sofakingmad Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 DA i got a PM saying i got an infraction for a comment i made in this thread. i apologize i didn't mean it in any harsh sense but the powers that be evidently thought differently. sorry dude.
Hazy Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 There are judgements and criticism all over this site...in case you haven't noticed...and it IS fun, that's why I'm here...look, the guy sounds like he wants to be too controlling and other people on this thread said the same thing....I wasn't "analyzing"...I was "commenting".... THe thing is the ones who judge and blast others the most are the ones who are the most messed up themselves.
LoveLace Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 THe thing is the ones who judge and blast others the most are the ones who are the most messed up themselves. Judging, blasting, whatever you wanna call it, not that I have to explain myself to you but I didn't mean to sound like I was personally attacking the guy, was just giving my opinion of his "rules" (which is what he asked for) from a woman's point of view, so now I"m "messed up"....according to someone who said it's wrong to be "judgemental"...ookaay... DA, your rules aren't exactly unrealistic, just a little too narrow. There is definitely nothing wrong with preferences or being picky. But in some circumstances, rules can be bent a little. It also might help to just be a little more patient...someone said it could help to have a couple drinks before a date, and that's a good idea, but it also helps to go right into the situation feeling confident, VERY confident...I don't want to say act "cocky", but convince yourself that she couldn't ask for a better date and if it doesn't work out, it's her big loss. Be a gentleman, ask her questions and appear to be interested in her life (and if she talks about work, just suck it up-- after all work consumes a HUGE portion of our lives...a person who complains too much is annoying, but a woman has to feel like you are someone she can really talk to). And also remember she probably has her own list of "rules" or standards...in the end though, even if a date goes well, it doesn't mean you'll feel a spark and it doesn't mean either of you did something wrong. But you have to "kiss a lot of frogs" and something will click for you eventually.
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