annabelle75 Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 ha yeah exactly! And did you notice how he seemed to be evaluating them less on personal characteristics then on how much they wanted him? Every question started with "tell me how you feel about me" and his eyes would get all wide the more they fawned and kissed his butt. He vetoed Jayanna because he perceived that she spoke against him, without even getting to the bottom of it. Amanda is definitely going to win. Did you see episode 7 where she tried to do the same to Jen by telling him she kissed him and told all of them. Jen was dumb to tell those girls anything, even though she thought she was psyching them out. Can you imagine what it is like for Amanda to watch the show now and see how needy and pathetic she acted? I hope it makes her skin crawl. I also wonder how Mark feels now knowing how she manipulated there.
Lizzie60 Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 The thing is none of these people seem to go on and marry except for Trista and Ryan. They end up breaking up after the show is over and they get their winnings. As for me I like younger guys also. My husband is 7 years younger than me. hey Lizzie60, what did you mean when you said you could tell a guy was using Viagra? My friend told me her boyfriend (in his 50's) uses it and she says a Viagra hard-on feels different than a real one? Is this true? I didn't feel any difference... but this guy was older than me... about 57 I think... he had ED at first... when we met... he didn't have the stamina I had... LOL... anyway not too long after he would plan to see me... then would come home... had a huge erection... and it would last and last and last... ha-hem... and I think he once mentioned something about Viagra but I didn't respond to that.
electric_sheep Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 I love to read Vonnegut and Murakami! Too bad I am not 18 and bubble-butted. Ohh spookie, I just looked at your profile, and you're perfect!
electric_sheep Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 Well, I'm only 21 and I don't that much experience with dating, but I know I want someone who's had enough time to sow all his wild oats; someone old enough to know what he's looking for but young enough to have approximately the same life expectancy I do. I think you should hang out with my girlfriend and I. We'll make it a team effort! You seem cool, smart, and sassy, and my gf very much likes girls so nobody should ever get bored. I might not make it as long as you, but my gf is about your age, so that would be perfect!
burning 4 revenge Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 My fantasy girlfriend is an 18 yo geeky violin player straight out of Catholic high school who aced the SAT's and took AP physics her senior year. She may be Japanese, but she will have a black girls butt, and she will love to read Kurt Vonnegut and Murakami. One of us will win the lottery and we will promptly move to the south of France where we will lounge naked under umbrellas made of palm fronds on the white sand beaches much of the year. That's when we are not riding our white horses up and down the beach, or playing chess with Pablo Picasso's great grandson (who happens to live next door). He'll be a sinewy and swarthy young fella with curly blonde hair and my True Love and I may ask him to play naked games with us every now and then. WTF? I was with you until the last sentence
Yamaha Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Age Is Only A Number!!! Age does not matter if you're just looking for sex but it is important if you're looking for a relationship.
LN99 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 When I was younger, I stuck to guys around my age or slightly older. But for some reason this past yr(I'm 25), I found a guy who is 9 yrs older very attractive. In the past i wouldn't have thought twice of someone that much older, but there was just something about him. He acted younger then he was and I have been told I act pretty mature for my age. I realize now that a bit older might not be such a bad thing. Guys at that age are more established. I've noticed now that a lot of guys my age don't have their sh*t together.
fatal2myself Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Age does not matter if you're just looking for sex but it is important if you're looking for a relationship. age shouldn't matter in any type of relationship! all that matters is you're feelings for each other!! look back in the colonial days. women back then would marry men twice their age, and it was never looked down upon. now a girl in her 20's marries a guy in his 30's and our whole society freaks out! personally, i think we're getting more close-minded by the minute.
mental_traveller Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 It is crazy! I've got 26 year old guys all over me, and can't get a sensible word out of the guys in their 40s. Younger guys tend to gravitate towards older women and the older men want young, young girls. You have to be kidding. Whilst a few younger men go for noticeably older women, it is definitely the exception. How many 50 year old women do you see with 30 year old guys, only a few (who usually look younger)? Normally if a younger guy is with an older woman, it's because he wants some no strings sex without having to be nagged about kids or living together/marrying, and can't find someone younger and hotter with that type of chilled out attitude. Not having any chance of your fling getting pregnant is a *major* bonus for some guy who just wants to play the field. I mean if some 45 year old hottie is up for no strings sex, and I didn't currently have a gf, I'd go for it. But if I met someone hot and 25, with the same personality, then Mrs Robinson would get the boot. And I don't even want kids, which would immediately disqualify anyone over about 40.
