NickJames Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Hello all, this is my first time posting in this forum so bear with me. I consider myself to be a nice normal guy. I dated a woman for 13 months. Times were good and times were bad. No cheating or any nasty things like that. My grandfather passed away in the middle of May, and we got into a fight and I broke it off. I walked away like I was Joe Hardass and really never looked back. She told me many times in the relationship that she loved me, but I felt it was too early to tell her that. And I don’t know if I ever felt that way. After we split, I felt depressed, so I started to see a therapist once a week. I completely changed as a person for the better in my opinion. I called her on July 18th because my heart and feelings were as follows. I called her and told her that through the guidance of a therapist and evaluating my life, I really still care about her, love her and would one day like to marry her. I admitted my faults and told her that I changed and I was completely in the worng. She told me that she was dating a guy now, for probably a month and said she was happy. I told her alright, but if you really are happy and you se no future for us at all, I will accept that and move on. Well, she called me all the time, talked to her for many hours and had good conversation about the past and us. She would send me links to wedding rings and homes, and I felt things were going well. She would even complain that this new guy irritates her. She asked me that if we did get back together if they could remain friends, and I said sure that’s ok. She sat him down last Wednesday and told him some things, what I am not sure of. But ever since then, she has been different. She said she wanted to not get hut again, but thought it was unfair to hurt him. My guess is that she discussed it with him, he refused to want to stay friends and the like. Well, today she told me that she is staying with him. I accept this. But I find it so strange that it seemed like she was coming back little by little and then today it just came to this. I know that she does not want to get hurt again, but at the same time, if she felt that there was nothing there, she would not have been calling me like she said. I guess I deserve that, because it is true I did hurt her, but I doubt that in that month, she has had full closure, but whatever that is not my business. I accept the fact that this is done, but my co worker who is a woman, says she does not buy it. She said that she is still confused and does not want to be the bitch by hurting this guy and risk potentially getting hurt by me again. I guess I do not know what to think. I know it’s done, but my co worker said that she will be back, just from those actions alone. I am hurt, but not that bad, I guess it puts closure to everything, but it still sucks nonetheless. I guess the whole situation confused me over the past few weeks, and I wish that I would have seen these things while we were together because I realized that after we were gone that I did truly love her. Ah well, thanks for letting me vent, sorry for the long first post. -Nick
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