DateAnalyzer Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 These are kind of uncontrollable which is why the getting the know process is so difficult for me AFTER the First Date 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other 3. Never want to hear about other guys 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. So which ones sound the craziest? These have been my unwritten rules for years and probably why I will be alone in my underwear tonight watching the cosby show
love necessity Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 8. never yell for me from the shower..LOL 9. Never say your going to do something and forget 10. act like your afraid of my driving!
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 Never make strong eye contact with a waiter in a restarunt
Hazy Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? Might want to lighten up on this one. What if she really is expecting an important phone call? However, if it's happening more than once in a call, yeah, that's excessive. 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other I agree. The serious relationships I've had, the guy called me at least once a day from day one because he was into me. 3. Never want to hear about other guys I agree, I assume you're meaning exes though. 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early If that is what is going on in her life, why not? Lighten up here. Of course if the work talk is getting excessive, then you can change the subject tactfully. 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date Hmm. In my book, the guy does most of the calling. I'll call every three calls or so, and return calls (usually.) 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call I think you should lighten up on this one, too. You can always try her again. 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. Do you mean call? Yes, I won't call a guy past 10 or when he usually goes to bed.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? Might want to lighten up on this one. What if she really is expecting an important phone call? However, if it's happening more than once in a call, yeah, that's excessive. 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other I agree. The serious relationships I've had, the guy called me at least once a day from day one because he was into me. 3. Never want to hear about other guys I agree, I assume you're meaning exes though. 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early If that is what is going on in her life, why not? Lighten up here. Of course if the work talk is getting excessive, then you can change the subject tactfully. 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date Hmm. In my book, the guy does most of the calling. I'll call every three calls or so, and return calls (usually.) 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call I think you should lighten up on this one, too. You can always try her again. 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. Do you mean call? Yes, I won't call a guy past 10 or when he usually goes to bed. So I leave a message on Wednesday night and don;t hear anything by Friday and u say-"Try Again? Number 7 I mean that if me and a girl are talking and her line beeps she should not be clicking over that late
whichwayisup Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early Then don't expect this: There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call If you want to date, then date - But if you are getting to know her, you gotta let her vent abit about her day abit if she needs to. Just like you should be able to as well. Callwaiting is RUDE and I hate it. That's what answer machines are for. Nothing worse than someone calling you then they put you on hold to answer the other line. If they're gone for more than a minute, I hang-up the phone.
allina Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 These are kind of uncontrollable which is why the getting the know process is so difficult for me AFTER the First Date 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other 3. Never want to hear about other guys 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. So which ones sound the craziest? These have been my unwritten rules for years and probably why I will be alone in my underwear tonight watching the cosby show So, how is your dating life going? How many good relationships have you been it? Just curious.
whichwayisup Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other OK, this is just wrong...UNLESS you two are very serious about eachother. If you make your expectations TOO high, then you'll be constantly disappointed. Lower them and just go with the flow....You'll be alot happier.
LoveLace Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other 3. Never want to hear about other guys 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. Okay.. 1)....you can't expect anyone to just never take another call and have to call you back. It happens and your going to get an ulcer worrying about weather or not this is just to snuff you or whatever. Just say, yea ok you can call me back, and if she doesn't, so what, ...moving on to next girl. 2) Ridiculous. If I was dating you, I'll be damned if I went "Oh gosh! It's been 2 days, if I don't call Dateanalyzer he'll break up with me! Oh nooo!"...I'm just saying it's not right to expect someone to keep track of calling you so specifically. People have other lives you know, I'll call the guy I"m dating when I have the time, and he will do the same. 3) If your hearing about other guys, it probably means she doesn't want to be dating you in the 1st place. 4) I can sord of understand that...if someone complains about anything at all too soon, it can be a turn-off. 6) Again, this is too specific of a "rule". What if she's out of town? What if she's just plain too busy to call you back within 24 hours? 7) Not sure I understand this one... I'd hate to be your girlfriend. Not even women get this particular about dating. What if you got married? Had she better have dinner on the table at 6pm sharp every night, or else?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other 3. Never want to hear about other guys 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. Okay.. 1)....you can't expect anyone to just never take another call and have to call you back. It happens and your going to get an ulcer worrying about weather or not this is just to snuff you or whatever. Just say, yea ok you can call me back, and if she doesn't, so what, ...moving on to next girl. 2) Ridiculous. If I was dating you, I'll be damned if I went "Oh gosh! It's been 2 days, if I don't call Dateanalyzer he'll break up with me! Oh nooo!"...I'm just saying it's not right to expect someone to keep track of calling you so specifically. People have other lives you know, I'll call the guy I"m dating when I have the time, and he will do the same. 3) If your hearing about other guys, it probably means she doesn't want to be dating you in the 1st place. 4) I can sord of understand that...if someone complains about anything at all too soon, it can be a turn-off. 6) Again, this is too specific of a "rule". What if she's out of town? What if she's just plain too busy to call you back within 24 hours? 7) Not sure I understand this one... I'd hate to be your girlfriend. Not even women get this particular about dating. What if you got married? Had she better have dinner on the table at 6pm sharp every night, or else? Yeah I will try to work on that, but i tend to get uncomfortable if 2 days goes past and I don;t hear from someone
Star Gazer Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 So which ones sound the craziest? These have been my unwritten rules for years and probably why I will be alone in my underwear tonight watching the cosby show Honestly, they ALL sound crazy. You haven't gotten past the first date in how long? None of these rules (which ARE written, by the way...you did WRITE them down!) should apply to the very, very beginning stages of dating. You're way too uptight and controlling. Loosen up, get to know people. Let go of being so darn rigid.
