Jdancer21 Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 Ok, here's the thing, There's is this guy I met at a hangout that I used to go to. He asked me out to dinner and things and we both had a good time. I felt a connection and felt that something could come out of it b/c we had alot in common in terms of music and movies and hobbies like that. 2 days later we are hanging out again with his friends and we just go to the bar or something, we're holding hands and kissing a little bit.. nothing too slutty, I don't think I really put myself out there like that. He's been a man of his word the whole time since we've met, he took me out to dinner, he asked me when I would be at my work and I told him and he came to see me. He responds to my text and called back.. that is until yesterday..... I sent him a text message and 8 hours later I still didn't hear anything from him and called him to tell him when to come on by and left a message.and it's now a new day and I've heard nothing from him and i'm ****ing scared right now... because i've been trying to think to myself, what did I do wrong? What did I say? The last phone conversation was about how our day was and I invited him to my apartment... Didn't say I would cook, or come over let's **** just a friendly "you should come by". I've been thinking to myself... did I put myself out there too early by kissing him a couple of times? Couldn't have, because if that was the case I would've been long gone. There have been times when i've done more than just kiss a guy and that was that. This didn't happen. Then I think to myself, I know tons of guys who were into me but for some odd reason won't answer their phone or respond to messages... hell one of my good friends, granted he is dumb as rocks, doesn't respond worth a ****... we still talk and hang out. Also bear in mind, he came on to me first. I guess what i'm trying to imply is that I think it's tooo early and I just hope that for some odd reason he can't find his phone, or he's THAT busy. I don't know anymore Did I do something wrong? I'm really scared right now...
VIP Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I think it's better not to call or write to the man. It's better if he does all the calling and writing himself. This way you will know for sure that he is interested.
VIP Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I know tons of guys who were into me but for some odd reason won't answer their phone or respond to messages... Did I do something wrong? I'm really scared right now... I think you project yourself as being needy. You assume too early in the relationship, that he is very interested in you and you don't give him a chance to prove that to you.
jcster Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 It's just a day. Did you guys have plans? If not, then chill out! You haven't known each other long enough to need to talk every day!
Author Jdancer21 Posted July 31, 2007 Author Posted July 31, 2007 It's just a day. Did you guys have plans? If not, then chill out! You haven't known each other long enough to need to talk every day! We had plans... that was for him to come by on Thursday. However, thursday is kind of ****ty for me and i need to let him know that i would prefer tommorow... if that was possible. So it's not like he screwed me over or anything.
LuminousZ Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I just hope that for some odd reason he can't find his phone, or he's THAT busy. I don't know anymore Did I do something wrong? I'm really scared right now... No need to be scared.., its possible he misplaced his phone.., or the battery died - that happens all the time. Also, Are you sure he has the text feature set up? Not every body is into that, I know I don't pay for that nonsense! Take some deep breaths.., It will all randomly work out!
Author Jdancer21 Posted July 31, 2007 Author Posted July 31, 2007 No need to be scared.., its possible he misplaced his phone.., or the battery died - that happens all the time. Also, Are you sure he has the text feature set up? Not every body is into that, I know I don't pay for that nonsense! Take some deep breaths.., It will all randomly work out! *deep breath* I talked to my sister about this, she told me to wait it out. As for text messages, the last time I checked he had that feature. That's how we contacted mostly... he didn't say he was planning to undo that.. however it's his phone and is none of my business. .. What i'm arguing with myself and what my sister told me is that it's too early for me to have done something and it's too early to know what kind of guy he is... but i've had another revaltion... I met him through a friend... well... mutual bar friend i guess you could call him... for the hell of it and b/c I need we're gunna call my mutal friend Jo and the other guy... Bob (hmmm... lol). ANYWAY Jo introduced me to bob, so of course i've known jo longer. So when bob asked me out i'm pretty sure that Jo knew.... if I was annoying or a bad character Jo would've point blank have said something to him... it's too early... Ok.. I think what I need right now is to be with friends...
sunkissedx Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 i'm kinda in the same situation. kinda. it seems pretty needy, but i go CRAZY when he doesnt answer my text. im like what did i do? is it me? so then im just like ughh and i don't know what to do. does he not want to talk to me anymore, or is he just busy and not at his phone? so just wait for like one more day. if he doesn't call/text back, just send a casual text message to your *whole phonebook* being like "hey, whatsup?" or something.
roxy_1980 Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 I think that you are just expecting a little too much out of this guy. He doesn't answer his phone once (I'm not counting the second one cause they were only a few hours apart) and you think the world is going to end. RELAX! Your constant contact thing will drive him away if you don't let up. The realtionship just started and it could be perceived by him that you are clingy and are trying to keep tabs on him if you're not careful. He'll call back. And if he doesn't, there are others.
Author Jdancer21 Posted August 1, 2007 Author Posted August 1, 2007 Today he sent me a text, apologising for not getting in touch with me... ...now if you'll exucse me, i'm going to hide in nereast corner and thank god I did leave him a voice mail saying "I hope you find the person you want since I obviosuly wasn't it.. have a nice ***ing life"
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