BritGirl Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 Hi everyone, I just found this place & it looks really cool Ok I am having big communication problems with my boyf & its totally doing my head in He has always been a little difficult to get hold off, he's very busy at work & also he spends a lot of time with his kids from a previous relationship. So I am kinda used to having to wait for him to get back to me. I, on the other hand am available pretty much whenever he calls. So, he went away on business on tuesday, he called me at the airport at 4pm but then I didnt hear from him till wednesday afternoon. Now maybe Im over reacting, but why didnt he call me when he got to his apartment? He got there at about 8pm- why not give me a quick call to say his flight was ok etc etc, just a goodnight phone call? I even texted him twice but he ignored them both. On wed he said he had gone to bed early as was tired from flight. Ok then.. This was a test, he didnt call. We exchanged about 3 texts & I assumed he'd call me when he finished work (6pm) But no. 8 pm I called, 10pm I called, his phone was just ringing and then when I called at 11pm it was switched off! I was so annoyed & worried I couldnt sleep. The next day, thursay, he called me at 9am & said he went out for a drink with a collegue, got drunk, phone went flat etc etc. I had a really big go at him & said if I had done that he would go mad. (which is true) It escalated into a big row, he said I made him feel like a 'naughty little boy' that I sounded like ' a stalker' and that he 'didnt need to check in' with me! WTF? Im sorry but we have been together for 5 years so I think yes he does need to 'check in' with me! As I do with him! Anyway, I said ' ok well shall I leave you to it and call you tonight when we've both calmed down' and he said ' No. I will not be speaking to you tonight, I dont have to check in with you every night, so dont call me' I then just said 'Ok have a f**king good evening then bye' and hung up. I then texted him that evening apologising for hanging up, and saying I had calmed down & maybe we could have a reasonable conversation? He didnt reply. I waited until like 11:30 pm & I texted him saying 'ok I get the message. I thought that by making the first move we would have a reasonable conversation & sort this out. But clearly you dont want to. Im sick of chasing you just to get 5 mins of your f***ing time, well its not happening any more, goodnight' I have not heard from him since. I think its totally ridiculous & cannot understand why he is ignoring me & so making the whole thing worse. How long do I leave it? Hes not back for another week. I will not be able to deal with waiting till he gets back to sort this, its not even like it was a bad, relationship shaking argument! Shall I just wait for him to call? I kinda feel like why should I call? I tried to apologise & I got stone walled. Im so angry & frustrated, I just want to make up & move on already. Has anyone got any advice/insights/views?
Author BritGirl Posted July 28, 2007 Author Posted July 28, 2007 I just thought- maybe this should be in the dating section? Sorry Please could someone move it? EDIT- ok I figured out how to move it, so maybe this post could now be deleted (sorry to be a pain) thanks x
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