buzzie2 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 There is this guy from my workplace who I have known and kept a secret from the other ladies that he has a real crush on me. I like him back but I'm shy and so is he so neither of us has made a move. That's good because he just got out of a long term relationship and so have I, so we can just let love take it's time. Anyway, this guy is quite popular with the other ladies at the store I work at, especially the older ones. There is this one lady that works in customer service and I know she has the hots for him because I used to see her flirt with him. Well this lady used to be nice to me until about two weeks ago. What happened is that I needed her to call the manager on that night (which was him), and then he came to help me with a difficult customer. He really went out of his way for me and even came up to me at the end of the night to make sure I was okay. Well I think that this lady may have picked up something in the tone of his voice when she called him, because she had to tell him spefically to help me in my department. Now she gives me eye rolls, evil stares, or doesnt look at me at all. She used to be nice to me. I'm pretty sure her drastic attitude change is due to the fact that somehow (woman have intuition) she found out that he has feelings for me. We have worked together for 2 years and she had always been nice up until that night. What advice can you guys give me for how to act around her when she's being snotty?
LN99 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 I think your reading too far into this. In fact, she could have just been having a bad day (we all have those from time to time) and she might have just taken it out on you. Or maybe something else you did annoyed her? Maybe she senses YOUR crush on him. Who knows? I mean, afterall, your manager was just DOING HIS JOB by coming by to help you with a difficult situation. Or maybe she sees the flirt he is with OTHER people other then her. Maybe she was disappointed cuz she thought(like you) that he had a thing for her. Either way, don't assume anything until you know for sure. As for future encounters with her, keep your feelings for him well hidden to avoid any future problems. As for how he acts, you cannot control that. I think it would be very unprofessional of your manager to act on any of his feelings he has for you.(if he has them.) I know some people in those roles of authority actually USE flirting to their advantage to establish rapport and respect. I mean think about it. Isn't it easier to get along and respect someone of authority that makes you feel good about yourself and your job instead of someone who is cold and makes you feel afraid of them etc? This is a tactic that has been used for ages....but usually the fine line of flirting etc is never crossed. Or at least it should never be crossed while that person is in any type of authority over you.
BlueEyedGirl Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Honestly from what you have written in your other threads, I don't think that guy even likes you.... You are just seeing what you want to see.
Lizzie60 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Maybe he was just being nice like he would be with all his employees... Maybe this woman has the 'special' treatment like you think you're having and she didn't like the attention you got. Maybe she did pick up something.
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