waitingwaitingonyou Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 Here is the gist of things! Been dating this girl for 6 months. Everything is great when we are together. It is just when we are apart (we live 6 hours from each other), it seems like she doesnt even give a crap about me. She only calls when it suits her. I feel like she is doing things behind my back. Talking to other guys, chating with other guys on facebook, and chating with other guys on msn. Personally I do not want a girl that is going to cheat on me and play these games. When I am at her house it is a different story. We talk, hang out, we argue of course but who doesnt. I just want all these games to stop! I am sick of it. As of right now I feel like I am there hand and foot for her. But DO you think that it has to change? Should I try to distance myself from her and just play it by ear.
Lizzie60 Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I am like her... so if the guys don't like it... tough! She likes you but is not 'in love' with you... If you can't deal with an independant woman... move on sweetie... Just my 2 cents.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted July 31, 2007 Author Posted July 31, 2007 ok.... that didnt anwser my question but thanks anyways
Lizzie60 Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 answer your question: can't deal with an independant woman.... move on... simple.
frezzle Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I definitley think you shouldn't be waiting on her hand and foot. Think that she may well behave like this becuase you are there for her. I am in a similar situation, except don't think he's getting it on with anyone else but who knows? (Incidently, why do you think this is the case with her? Has she told you about anything?) I feel I am quite responsible for his behaviour, I've let him get away with this kind of stuff, so need to accept I've made a mistake by doing that. I suggest you pop onto facebook, or wherever and look for someone a bit more straightforward. You never know, she may just buck her ideas up a bit.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted July 31, 2007 Author Posted July 31, 2007 I have brought it up with her. I really dont think she is doing anything behind my back. It is just her lack of intrest when I am not around her. She really doesnt care when I am not around. For example now. This summer I was there for 2 months. I am a teacher so I have lots of days off! I have facebook and she a picture of me and her up there so I doubt there is anyone on there that she is seeing. I just feel like she is not putting everything in to the relationship like I am! She is coming down here in a couple of days. So we will see what happens. I am just going to take a step back and see what happens. If it doesnt work then it is not meant to be! thanks for the advice frezzle!
Hazy Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 Hey watch out with having a Facebook account if you are a teacher, don't announce your personal life or ANYTHING which could be seen as inappropriate. There was a woman who was recently denied a teaching certificate for having a Holloween photo of her dressed as a pirate and drinking out of a plastic cup with the caption "Drunken Pirate". Anyhoo....I think she may be taking it easier and because of the distance is more casual about the relationship whereas you are more invested in the relationship and perhaps see it as more serious than she does. You are not on the same page.
jcster Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 Well, it's a pretty long distance relationship. I imagine she has her own life going on when she's not with you. It just can't be as serious as you seem to want it to be - you don't have enough time together for it to become serious. You say you "feel" that she's chatting with other guys. Do you have any proof of this? You sound very insecure about the relationship, especially when she's not with you - maybe it's coming out in your phone conversations and so she doesn't want to call you.
daphne Posted August 1, 2007 Posted August 1, 2007 Waiting, If you've spoken to her about it and nothing has changed, I think you're going to have to be realistic. You already know that the interest level, after 6 months, simply isn't there. I was in her shoes to a certain extent with my boyfriend. Although We did spend a lot more time together and initially I did give it a shot to see where it headed. I lost interest as he wasn't what I was looking for exactly. I liked him a lot, but couldn't see myself at the home stretch with him. My past dating experience was that he traveled a lot, and although he initially made a huge effort to see me, talk to me and spend time with me, his interest level took a nose dive. It was like being in a long term relationship. It wasn't really what I was looking for, and he didn't tell me up front. I decided that it wasn't for me. I want something a lot better than that. You should want something better for yourself, as well.
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