number2 Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 well its been almost 2 months since i broke up with my girlfriend that i lived with for about a year and a half. we were very close until she started ignorning me physically. things began to go downhill until i could take her out and have a good time and when we got home, it would still just feel like we were good friends, and thats all. i couldnt take living far from home when the person i loved would ignore her own intimacy problems. we both loved each other when i left, but it just wasnt working out. i still miss her a lot, ive thought about just showing up to her place many times and trying to rekindle what we USED to have, but i always reason it out in my mind and i stray away from it. i find myself looking at her myspace a lot, and i still think of her very much. i dont know if she does to me, but since weve broken up shes added new pictures of her and seems to be flaunting off the new single status. more power to her, i hope she finds whatever makes her happy, but it hurts none the less. how have you guys stopped yourselves from finding outlets to dwell on (such as facebook/myspace). i honestly think to myself, why am i doing this? every time i look at her pictures, but i find myself going back for me. it pleases me and hurts me every time i see her pictures. i desperately want to move on, she was my BEST FRIEND and even though we were physically engaged in intimate matters in the beginning, she had problems that she didnt want to fix (even though she promised she would try) and i had to break it off for both of our own good. i know there is no going back, i want to move on, but im finding it very difficult. anybody have some advice? its been a really tough day
9Lives Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I think it is a really bad idea to keep looking at her pictures. You need to stop that cause you cant move on that way. Unfortunately, you have to get to the point that you accept it and try to move on. That is tough. I lost my boyfriend I just was so crazy about...it has only been 1 week and a couple of days so I know what you are going thru. I do alot of crying when the pain is too much thru the day and that is how I deal with it. I am crying now but I have so many other positive things happening that I have to push thru the pain of this lost. First time getting my heart broken.
BeyondThePale Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I know exactly what you mean. I have had to stop looking at my ex's myspace page, pictures of the person I was left for and her make me want to vomit. Hang in there, it really does get better. It's been two months since I was dumped and there are good days and bad days. Try writing in a journal or calling a friend when you want to look at her facebook/myspace page or want to call her. It really does help. I know intimacy is important in a relationship but some people just never seem to click physically and it's not something that can be forced. I hope you get to feeling better soon.
Author number2 Posted August 1, 2007 Author Posted August 1, 2007 thank you for the replys, intimacy never was a problem at the beginning. all of her past relationships have ended with a "dry out" of sorts where her and her ex boyfriends just kind of drift away from each other. i suspect shes always had intimacy problems after the 1st year and thats the reason for her failed relationships in the past. its very hard though because we were such good friends. i realize that i shouldnt beat myself up over it, but it hurts to know that the only thing missing from a great relationship was the physical part. i wont go into details but i tried EVERYTHING to get her to go back to how she was in the beginning, but to no avail of course. i guess the part thats the worst is how i know shell just move onto another relationship right away. im sure it'll turn out like all the rest unless she resolves her problems but it doesnt help my situation anyways, thanks again for the replys.
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