Tom725 Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 My girlfriend broke it off about three weeks ago. It was pretty damn painful. I hate to say it but I was a mess, freaking out calling her every 5 min. It is a Long dist relationship, but we moved pretty fast and were talking about marriage and all that. She always seemed unsure from time to time because she was afraid of being hurt, she is recently divorced....and I think she was just waiting to have something scare her into not believing the relationship would work....well after freaking for a few I stopped contact for 3 days...emailed her and she said she missed me but wishes things could have been slower...I said ok, but of course thats hard when you have strong feelings....she said she felt the same but always stayed in" protection" mode....now of course all this did for two weeks was get my anxiety all raging again, obsessive, freaking out again....now she is in full back off mode but says the feelings are there. I couldn't handle it anymore, so i told her if its not going to work then I need to move on cuz hanging by a thread is killing me. Did I make the right decision? Because it really feels like I didnt, but I just could take being in limbo anymore..should I just try to avoid any connection and move on? You know how its when your emotions overpower you.....Decisions are very hard to understand
Goodin Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 You should re-read your post and maybe you can see your problem. By calling her "every 5 minutes" you could have done nothing but push her away. Sounds like you were obsessive. If she wants space then give it to her, thats all you can do at this point. No begging will bring her back, it will only make her run. Concentrate on yourself at this point. Good luck - Goodin
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