zilverenvlinder Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 So, I have had severe financial problems for the last six months, ever since I lost my job. My fiance, Ryan, knows this. I haven't really had any steady income since then, and it's been extremely hard. Well, six months ago, RYAN got an extremely good full-time job with benefits, incentives, and a good salary at a popular regional bank. My mother owns a very successful retail store in our area, and she has helped me get by since then. (Not Ryan.) Part of me really wants to take over her business someday, but I'm only 22, what do I know what I really want to do for the rest of my life? So, she hired me as temporary help at $8 an hour for the last month or so. Now, last week, this regional bank that Ryan works at put up some Monster ads looking for Customer Support Representatives. I applied immediately. Guess what? I got the job today! Full-time. That means (almost) as much money as Ryan makes, plus all these great benefits and job security. It was at a different branch than Ryan's...so luckily, I wouldn't have to work with him. (I'm saying "luckily" as in "luckily for him", because I don't know if he could stand to see my face that often. -_-) So, I told him today, all excited. Guess what he did? He gave me total crap about it. He said he couldn't believe I didn't have the motivation to take over my mother's retail store, and if I worked full-time at the bank, I couldn't ever learn...blah blah. So, which one is it? Is it... a) basically, he wants me to be rich like my parents so he can ride on my coattails forever, right? ..or.. b) is he just pissed because I got a good job, too?.. The worst part about it, is I've been sooo poor for these last six months, and Ryan's been shoving all of his paychecks in my face. ("OH MY GOD, LOOK HOW MUCH MONEY I MADE THIS MONTH"...) and now, FINALLY, I can buy some nice clothes for myself and get my hair done once in awhile and PAY RENT on my own. How should I talk to him about this? Because I'm definitely going to have to.
jcster Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 I think he started to like being the guy with the money, and now he's not. The "taking over mom's store" is a smokescreen. He was very inconsiderate and you should tell him so.
Hazy Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 If you believe that your fiance really couldn't stand to see your face for that long, I don't know if that is a good sign. He is being a real jerk, I don't get his deal at all. If you do get married, definitely want to get a prenup in case your parents leave you the business or part of it, don't want him getting his paws on the business or profits of it.
Lyssa Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 He should have been supportive about your getting a new job. I agree with Hazy, get a prenup!
Poboy Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 i think he is pissed because you'll be working at the same place as him . i suppose you had told him beforehand that you had applied at same bank , if you hadnt then most guys will be angry of this . right or wrong , its natural.
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