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 actually... Some stats: The unions of older women and younger men are becoming more commonplace. According to the 1980 U.S. Census, one out of every 10 marriages in the country involved older women and younger men. Bureau officials say the new Census figures are expected to show an increase in these marriages. According to the National Center For Health Statistics, 23.5 percent of brides in 1988 were older than their grooms, up from 18.5 percent in 1978. Years ago, many women married for social status and financial security, and that often translated into marrying older, more established mates. But today, many career-oriented women are not necessarily looking for men to take care of them. Winter tells WebMD that she and her co-author interviewed more than 200 couples for their book. Though hardly a scientific study, the research surfaced three myths such couples hear every time: Myth No. 1 - "He will leave you for a younger woman." Winter says they did not find one younger man who did this, at least for a specific woman and because she was younger. "In some cases, the man wanted children," she says, "and the relationship fell apart because of that." Myth No. 2 - "The woman was the seducer -- Mrs. Robinson." In all 200 cases, Winter says it was the man who initiated the contact. Myth No. 3 -"It will never last." Winter said some of the couples they met had been together 25 year or more. The average length of the relationships was 13 years. Hey... I'm 55 and my oldest is 46... my youngest is 23 and I should say that I had more dates with guys in their 20s-early 30s than any other age. So it's not uncommon... and like the myth said...except for one time... they always initiated the contact first... they hit on me... not the other way around...
VIP Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 my youngest is 23 and I should say that I had more dates with guys in their 20s-early 30s than any other age. Did any men in that age group propose to you or wanted to have a serious long-term relationship?
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 my youngest is 23 and I should say that I had more dates with guys in their 20s-early 30s than any other age. Did any men in that age group propose to you or wanted to have a serious long-term relationship? Yes a few wanted a long-term serious relationship... I dated one for over a year, he was 21 years younger, still in University... we were like a normal dating couple... Another one for over 2 years... he was also 20 years younger... with this one...it was even more serious... I dumped him... but he keep calling... he called back about a month ago... He is one of the most beautiful guy I've seen so far. One I am currently seeing, he's 23 and so far he's the only one who really wants to move with me... he asks me every time we get together... He is waaay more mature that a lot of guys I've seen so far. But they all know, from the start that it is just 'fun'... no matter what age they are. I'm straight forward about it.... NO commitment... I don't want to be bothered with a man in MY house... period. Plus why would I settle for one.. when I can have sooo many? LOL that would be ridiculous... I was in 2 monogamous relationships most of my life... so no more of that thank you. I want to enjoy my freedom now.
shadowplay Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 my youngest is 23 and I should say that I had more dates with guys in their 20s-early 30s than any other age. Yes a few wanted a long-term serious relationship... I dated one for over a year, he was 21 years younger, still in University... we were like a normal dating couple... Another one for over 2 years... he was also 20 years younger... with this one...it was even more serious... I dumped him... but he keep calling... he called back about a month ago... He is one of the most beautiful guy I've seen so far. One I am currently seeing, he's 23 and so far he's the only one who really wants to move with me... he asks me every time we get together... He is waaay more mature that a lot of guys I've seen so far. But they all know, from the start that it is just 'fun'... no matter what age they are. I'm straight forward about it.... NO commitment... I don't want to be bothered with a man in MY house... period. Plus why would I settle for one.. when I can have sooo many? LOL that would be ridiculous... I was in 2 monogamous relationships most of my life... so no more of that thank you. I want to enjoy my freedom now. Out of curiosity how did you meet these much younger men and how did they ask you out?
