alexa137 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 my bf left me and moved out last night and its so painful you just cant imagine bcause i am pregnant(not gonna get into it) just gonna say that he wanted me pregnant and now i am and he left me how can men be so damn cold and inconsiderate? the hurt is ridiculous i have become this bitter, scorned bitch! i cry all day long everywhere and i treat everyone like dirt! he wants me to get an abortion i sort of do too just neither one of us has $400 i want to hurt him back!
a4a Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 my bf left me and moved out last night and its so painful you just cant imagine bcause i am pregnant(not gonna get into it) just gonna say that he wanted me pregnant and now i am and he left me how can men be so damn cold and inconsiderate? the hurt is ridiculous i have become this bitter, scorned bitch! i cry all day long everywhere and i treat everyone like dirt! he wants me to get an abortion i sort of do too just neither one of us has $400 i want to hurt him back! $400? Well that is chump change compared to what the child will cost you. Why do you want to hurt him back? What is that going to do for you in the long term? Look at the big picture here. My guess is he is in love with this other woman and there is nothing you can do about that. If you want him back (which you likely do) seeking revenge will not accomplish that.
Author alexa137 Posted July 30, 2007 Author Posted July 30, 2007 he better not be! i dont know how you see that?? weve been together almost 1 1/2 years and we have lived together more than a year--when he caught me spying and checking up on him bcause we were having problems i found out he was with some 16 yr old slut! it took him awhile but he finally confessed end of may-he was driving eratically and broke his phone and it was drama-when he asked me"are you leaving me?" and i said yes that i was he went ballistic-saying youre leaving me you cant leave me i need you i'm sorry i will never do it again i will marry you right now! and punched his stereo and alot more drama- the other slut has a boyfriend- i will never really know what really happened but i know he loves me and cares hes just young and doesnt know what he wants he tells me he doesnt want me to act like his mother-hes always telling me act like my girlfriend not my mother but its hard i am so insecure and now dont trust him so i am always accusing him- last time i talked to her about a month ago she said she wasnt talking to him anymore--i dont know i dont call her anymore bcause shes so dumb! he gets so mad when i bring her up-like yesterday-when i asked if her baby could be his--he gets mad-i made a comment like so did you use condoms with her? i dont get any answers he just says :here we go, i dont like talking about this" well either do i but sometimes i need to know!
a4a Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 I see that because he is young. And obviously both of you are. It is time to grow up and think about this baby instead of a boyfriend that won't be around much longer. A year isn't long at all. It is nothing. People that are married for 20 years with established R's break up..... some are in love with other people. Would a guy in love pack up and leave?
Author alexa137 Posted July 30, 2007 Author Posted July 30, 2007 i just cant let go its to hard- i cry and cry and cry we just spoke and he was being mean i am just trying to understand or for him to explain what is going on he says he cant live with me and its my choice for the abortion and that i would only have the baby to keep him and thats not true i only wanted us to be a family etc i dont really want the baby he wanted it he says he cant deal with my **** about questioning him yeah i know its wrong but i am insecure i asked him if he wants me to leave him alone and no answer i dont know how to go on--if i want pregnant it wouldnt bother me as much but that makes is so much worse and so much harder to deal with bcause i am stuck! i dont have the money for the abortion and he doesnt either and he says adoption is out of the question that i couldnt do it without his permission i just want to crawl in a hole and die-dont want to see or talk to no one! i cant deal with this!
frd150 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 my bf left me and moved out last night and its so painful you just cant imagine bcause i am pregnant(not gonna get into it) just gonna say that he wanted me pregnant and now i am and he left me how can men be so damn cold and inconsiderate? the hurt is ridiculous i have become this bitter, scorned bitch! i cry all day long everywhere and i treat everyone like dirt! he wants me to get an abortion i sort of do too just neither one of us has $400 i want to hurt him back! Alexa, Sorry your going thru this. I know its hard to fathom right now but not all men are like this. Some of us could never ever think of doing something like this. Man, stuff like this pi*se* me off. He sounds like a selfish bas**rd to me and not worthy of your misery. Yeah, I know easire said than done. I know what it is like to be left in the dust out of nowhere so in that I can relate. As far as the pregnancy I cannot advise. You yourself will have to make a concious decision on what to do but it may be a bit to soon to make hasty decisions. Keep coming here there are alot of wise people. Oh, and lean on those around you. Do not push them away cuz being alone su*ks. Trust me.
Author alexa137 Posted July 31, 2007 Author Posted July 31, 2007 well things got worse yesterday--he came by to get more stuff he left and starting arguing pushed me around a little then ended up having sex and starting bleeding so i ithink i was hving a miscarriage-went to ER but was an 8-9 wait--he called a few times--i know he cares and loves me but just gets tired of being questioned and accussed--which is so hard ive tried and asked for a second chance but hes giving up on me it hurts so much well things happen for a reason--but i do think that all the arguing and crying and pushing m around could have been avoided and i dont know if thats what caused me to start bleeding etc--i will find out today if i go to doctors office
Goodin Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 Hi Alexa - It sounds like your man is emotionally and physically abusive based on what you have describe. I would suggest that you STAY AWAY FROM HIM. Find a good support group - family, friends, whatever to help you get through this. The way he treats you is not healthy, you do not have to put up with it, and you should get out immediately. Now as for the pregnancy, it is common to have spotting or short spells of bleeding, but you also might have miscarried, or maybe not really been pregnant at all? A doctor visit with a test is a good idea. You should also consider getting tested for STD's while you are at it. Did I understand you right? Did you say the 16 year old girl he is running around with is pregnant too?
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