cindyc71 Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 I have Known this guy and family for about 6 years and have never really hung out with him. While I have known him I had a child and have broken up with my ex. All this time the guy pretty much knew this but again we never really sat down and talked. One night maybe 3 months ago we met up at a club and had a great conversation. It seemed like there was a connection. After that night we would try too arrange to see each other again but either I would be busy or he would not be around. Finally we were able to get together one night and had a great time and even kissed (which was unexpected for me). After that night we were able to see each other more often and even got intimate. Everything seemed to be fine until my ex found out about him. My ex began to make a scene everywhere we would go and made it really uncomfortable for us. He even got a hold of his home phone and would make all sorts of offensive calls. One day there was a confrontation and my ex asked the guy if he wanted to be with me and the guy said yes. Which to me was a surprise because we really hadn't spoken about where we stood. After that maybe a few weeks after The guy and I got together and he said he couldn't be with me. The reason he gave me is my child and my overly jealous ex. (which I can understand the ex part but the child part really hurt me for he already knew this was no secreat), and we left it as a friendship. I was really confused because his actions mislead me to thinking he was interested and yet he said something different. All his friends say that he is giving things some time for my ex to stay away and cool off, but I am not so sure about that. and do not even know if I should ask. Here I am hurt, confused, and wondering if he was interested or just playing. He never seemed like the type of guy that would play, for I have never heard or seen anything like that in him all these years, then again people may change. So is it possible he bailed because of my ex and would be willing to give it another shot or is it a lost cause? Thank you,
Hazy Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 It is hard to say. Could be he just lost interest, it happens sometimes in the course of dating, sometimes that's just where dating leads. I know you are hurting, but he told you that it was over between you, so you have to take him at his word. Also, think about if you really want to get back together with a guy who would bail over something stupid like that anyway. If he'll bail so easily on you, think of when a real challenge or crisis presents itself. It will be easy for him just to bail when there is conflict. In addition, if the fact that you have a child is turning him off, then you would rather be with a man who accepts you as a "package" deal, and part of your package is that you have a child.
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