downNout Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 hey.. hers my story and maybe someone can help.. My ex and I dated for about 9 years.. we were engaged to be married and as any couple, we had our issues.. most of them my fault and doing things that made her question if she could trust me or not..after a big blow out with her and her family, she decided that we should end it.. it wasnt that she wanted to, she said that she didnt know what else to do because i wasnt changing.. After that, i started seeing a counslor and booked myself into rehab and since have been doing very well.. For almost 10 months after we split, we still hung out and talked almost everyday.. we still slept together and so on... for anyone that didnt know us, they would think that we were together... just recently, she started talking to a old friend that she hasnt seen in over 10 years... and he started showing up at her place all the time.. and a few weeks ago, she told me that she needs time to figure out what she wants and if we can be together or not.. i recently found out that befor that, she started dating this other guy... for the last 2 weeks or so, i have probably been doing wrong, but i have been sending her a ton of emails and phone calls and letters.. she hasnt responded.. now the other night, she sent me an email that says a bunch of stuff and also that she thinks that we cant even be friends right now... I dont know what i can do at this point.. it scares me that she isnt even thinking about us and therefore if i just stop calling and everything... it wouldnt matter to her but i dont know this for sure... is there anything that i can do to atleast get her to talk to me once more.. i know that i probably screwed all my chances by contacting her when she didnt want me too.. any help would be great and well valued.. thanks..
sharp2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 hey.. hers my story and maybe someone can help.. My ex and I dated for about 9 years.. we were engaged to be married and as any couple, we had our issues.. most of them my fault and doing things that made her question if she could trust me or not..after a big blow out with her and her family, she decided that we should end it.. it wasnt that she wanted to, she said that she didnt know what else to do because i wasnt changing.. After that, i started seeing a counslor and booked myself into rehab and since have been doing very well.. For almost 10 months after we split, we still hung out and talked almost everyday.. we still slept together and so on... for anyone that didnt know us, they would think that we were together... just recently, she started talking to a old friend that she hasnt seen in over 10 years... and he started showing up at her place all the time.. and a few weeks ago, she told me that she needs time to figure out what she wants and if we can be together or not.. i recently found out that befor that, she started dating this other guy... for the last 2 weeks or so, i have probably been doing wrong, but i have been sending her a ton of emails and phone calls and letters.. she hasnt responded.. now the other night, she sent me an email that says a bunch of stuff and also that she thinks that we cant even be friends right now... I dont know what i can do at this point.. it scares me that she isnt even thinking about us and therefore if i just stop calling and everything... it wouldnt matter to her but i dont know this for sure... is there anything that i can do to atleast get her to talk to me once more.. i know that i probably screwed all my chances by contacting her when she didnt want me too.. any help would be great and well valued.. thanks.. Hi there, well to honest I think you should leave her alone for a while, I know it will be difficult for you, but she needs space right now I feel, to overcrowd her will only make her resent you further...take it from experience..I know.. If she has any feelings for you she will in time get back in touch and I hope she will, as I believe you really do care for her...all the best...
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