I know, but what I learned no less)
Gunny376 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Blunt! Blunt? Who me? That's what Marine Gunny's do Peaches! One thing for damn sure and certain! A Marine Gunny tells ya its raining, ya ain't got to worry if he's peeing on your leg!
Gunny376 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 DEEEAANG ~ ! Rules me out then ~ ! ~~ Well ~~ I AM feminine - 1 out of 3 good enough ~ ???? ~~ :lmao::laugh: Hey!!!!!! I didn't say I wasn't flexable ~ ! :lmao::laugh:
ilmw Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 the last 2 posts...:lmao::lmao: Someone sounds like they are getting frisky!
Gunny376 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 have you treid a dating site? Yea!!!!! Like "Sugardaddy.com" might as well roll in style!
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