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Out of curiosity how did you meet these much younger men and how did they ask you out? online... or phone chat lines... and some in public places... on public transit... some on vacation (a few actually)... in a restaurant... they're everywhere. How did they ask me out?... like every man asks someone out... age doesn't make any difference...
shadowplay Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 online... or phone chat lines... and some in public places... on public transit... some on vacation (a few actually)... in a restaurant... they're everywhere. How did they ask me out?... like every man asks someone out... age doesn't make any difference... the guys you met online already knew your age I'm assuming so they were down with that before they met you, right? Were the younger guys you've dated into being mothered at all? Did they generally have a preference for older women or were you an exception? Sorry to harangue you, I just find this very interesting and refreshing. Makes me feel better about getting older.
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 the guys you met online already knew your age I'm assuming so they were down with that before they met you, right? Were the younger guys you've dated into being mothered at all? Did they generally have a preference for older women or were you an exception? Sorry to harangue you, I just find this very interesting and refreshing. Makes me feel better about getting older. The ones I met online knew my age... they said they had a good 'vibe' they liked me... in some cases, we exchanged pictures... so we had a good idea who we were meeting. No, for the being 'mothered' no...it wasn't the case...well I didn't get that feeling anyway... to be honest I didn't feel the age gap at all. Most had a preference for older women... most of them already had an experience with an older women... I just remembered another one... just now... a young Italian ... he was over 20 yrs younger too... we dated for a little while and he also send me emails once in a while...but I never answer them. In some cases, I was the first older woman they've been with.... (like the ones I met on vacation, it was their first experience). The only one that never asked me for my real age, was the one I am currently seeing.... I told him only a few weeks ago... I am the same age as his mom... 55... LOL He thought I was much younger... he says he doesn't like to think that I am the same age as his mother...LOL. They usually don't like the 'association' LOL Same thing with the guys I met on vacation... they didn't want to know my real age... they just didn't want to know...
shadowplay Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Lizzie60: You're an inspiration! It's weird when I was younger I tended to prefer older guys but now I find myself dating younger more often. The last three guys I dated were younger ranging from a few months to four years. I'm only 23, but I find younger guys more attractive because they tend to be more innocent in a good way and less jaded/hardened.
daphne Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 I'm 37 and have normally turned down guys who were younger (by 4 years or more) until I hit about 33 . That's because the only guys who asked me out were younger, average age of around 27. From their guesses, I look about 25 so I guess that's why a lot of guys my age won't ask me out. Not sure. I do know that I'm not a huge fan of dating 20 year olds because they're not particularly mature or ready for a stable relationship, which I am. At the same time, it's tough to date a guy in his 40's because he often looks like he could be my dad or at least my sugar daddy and he's generally not remotely as physically as attractive as the 20 year olds. So I'm just screwed.
IpAncA Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Hmm....what does it mean if the guy is in this 30s and the girl is 25? I guess all ages have their good sides... I have been with really young guys... they were amazing lovers, with lots of stamina...in some cases, waaayyy too much... they were killing me... LOL Also some really young guys were coming too fast, but they were also ready to start all over again and again... some were kind of 'selfish' lovers, probably the lack of experience... LOL The older ones I've been with were the complete opposite... had ED, one was taking Viagra... he never told me directly but I knew... My best lovers are 37, one is 41... they are the best! But I have to say that my current MM is amazing and he's 46. Well I guess I had great lovers of all ages... LOL You got me to laugh out loud on that one.
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Lizzie60: You're an inspiration! It's weird when I was younger I tended to prefer older guys but now I find myself dating younger more often. The last three guys I dated were younger ranging from a few months to four years. I'm only 23, but I find younger guys more attractive because they tend to be more innocent in a good way and less jaded/hardened. You know what... I was like you when I was younger... at 15 I started to have sex with this MM.. he was 26 then... he actually became my first 'ex' then after 27 years with him 18 years living common-law .. I left him... and I had my first encounter with a much younger guy at age 45.. he was 27... it was amazing.. then less than a year after I met my second ex.. who was 12 years younger, I lived with him 5 years... and from then on... I only wanted to date younger men... but I actually only started that 10 years ago... and it seems that the more I get older the younger the guys get... LOL... I had many 'flings' with early 20s since I hit 50... hummm... maybe at 70 I will still get nice early 30s... hahahaha who knows? with all the cosmetic surgery these days... LOL
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