lonelylady15 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 im totally new to this, so dont really no how much detail to go into, so here goes.... so there was this guy and we were dating on off for nearly a year and a half, but it never got totally serious and i got to the stage where i didnt want to muck around anymore, coz it was just not good for me emotionally - it hurt too bad wen he didnt call or text. so i ended stuff in early may, to have him tell me that actually he did want to be together and that he seriosuly liked me and wanted me, but i sed it was too late coz if he screwed up this time i wudnt want anything to do with him (total lie but was meant to scare him into action). so obviously he mucked up again, right in the middle of my final year exams as well which was ****, so i kept to my word and didnt want anything from him. for the rest of the semester, everytime i saw him i wud get a barrage of text messages begging me to talk to him, apologising for everything and telling me how much he missed me but i refused to talk and everything coz i didnt want stuff to go back to how it was. then i go abroad for a month on a charity project and log onto the computer to find a message from a girl who i no he is frends with, and who has been in love with him for the kast 2 years, telling me they are toegther now and to stay away - total news to me and obviously i was devastated!!! the thing is i no i rejected him and everything and he has every right to jump into a relationship with her (something that upsets me i think coz he never seemed to really want it with me), but i saw him out last week and he was acting like everything was the same as it always has been, then has invited me to his house by both text and msn and initiated a very suggestive msn conversation, all the while knowing that i know about his gf!!! i want to get over the guy but i just dont no how wen hes still trying it on and isnt just leaving me alone. i feel pissed off that he jumped into this relationship so quickly, having been literally a week previously still begging me to get back with him - wat happened and how do i stop feeling like utter crap over someone who is clearly not a good person??!! and why did he have to start dating her so soon - can feelings really just change so much in the space of 3 weeks??!! i hate that i feel like this, but i just wanna no, does he still acre for me at all and if he doesnt how do i get over him - ive never felt like this before :-(
uniqueone Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 log onto the computer to find a message from a girl who i no he is frends with telling me they are toegther now and to stay away - total news to me and obviously i was devastated!!! the thing is i no i rejected him and everything and he has every right to jump into a relationship with her (something that upsets me i think coz he never seemed to really want it with me), Who says he's really having a relationship with her? i feel pissed off that he jumped into this relationship so quickly, having been literally a week previously still begging me to get back with him - wat happened and how do i stop feeling like utter crap over someone who is clearly not a good person??!! and why did he have to start dating her so soon - can feelings really just change so much in the space of 3 weeks??!! He sounds like he can't be alone....wouldn't take it personally.
Desperation Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 It could be a ploy, if a very complicated one, to try to make you jealous. It is partially your fault, as you broke it off with him and practically ignored him from that point on. If he's having suggestive conversations with you via internet, or any other means, you're falling for it again. Not to say that's a bad thing, just his methods are questionable. If he likes you enough to make a plan that complicated to get you back, he's worth some of your time.
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