amaysngrace Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 If your best friend's husband hits on you, do you take it as a compliment or an insult? I'd probably just be pissed off at him and sad for my friend.
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 I'd probably just be pissed off at him and sad for my friend. Would you tell her?
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 I call that courtesy sometimes or kindness or friendly but gosh to think every guy who smiles at me ...? By the way, nice g-string. Why thank-you. I thought it looked good against the grey, wrinkly leather of my butt. Are you hitting on me?
amaysngrace Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Would you tell her? No but I'd threaten him that if he didn't get his sh*t together I'd arrange to have his ass kicked.
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 Why thank-you. I thought it looked good against the grey, wrinkly leather of my butt. Are you hitting on me? Just smiling.
happiness2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 If your best friend's husband hits on you, do you take it as a compliment or an insult? Tell your husband what kind of friend he really has. This so called friend is trying to cause you problems and you need to nip it in the bud. He has no respect for you or your husband and believe me call a spade a spade.
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 Tell your husband what kind of friend he really has. This so called friend is trying to cause you problems and you need to nip it in the bud. He has no respect for you or your husband and believe me call a spade a spade. I'm sorry you mistunderstood. This was a while back and it was my girlfriend's new husband. But hey, maybe I will still tell my husband and nip him in the bud.
stillafool Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 My BF sister's h hit on me when I was single and I was terribly insulted. I couldn't understand why he would think I would do such a thing and told him how disgusted I was that he would disrespect me that way. Some guys are just slime!!!!!!!!
Love is Tragic Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Ive unfortunately been in the same situation several times. Ive had two of my husbands best friends ask me if i want to hook up with them behind my h's back. It sucks and it really put me on the spot, i was torn between telling my H and his best friends gf. I ended up telling my H but not his friends gf just for the simple fact that she is so in love with him she would never believe me, and the scumbag would turn it all on me. The one best friend has hit on me multiple times, and even though ive told H about those times, he acts like it doesnt bother him. I really dont understand why men could still carry on a friendship with someone who is adamantly hitting on his W. And not only has he tried to get with me, but my best friend as well. Weve decided if he does it again, we will confront him and tell his gf as well. We will also save the text messages he has sent us both as proof. We both told him we werent interested and that we had too much respect for our H's and our mutual friend(his gf) to do anything like that. I would tell your H's friend that if he hits on you one more time, you will tell your H and their friendship will be over. Tell him you will not tolerate any more of his advances. Even if he acts cold towards you when you do(thats what happened to me), thats his problem, not yours. In as sick way it is flattering to know that your H's friend finds you attractive, but it is too wrong for words for him to attempt to act upon it.
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 I have not seen or spoken to this particular friend in about 12 years. We lost touch. Here is another experience: I met this guy at a dance where I was competing. He was an incredible dancer and we were good together. But he wasn't my type even while he was a very attractive and nice guy. Well, two weeks later, he is dating my sister. They dated for a few months and he would come to our home to pick her up. I wasn't usually home in those days. One day I was and while she was in the room getting ready, I got caught in the family room with him. He immediately approached me to tell me that he wasn't intersted in my sister. That he was dating her just so he could see me. All of this said very respectfully and with obvious honesty. I reminded him he was in my home to pick up my sister and that even if I were interested in him now, there was no way I would do that to my sister. They broke up that weekend and I never saw him again.
Darth Vader Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Yes, it has happened to me. On my BF's wedding day, in the limo while she and my boyfriend weren't there. I felt insulted and sad for my friend. I couldn't bear to tell her. We lost touch but I did learn she had divorced him. But the question came to me as a result of a conversation with my closest cousin. She told me about this with such pride. I try to not be judgmental. I know she is a good person and to her, this is okay so long as she doesn't act on anything. Yes - insecure, husband alcoholic ... yadda, yadda ... Why do some women elevate themselves in a situation while others bring themselves down? Was this boyfriend before, or during your marriage, please bring me up to speed.
Darth Vader Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 HaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaYA! Frankly I have wanted to kick more vaginas than balls in my life but that's just me. How about your sister coming on to every guy you date? How about coming home to your apartment and finding the guy you spent the night before with now in bed with your sister? <there is a build up here I will spare you> Packed all of my belongings in a large plastic bag and left the apartment. Next day went to the bank and cancelled all checks made out for my half of the rent and utis. By the time I got to my parents home she had already called and told them she had kicked me out because I was bringing strange men over to the apartment and she didn't like that. @@ It may explain why whenever I get mad at her she step back about ten paces. I have kicked her rear on more than one ocassion. Only one of them involved the cops. Did you ever tell your parents what really happened about your sister?
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 Did you ever tell your parents what really happened about your sister? Sort of. My father was never around and wasn't interested in anything I had to say. I told my mother but Mom's response to things was always to play my sister's actions down. Honestly, at the time we were both quite young and they didn't know what was what. Also in all honesty, I was a ball of fire in those days. I first ran away when I was 15 after my dad dislocated my jaw during a "talk" I tried to have with him. He had only struck me once before that, when I was about five or six and he made me smell his belt before he whipped me with it. Mostly he ruled by fear. I have seen my oldest sister literally pee her pants in fear of him. I was every parents worst nightmare up until I was 18 or so. I joined the military when I was 20.
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 Was this boyfriend before, or during your marriage, please bring me up to speed. LOL, you make me feel younger than my days with your questions. Before marriage.
Darth Vader Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 LOL, you make me feel younger than my days with your questions. Before marriage. I wasn't trying to flatter you, DOWN, DOWN!
Author East of Jupiter Posted August 5, 2007 Author Posted August 5, 2007 I wasn't trying to flatter you, DOWN, DOWN! Darn! Back to feeling old and useless again. Yours is a dark heart Mr. Vader.
Darth Vader Posted August 5, 2007 Posted August 5, 2007 Darn! Back to feeling old and useless again. Yours is a dark heart Mr. Vader. I didn't mean to make you feel old! Now I know you're flattering me!
JustBreathe Posted August 9, 2007 Posted August 9, 2007 This just sickens me I'm a very loyal friend. I agree with the poster who said it makes you feel like they think you're a sl*t. Unfortunately, I think this is more common that people realize. I do not know why this happens, but I notice it's the jealous possessive controlilng types that do this the most and I wonder if it's because they WANT you to be grossed out so you won't come around. They want to be the only person in their's woman's life so they chase all her friends away by being jerks. Or maybe it's just that they are knuckle dragging types that only view women as sexual objects, outside of their wives who are like real estate, their property.
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