gmark Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I have been lurking for the past three weeks while going nuts over a fling that looked like it was going to turn into something abruptly going away. I know that my loss is not what most of yours is, but I had not allowed myself to care for someone for a long time. That said I needed to put an end to this as it was getting in the way of my life. We are currently in a space thing and she is communicating in a very low key way, but I am not going to sit and wait for anyone to come around in spite of being very impressed with them. So here are the rules I made for myself. I hope you find them usefull. Things have a way of sinking out of the present if you leave them alone, like all the sexy emails from that six week fling with the cool girl last summer, not quite gone but you have to dig to the bottom of you gmail account for it. You have a lot of work to do in the months ahead. If and this is a big if, you should find yourself wanting to contact her at the end of next summer then do it. Just send her an email that says: I was just thinking of you and how I wish we would have become friends. Would you like to get a beer some afternoon? I would love to hear about your adventures in France. If for some reason she should decide to come around prior to that you need to make sure and guide it toward a friendship. You can not allow yourself to get emotionally involved with a girl that is going to cut and run on you with out warning when you are under stress. If, and you have better odds at the lotery than this, you find after MONTHS of being friends you feel like you are dating go slow. Beyond this get on with your life.
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