BeachBlonde Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 Just out of curiousity, I'd appreciate it if you guys could answer a couple questions to me, pertaining to your "first love". Thanks in advance. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? 2) Why did it end? 3) How long did it take you to move on? 4) Do you still talk to her or him? 5) Do you still think about her or him? 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love?
livebuzzwords Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 hello. i am a guy so here is my 2 cents on this subject. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? we were together for 6 years. 2) Why did it end? when we were living together, i became clinically depressed and my bahviour changed and she moved out and ended the relationship. 3) How long did it take you to move on? to let go and move on [meaning not wish for us to be back together] took me one year. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? no. we have no contact whatsoever, and it will probably stay that way forever [not because of anger, but because it is for the best for both of us]. 5) Do you still think about her or him? of course, but, only in a nostalgic way, and only occassionally, and always with positive vibes. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? yes, i have a gf now and i am happy and content. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? its not a matter of taking them back but questioning whether or not getting back together would work, and in my case, it wouldn't. so, its a yes and no answer to this question. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? i believe you will always hold a special place in your heart for your first love because you experienced what love is with them and you use that experience to understand what love is all about and you use the lessons learned to share love with another. if you fell in love once, you know you will do so again.
ruby_gloom Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 aww, first loves. the harbingers of broken hearts. sigh. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? my first love was my first boyfriend, and my "first everything." we were friends for about 3 years before we started dating. we dated for 3 years. 2) Why did it end? because he wanted to fly with the wind, and i was never able to grow any wings. at first, he would go and leave his heart with me, but after so many habitual flights, he decided to leave and take his heart and mine somewhere far, far away. 3) How long did it take you to move on? ah, still not there yet, i'm afraid. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? not really. i try really hard to not talk to him, but sometimes i go heavy on the alcohol and end up doing stupid things. other times he sends me short messages, and my heart can't say no. 5) Do you still think about her or him? all of the time. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? no, no new bf. but it's better this way. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? i would, but i'm not sure if i could. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? i believe that true love is always in the first, and that all of the rest are only to help you forget. i also believe that thinking like that will take me absolutely nowhere.
Touche Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Just out of curiousity, I'd appreciate it if you guys could answer a couple questions to me, pertaining to your "first love". Thanks in advance. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? A year. 2) Why did it end? I can't really remember the exact circumstances...too long ago. 3) How long did it take you to move on? Seemed like forever but was about a year...excrutiating. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? No. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Rarely. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? Very happily married. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? Not for anything in the world! 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? No, I don't believe that. I stopped loving him a long, long time ago..but yes, he holds a special place in my heart.
quankanne Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? About a year 2) Why did it end? His girlfriend left her husband for him, so he couldn't see me anymore 3) How long did it take you to move on? Years. But I think that was because I still had it in my head that he was the love of my life, and I was clinging to an outdated (and unrealistic) image of what "love" was. However I'm one of the lucky ones ... 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Nope. The last time I saw him was a couple of months after he left me for her and I had to go by his house to get some of the college texts books I loaned him 5) Do you still think about her or him? Sometimes. And it's mostly, "boy was I ever wrong about love," then, "I hope he's found someone he can be faithful to" 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? *smile* If you'd have told me that I would have met the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with just months after getting dumped, I'd have laughed in your face. It took me a while to completely "get it," but looking back, I don't think that boy from college could have given me an iota what my husband has emotionally. Let's just say I don't believe I would be this secure in my love and happiness with anyone other than the man I married. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? No, because I'm not the same girl I was then, and besides which, I wouldn't have trusted him if he ever had said "I want us back" because he couldn't keep his weenie in his pants. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? I believe whatever feelings you've had for someone grow bigger every time you open yourself to love, and with each subsequent relationship you experience, you get ever closer to the person you're meant to share your life with. For me, that energy and those feelings I had for college boy are like that interesting rock I buried in the sand: even if I remembered where I put it, I'm pretty sure if I ever came across it again, it'd only have sentimental value and nothing more.
SierraMarie Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? Well, we weren't actually "together". Weird, huh? We dated for like a copule months. 2) Why did it end? I slept with his friend 3) How long did it take you to move on? Like 10 months, after we finally did actuall "go out" and then I decided I didn't like him anymore. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Nope 5) Do you still think about her or him? Every once in a while, just about the fun times when we used to hang out and when I see a car like his and I wonder if it's him. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? No, I dont have a bf...or a gf lol 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? No 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? No
ShoeGirl Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? We were friends for about a year then dated 2 and a half years. 2) Why did it end? He came out of the closet and had been cheating on me for most of the relationship. 3) How long did it take you to move on? About 2-3 months until reality set in. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? I talked to him last week, our first conversation since we broke up, however it will not become a regular thing. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Yes, I wonder how he is doing with admitting to himself that he is gay since he was trying to convince himself that he was bi when we broke up, and how he is handling other things that were going on when we were together. I am still friends with a few mutual friends too, so I hear about him from time to time. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? I don't have a boyfriend now but I have dated one guy since I broke up with him and I was happy in that relationship and I am happy being single now. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? That would never happen, but if he were straight I wouldn't take him back simply because he cheated on me. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? I still care about him as a person but I don't love him anymore, so no.
