9Lives Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 It's just as hard for some men too. I'm going through something similar. There are times i miss her, there are times i want her back. The sad thing is I had things to do with and without her, i have my friends around me and other girls interested in me, yet my mind still wanders back to her. I've kept a healthy balance of friends and family before, during, and after the relationship. Which is why it sucks, cause i made her a part of my life. But i tell myself that I deserve better and know its better off this way even though it doesn't seem like it at the moment. There's no such thing as bad timing or anything in my opinion. There's only that one time, that one chance, cause after a heart is broken its hard to repair. it's their loss not ours. It's these feelings that makes us human. Sometimes you just have to reach that low in order to reach that incredible high. Hey thanks. I believe my ex still cares but it just wasnt working out. i just began to bug the hell out of him in the end cause I was crying and needy. He just wasn't feeling me at all. I guess he feels better now. I dont know. I was just hurting and I could not control myself. I love him so much that i have so much pain now that he is gone but I think I helped run him off too. so I dont know.
9Lives Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 It's just as hard for some men too. I'm going through something similar. There are times i miss her, there are times i want her back. The sad thing is I had things to do with and without her, i have my friends around me and other girls interested in me, yet my mind still wanders back to her. I've kept a healthy balance of friends and family before, during, and after the relationship. Which is why it sucks, cause i made her a part of my life. But i tell myself that I deserve better and know its better off this way even though it doesn't seem like it at the moment. There's no such thing as bad timing or anything in my opinion. There's only that one time, that one chance, cause after a heart is broken its hard to repair. it's their loss not ours. It's these feelings that makes us human. Sometimes you just have to reach that low in order to reach that incredible high. Hey thanks. I believe my ex still cares but it just wasnt working out. i just began to bug the hell out of him in the end cause I was crying and needy. He just wasn't feeling me at all. I guess he feels better now. I dont know. I was just hurting and I could not control myself. I love him so much that i have so much pain now that he is gone but I think I helped run him off too. so I dont know.
Author uniqueone Posted July 31, 2007 Author Posted July 31, 2007 Hey all, when I asked if it was so easy for men, I meant dating-wise. Personally I'm not finding men that I'm interested in asking me out. Maybe men are less picky?
frd150 Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 The funny thing about this kind of thinking is, a lot of the times, we had nothing to do with the other persons reasons for leaving. We only really beat ourselves up when we go back and think "gee, if only I hadn't....". Take my ex for example. He told me that I treated him like a king and that he didn't know how to take it/accept. From that statement I can summize that he left because he somehow didn't find himself worthy of being treated as well as I treated him. So now he's looking for someone that will treat him how he expects to be treated. Does that mean I should say "man, what if I'd treated him a little crappier"? I like to think it doesn't, and that being treated like a king is something most men will appreciate. So, before you kill yourself with "if onlys" try to think about what it is you are if onlying, and see if you really really were in the wrong. It could turn out, that you weren't at all... Hey Aria, I just do not know what to think anymore I just keep looking for answers wrong or right. I keep thinking that this has gone on way too long. Truly i have had time to think of my part in our demise and yes I could have done a few things differently BUT I WAS NOT A MIND READER. I Think of particular episodes and analize them to death. Yes I know I cannot do this and I stop myself by thinking that I cannot change the past And our problems were typical of most LT live in relationships. It is what it is. On the flipside I think that there was so much I did right but I do not give myself credit for it. Well, I guess neither did she.She bailed. Now she is dating guys that truly treat her like cr*p. Careful what you wish for.
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