MikeC Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 I'm not in a situation where I am upset that I have lost someone. I am in a situation where I want to see her so bad that it hurts. Time slows down, life loses color. When I'm with her, I feel as if I can breathe again. It sounds crazy, but never have I felt like this. So, when I leave her, it breaks my heart. After a few days without her, I can do nothing but think of being with her again. I know I have to have a life of my own, but all I want to do is share it with her. Grrr. Damn my emotions! It is funny. Whenever I call her and she doesn't answer or call back at all, I automatically assume the worst things. I realize she just might be busy with her own stuff, but all I can think about is not being with her. I guess I have security issues. It is just how I am. Loving her has made me realize how great life can be and I don't want to lose that (even though she is like head over heels for me). Like I said, I just think bad stupid things. Blah, vent....
UsernameRemoved Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Reading your post lets me know I'm not alone in this world. We've been together four years now and hurts to be without them. How long have you guys been together for now?
Jmina Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 you are so lucky in love.... be careful when you place your happiness in the relationship or in another person it is a good set up for heartbreak.... it puts too much strain on the other person and on your relationship.some relationships can handle it but some dont and cant.... its likely she knows your insecurites, so if you asked her if you ring her too much she would say "no i love it" but really she is thinking yes you are... but she doesnt know how to tell you because she knows you take it hard... dont just stop calling her out of the blue though just let her call you for once, let her miss you for once...she cant miss you if you are always calling or messaging her.. it hurts to be away from her now... but imagine if she wasnt yours anymore.. that hurts even more....like 50 times the pain.. do you call and msg each other 50/50? or is it more like your do all the calling and messaging first and she replies? seriously... i was in the same boat... and she was head over heels for me too...but shes only human and couldn only take so much.... only after the breakup when i was figuring out what went wrong i read "when you place your happiness in the relationship or in another person it is a good set up for heartbreak...." well how stupid did i feel. you dont have to take my advice... hey it might not be relevant, i dont know you or her or anything... but i know what happened to me and by reading your post.... i would like to warn you first!!! jmina. xoxo
raidsniffer Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 i wish i had advice like that for my last 2 relationships.... but then i wish i had a manual on girls too. so complicated. one minute she wants this next she wants that.. one minute she can't leave your side next she doesn't want to be by your side. maybe i've just been dealt bad cards. i tried that let her missing me thing and tried not to place my happiness on another person thing. backfired tho cause she said she couldn't trust me and a bunch of other fun stuff... some of their craziness rubbed off and made me a lil crazy from the turbulent relationships and all the yelling. eh builds character. i think time stopped for me and life lost so much color i can now declare myself color blind. some girls are just evil..
Jmina Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 well you cant just stop calling them or go out to make them jelous etc etc.. and you cant do it all at once either, do it slowly, otherwise it could have a totally different affect. you have to do it for yourself in the end, so you are stronger, so if you feel like your sending a msg one to many then dont send it... and i bet you have heard that voice in the back of your head that makes you doubt she will appreciate it as much as you want her to because youve already sent about 10 prior to it...
Author MikeC Posted August 4, 2007 Author Posted August 4, 2007 We have only been together 3 months. However, I was in a previous relationship (ended 1 month before I met this current girl), so I have picked up a bit of knowledge from that. Let me clarify. When I say that I call, I don't call that often. 1x a day isn't bad, is it? Or, she'll call me 1x or 2x. What really bothers me is how she makes me feel so amazing when we are together, only to have it all die when she leaves. I know this is a part of life, it just really really gets to me sometimes. We connect on such a deep level, I don't know what to do with myself sometimes when I'm all alone. I mean, I keep myself busy and goto work and whatnot. But, when I wake up and goto sleep everyday, she is on my damn mind! It has been the best 3 months of my life...
JCD Posted August 6, 2007 Posted August 6, 2007 She is suppose to be on your mind all the time. That's what those love hormones do to you when you're in love. When she's not with you, you feel the withdrawals symptoms just like drug addicts do. That's normal and everyone who has been in love feels the same way. These hormones make you elated so that anything else in the world doesn't matter as much. Once she breaks up with you, it takes a while for the hormones to stop kicking in and takes time for you to come down from cloud 9. My suggestion to you is to go with the flow. If you feel like calling 10x a day then call her 10x. Why? Because now you're in love and couple months from now you won't be calling her 10x but 2x and things will go back to reality once you dated her for couple of months. That's just my take on it.
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