Jmina Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Just out of curiousity, I'd appreciate it if you guys could answer a couple questions to me, pertaining to your "first love". Thanks in advance. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? friends for a year and a half, together for 10 months and then on and off for another month. 2) Why did it end? she didnt want to spend her life wondering about men (we are both women and she never had been with a guy) she felt that i manipulated her when we were together. 3) How long did it take you to move on? im still moving on...its been just under 3 months 4) Do you still talk to her or him? no because i havnt moved on and she is doing her best to move on 5) Do you still think about her or him? all the time 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? no i dont, and im not happy! 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? i would want to... i dont know if i could trust them though... i probably would.. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? for me yes i do. not in the same way though. i will always love her as a person. always.
the_otherhalf Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? About four years. 2) Why did it end? I was very critical of him. I took him for granted, and being a perfectionist, I thought I could "fix" everything that I found wrong with him. 3) How long did it take you to move on? Haha, I wish I was there. It's been almost five months since he broke up with me. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? NC from me for about two months. He still e-mails me randomly, just asking how I'm doing about 5,000 times. 5) Do you still think about her or him? All the time, unfortunately, although it has definitely gotten better with the passage of time. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? I don't, but he does, which absolutely kills me. There have been a few prospects for me, but none have worked out. I think I'm trying too hard to be in a relationship (which could be why they aren't working) just to get my mind off him. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? I would, since it was my fault for the breakup, and I believe that I have realized the issues and changed. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? I worry about that a lot, I worry that no one else will measure up. I'm hoping life will prove me wrong.
Reactor Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? Only 3 months. 2) Why did it end? She wasn't very understanding of the pressures on me, set to high expectations on me, wasn't over her ex, ex-bf, was afraid of being hurt again and couldn't trust men plus she was very confused and was lost in herself (she needed to be out of a relationship to find herself again) if that makes sense. I also got too clingy near the end because of all the stress I was under and I think she just couldn't deal with me around her feet all the time, or maybe as I said, she just didn't understand. 3) How long did it take you to move on? Well...I'm getting there, I kinda hate this moping stuff so I've picked myself up and just say that it was her fault it failed, not mine (ofc I know what I did wrong). 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Nope, I sent her an e-mail saying I wanted NC, I broke that about 2 days ago with an e-mail saying I wanted to talk about us, but as I had hoped she just ignored it. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Yeah, but when I start to get all lovey duvey, or want the nearby I merely say 'Its over!!!' out loud or in my head (depending on the company). 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? Nope, I would like another girlfriend soon though, I enjoy the company and like having someone who enjoys spending time with me, I hope my next gf will be more understanding and will not rush things like my ex did. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? Hmmmmmmm, maybe, maybe not, I think I would just like to be friends with her, but first I'd get myself a new gf, that way I can keep it as just friends, and theres a boundary. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? Nope, she is and always will be special to me because she taught me alot about relationships and women as well as how to act and how not to! Will I always love her? Probably not, I don't get caught up on such things, this is my first relationship, things can only get better for me now because I know what I want and need from a relationship!
Author BeachBlonde Posted August 2, 2007 Author Posted August 2, 2007 Thanks for the replies! I guess I'll fill it out now. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? On & off for about a year. 2) Why did it end? We fought non-stop and he was still talking to his ex girlfriend all the time---but we were together because there was a lot of passion, chemistry, & attraction between us. 3) How long did it take you to move on? About a year after it ended....I was really heartbroken. I never really had any closure because we got into our last big fight and just stopped talking. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Nope. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Not often, only if something reminds me of him. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? Yes I do and I'm VERY happy in my relationship and in love with my boyfriend. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? No! We are too different and I'm too in love with my boyfriend. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? Nope, because I don't love him anymore.
