SierraMarie Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 So in my last relationship, everything was really messed up. I cheated on him, he cheated on me. Well the last ( and final) time we broke up I got really mad and said some things that I did mean but I said them in a really mean way and I probably shouldn't have said them in that way or maybe not at all. He hung up on me. And that's the last time we talked. So should I really care if he hates me? In my opinion we both did equally bad things to each other. Should I call him and see if he hates me? Should I really even care? Or is this just some last desperate attempt to contact him? Thanks for any advice!
amaysngrace Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 I'm sorry you're taking this so hard. I'm not him so I can't say if I'd "hate" you, like you say. I would probably feel like crap though if someone I cared about treated me the way you have treated him. You seem to justify your cheating by mentioning he cheated too. That in itself tells me what kind of relationship you just got out of. Also you disrespected the guy by attacking him with words. Hmm...he may or may not "hate" you but he is probably relieved to be rid of you. Do the right thing now and let him go. You treated him bad. Quit contacting the guy and allow him to get over you.
Author SierraMarie Posted August 1, 2007 Author Posted August 1, 2007 I'm sorry you're taking this so hard. I'm not him so I can't say if I'd "hate" you, like you say. I would probably feel like crap though if someone I cared about treated me the way you have treated him. You seem to justify your cheating by mentioning he cheated too. That in itself tells me what kind of relationship you just got out of. Also you disrespected the guy by attacking him with words. Hmm...he may or may not "hate" you but he is probably relieved to be rid of you. Do the right thing now and let him go. You treated him bad. Quit contacting the guy and allow him to get over you. Thanks for your reply. I'm actually not really taking it that hard. I'm pretty much over it. The thing is, I know how bad I treated him and I just don't want him to hate me. It probably doesn't matter though, that's why I think I'm just wanting to find out so I can contact him for some reason and I probably shouldn't. I know it'll just be bad. I wasn't trying to justify my cheating by saying that he cheated too, I just wanted to describe how our relationship was and why I think he would hate me.
amaysngrace Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 Sometimes it's good if they hate you in the end. It helps to heal if you can get mad. And if he's really mad at you it'll make getting over you easier. In time he's going to think of the good things you guys shared. He won't always hate you. But for now you should just let him hate you. You haven't always thought about his feelings before doing what you did or saying what you said. Now's the time to make it up to him. Don't call him and stir things up. Go silently and keep going. It'd be the nice thing to do.
Author SierraMarie Posted August 1, 2007 Author Posted August 1, 2007 Sometimes it's good if they hate you in the end. It helps to heal if you can get mad. And if he's really mad at you it'll make getting over you easier. In time he's going to think of the good things you guys shared. He won't always hate you. But for now you should just let him hate you. You haven't always thought about his feelings before doing what you did or saying what you said. Now's the time to make it up to him. Don't call him and stir things up. Go silently and keep going. It'd be the nice thing to do. Thank you much! That was exactly what I needed to hear, although I really don't think he cared that much about me in the end anyway. He may have at one time. But, what you said was true. Thanks again.
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