MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 I am finally free and clear to date this man I've known for two years. We dated on and off and I was in a 10 month relationship with someone else until 4 months ago. The "off" mostly happened because of my expectations and impatience, and his marriage to his business and lack of balance between work and life. We both think things are going great now, and we are right where we want to be. He has made alot more time for me and my kids and I have been alot more understanding and patient. His business is very successful, and wouldn't be if he didn't work so hard. I figure if I want the kind of life I can have with him, I have to be patient and not try to rush things. This weekend is one of my rare kid-free weekends. He was supposed to be working on his business plan but I was really looking forward to spending time this weekend in the evenings. But he got sick and doesn't want visitors and is staying in bed. See, he stresses himself out over his work, gets sick, and then when he finally gets well, he has even more work to do, and is more stressed out, and has no time to spend with me. It's a vicious cycle, and I am trying so hard to be patient. This happens every couple of months, which is why we've never dated more than a couple of months. The last time he cancelled on me he was so apologetic and worried that I'd be upset. I wasn't. He stressed that he really wants things to be different this time. They are different - I have not tried to meet other guys, like I have in the past. We are not "serious" and haven't had an "exclusive" talk but neither of us is seeing anyone else. We're in our 40's, he has no kids, and we haven't had sex but we do spend nights together, sleeping, cuddling. For once a guy is interested in more than just sex with me. Maybe this is more of a rant, but if anyone can give me some encouragement as to how to be patient, I would appreciate it. I am so bored! My kids are on vacation with their dad. I am sick of the computer, so I rented a movie but it's only 7pm. I already worked out today, tomorrow is going to be +35C so not much I can do outside by myself. My friends are all busy with their families. whine whine wine wine wine mmmmm wine.
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