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Following your heart or your head...which is better?

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alphamale Established Member

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The heart says to be subjective and go with your feelings and emotions and not evaluate the objective stuff. The heart loves drama and will tell you this person is good for you when they may be very bad for you. The heart can lie, cheat and steal to get you to do what it wants. Ahh...but one powerful thing the heart can create is chemistry.

 

The head is conservative and objective and embraces logic and objectivity. Some may say its boring. The head likes to tell the heart to shut up. The head evaluates your lover with a standard checklist and likes to see whether he/she measures up. It prefers to disregard feelings and emotions and make its decisions based upon fact.

 

Which one do you follow and why? :laugh:

Nemo Established Member

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My penis tends to dictate. I do follow it, but that's no surprise when one realises it's attached. Going in the other direction is a leap of blind faith, although it does work as a pretty good rudder. Urges are urges, and I would be a fool to ignore them.

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alphamale Established Member

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My penis tends to dictate.

so you're more objective then? 38-24-36? a numbers guy? :lmao:

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Follow your mind. The heart's kinda' retarded.

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alphamale Established Member

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Follow your mind. The heart's kinda' retarded.

hmmm i wouldn't expect a female to say that :laugh:

lindya Established Member

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I think when the heart and the head are in opposition, it's best to follow your head and try to find a way of comforting your heart....rather than beating it up for being a stupid, emotional thing.

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which head are we talking about? :laugh:

Trialbyfire Established Member

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hmmm i wouldn't expect a female to say that :laugh:

Why not? My heart seems to be a bad judge of character so it needs to either smarten up or stay the hell out of my life. :p

pricillia Established Member

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I think that my heart anyway... are now trying to work together...

 

I will let you know how it turns out...

 

trial and error

lindya Established Member

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Why not? My heart seems to be a bad judge of character so it needs to either smarten up or stay the hell out of my life. :p

 

The irony is that the it's the heart that protests most loudly about the misadventures and inequitable situations it's wholly responsible for embroiling us in. I retract what I said earlier. It requires a sound thrashing.

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The irony is that the it's the heart that protests most loudly about the misadventures and inequitable situations it's wholly responsible for embroiling us in. I retract what I said earlier. It requires a sound thrashing.

Yup, mine is currently cowering in a corner, beaten to a pulp. I might let it come out again sometime in the distant future but only if it has learned it's lesson. Otherwise, bread and water rations for life.

Nemo Established Member

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I have to jump in and defend the heart, here. The heart is pure. It's the damn head that is busy plotting evilness.

 

Besides, the heart is instrumental in supplying blood to the penis. How much more important can you get?!

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I tend to follow my head when the relationship is doing great and during trying times I seem to follow my heart..

 

My heart never lies to me.. but it almost never solves the problem.. the head has to shut the heart down to fix it and move on.

 

So...I guess I'm a head and heart guy.. I do like to think that my heart is one of my strongest assets.

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Yup, mine is currently cowering in a corner, beaten to a pulp.

 

Don't you mean beaten into a lump of beating scar tissue ? :laugh:

Trialbyfire Established Member

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Don't you mean beaten into a lump of beating scar tissue ? :laugh:

Haha...angioplasty FTW!!

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alphamale Established Member

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Yup, mine is currently cowering in a corner, beaten to a pulp. .

thats too bad...

tanbark813 Established Member

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These days I try to go by my gut as much as possible. He's a good balance between the head and the heart and he stores food for me.

Nemo Established Member

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My heart never lies to me..

Well said.

I do like to think that my heart is one of my strongest assets.

Don't forget the penis.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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thats too bad...

Not to worry. I will survive. :laugh:

Nemo Established Member

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These days I try to go by my gut as much as possible. He's a good balance between the head and the heart and he stores food for me.

It's also mid-way between the heart and the penis. Maybe you are on to something, there.

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The heart will always lead one into trouble. Or at least in my case it did. Now, my head is trying to shut down the heart but, it's just not doing a good job.

Yamaha Established Member

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Obviously it's a combined effort that makes the best choices. Without the heart the mind can't exist but I have meet people that have "nothing between the ears" but their heart is still beating.:p

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alphamale Established Member

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Without the heart the mind can't exist but I have meet people that have "nothing between the ears" but their heart is still beating.:p

so basically the heart can work without the mind? thats dangerous! :laugh:

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Unfortunately, my heart. There has to be chemistry for me. Although, I don't do drama nor do I put up with it.

 

If a man has a flaw that is on my personal list of deal breakers, my head won't allow me to continue the relationship. I look for the deal breakers from the start now. My heart isn't very involved at that point, other than a sense of chemistry.

 

My head guards my heart but my heart has to be in it for me to emotionally invest in the relationship.

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The heart says to be subjective and go with your feelings and emotions and not evaluate the objective stuff. The heart loves drama and will tell you this person is good for you when they may be very bad for you. The heart can lie, cheat and steal to get you to do what it wants. Ahh...but one powerful thing the heart can create is chemistry.

 

My head tries to evaluate how I am feeling.

 

The head is conservative and objective and embraces logic and objectivity. Some may say its boring. The head likes to tell the heart to shut up. The head evaluates your lover with a standard checklist and likes to see whether he/she measures up. It prefers to disregard feelings and emotions and make its decisions based upon fact.

 

Which one do you follow and why? :laugh:

 

Yes, I have a checklist. But when I am with the person, my heart opens wide and swallows the checklist making way for chemistry.

 

I am trying to follow my head at this point. I've had my heart stomped on too many times. I try to look far into the future, and if I can see myself with this person, then I pursue it taking a step back to be objective and ask myself if this is a smart thing to do, even if I don't "feel" it just yet.

 

If I can't see myself with this person, I pursue it but then I have sex with them so they can break up with me. At least this seems to be my pattern.

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