Goodin Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? About two years but she broke up with me for another guy for about a month in the middle. She came begging me back and I took her back blindly, because I was so in love with her. stupid. stupid. 2) Why did it end? Not sure exactly what...i think we just grew apart, we were young (only 18) and I wasn't ready to be tied down. 3) How long did it take you to move on? Over a year 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Not now. We got in touch a few years ago and hung out. We are on good terms so it was good to see her. I think we had in the back of our minds thoughts of getting back together but we had grown so different (this was 8 years after breakup). 5) Do you still think about her or him? Not really, but when I do it is always good. I heard she got married recently and I wish her the best. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship?Heh - no, thats why I am here now. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? No. It wouldnt work, we are too different. and I realize now how bad she treated me. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? I think there is some truth to that, although I dont love her as much as when we dated (10 years ago), she still has a small piece of my heart.
marley_86 Posted August 2, 2007 Posted August 2, 2007 Just out of curiousity, I'd appreciate it if you guys could answer a couple questions to me, pertaining to your "first love". Thanks in advance. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? Two years 2) Why did it end? He met someone knew, and said sometimes he thought of me more as a friend. 3) How long did it take you to move on? Still not over him. I feel really angry when i'm alone 4) Do you still talk to her or him? talked to him on msn for 15 minutes. He started it. Don't plan on talking for a long time, i don't care about his new gf's nickname. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Yeah, i remember the good times, and how wronged i feel. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? I have a bf, i am happy, but unfortanely i sometimes compare him to my ex. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? If they knew they made a mistake, and wanted to be together for the long haul. But it would take a long time for me to feel comfortable around him. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? Yes, its only been two months, and i can still remember everything good.
sao2 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? 2.5 years 2) Why did it end? Pressure with school, fighting, being in a long distance relationship 3) How long did it take you to move on? 8 months 4) Do you still talk to her or him? No 5) Do you still think about her or him? Not much, 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? No but I have had 2 serious relationships since her, 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? Oh NO, I can barely remember the good times with her anymore 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? No,
Chinook Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 Bear in mind, I'm 37 so it's been a long time since my first love. 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? Four happy years. From ages 14 through to 18. 2) Why did it end? We were both young and basically I went away on holiday to do some volunteer work, see the world etc. Whilst I was away he started seeing someone else. It broke my heart. 3) How long did it take you to move on? I think in all, around 3 years. I moped and was sad for a long time. I partied and didn't get close to anyone for all of the years I was at University. I didn't sleep around, but I dated alot. I didn't enjoy it and eventually it made me feel soulless so it stopped because I simply wasn't interested in anyone else. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Nope. Not spoken to him since I was 20. I had to work in the same department as his wife and rumours reached me that they weren't happy. He also told his brother that I was the girl he should never have let go. I think he was right. I think we both made mistakes but if our lives had gone down the other path where we got married and happily ever after, maybe we'd still be with each other. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Not much. Very occasionally. It doesn't hurt of course any more. But I can barely remember anything about our relationship now except that the majority of it was very happy. But we were children really, both naive and innocent and that's how I like to recall it. 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? No I'm not in a relationship right now but I have had 3 serious relationships in the last 19 years (and a hell of a lot has happened since then). 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? You know, back when we first split I hung onto the hope that one day this would happen, somehow some day we'd get back together. I'd kinda buried that hope in the back of my mind and forgotten about it. Eventually it disappeared. I'm not sure when that happened. I don't think I would take him back - we're different people now. As I said, a lot has happened since then. So I guess the answer is no. 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? I'm not sure I could honestly say right now that I do actually love him. I think the fierceness that one feels diminishes with time. What I can say is what I felt for him back then is still burned brightly into my heart and mind and I would never change that. What happened then, happened and it was truly wonderful. I'm glad he was my first love because despite how it ended, he was kind, funny, gentle and caring. But, even though he was my 'first love' and we loved each other well... he wasn't the man I grew to understand love with. That man was a much greater significance in my life and still has even today, even though we are not together now.
Lizzie60 Posted August 4, 2007 Posted August 4, 2007 1) How long were you and your "first love" together? My first love was my first ex... I started seeing him at 15... then 9 years later he moved in with me... I was 18 years with him... 2) Why did it end? I left him after 18 years of living common-law . 3) How long did it take you to move on? I would say about a year... I met my second ex. 4) Do you still talk to her or him? Yes, we've never been mad at each other, he's my son's father... so I respect him and we talk about our son from time to time. 5) Do you still think about her or him? Sometimes I do... 6) Do you have a gf/bf now and are you happy in your current relationship? I don't... and I don't want anyone in my life.. I am very happy with my lifestyle for the moment. 7) Would you ever take your first love back if they wanted to try again? No ...never... we both have moved on... 8) Do you believe the saying that you never stop loving your first love? No.. that's baloney... I stopped loving him a long time ago.. even before I left him.
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