love necessity Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 1. I never want a girl to click over and then click back over and say-"Can I call u back I have to take this other call? 2. There should never more than 2 days that goes past without us being in contact with each other 3. Never want to hear about other guys 4. Don't want to hear about her problems like at work-too early 5.the calling should be 50/50 or 60/40 after the first date 6. If i leave a message it should never take more than 24 hours for her to return my call 7. She should never click over after 12 midnight. Okay.. 1)....you can't expect anyone to just never take another call and have to call you back. It happens and your going to get an ulcer worrying about weather or not this is just to snuff you or whatever. Just say, yea ok you can call me back, and if she doesn't, so what, ...moving on to next girl. 2) Ridiculous. If I was dating you, I'll be damned if I went "Oh gosh! It's been 2 days, if I don't call Dateanalyzer he'll break up with me! Oh nooo!"...I'm just saying it's not right to expect someone to keep track of calling you so specifically. People have other lives you know, I'll call the guy I"m dating when I have the time, and he will do the same. 3) If your hearing about other guys, it probably means she doesn't want to be dating you in the 1st place. 4) I can sord of understand that...if someone complains about anything at all too soon, it can be a turn-off. 6) Again, this is too specific of a "rule". What if she's out of town? What if she's just plain too busy to call you back within 24 hours? 7) Not sure I understand this one... I'd hate to be your girlfriend. Not even women get this particular about dating. What if you got married? Had she better have dinner on the table at 6pm sharp every night, or else? Why must everyone take every little sentence that someone writes, and break it up and try to analyze it? Couldn't this one just be for fun, without harsh judgments and criticism? GEESH!! Everyone needs to lighten up, even me on occasion!
sofakingmad Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Honestly, they ALL sound crazy. You haven't gotten past the first date in how long? None of these rules (which ARE written, by the way...you did WRITE them down!) should apply to the very, very beginning stages of dating. You're way too uptight and controlling. Loosen up, get to know people. Let go of being so darn rigid. exactly.
Hazy Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Why must everyone take every little sentence that someone writes, and break it up and try to analyze it? Couldn't this one just be for fun, without harsh judgments and criticism? GEESH!! Everyone needs to lighten up, even me on occasion! I was just thinking that.
allina Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 I'm still waiting for a reply to my previous post DA. How has your real life dating life been? How many good relationships have you been in? How are all these women in your life doing with these rules, anyone interested in you?
love necessity Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 If you want to date, then date - But if you are getting to know her, you gotta let her vent abit about her day abit if she needs to. Just like you should be able to as well. Exactly, when your in a relationship, you suppose to share your feelings. Is she suppose to be happy and chirpy everyday, and then one day explode into a big massive fire ball? I don't think so, people like that tend to be more aggressive anyway. She has a mouth, and if she can't use it with you, then she won't be around for very long.. Callwaiting is RUDE and I hate it. That's what answer machines are for. Nothing worse than someone calling you then they put you on hold to answer the other line. If they're gone for more than a minute, I hang-up the phone. I disagree, there is nothing rude about hold, to answer another line, that is what "call waiting" is for. Now, it's different story if your in with someone and are constantly putting them on hold to answer your cell phone. Now, that is what I would call rude!
Touche Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 I'm still waiting for a reply to my previous post DA. How has your real life dating life been? How many good relationships have you been in? How are all these women in your life doing with these rules, anyone interested in you? Allina, I think he did answer that here: So which ones sound the craziest? These have been my unwritten rules for years and probably why I will be alone in my underwear tonight watching the cosby show As for the "rules"...some are ridiculous and others are reasonable. I'd drop all of them for now then and just concentrate on enjoying yourself with a woman.
LoveLace Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Why must everyone take every little sentence that someone writes, and break it up and try to analyze it? Couldn't this one just be for fun, without harsh judgments and criticism? GEESH!! Everyone needs to lighten up, even me on occasion! There are judgements and criticism all over this site...in case you haven't noticed...and it IS fun, that's why I'm here...look, the guy sounds like he wants to be too controlling and other people on this thread said the same thing....I wasn't "analyzing"...I was "commenting"....
LoveLace Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 . And instead of constantly pointing fingers, perhaps you should look at what YOU do for women - whether or not YOU might be violating their "unwritten rules." It's 50/50, ya know? D I T T O
LoveLace Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Yeah I will try to work on that, but i tend to get uncomfortable if 2 days goes past and I don;t hear from someone If 2 days go by and your anxious, just call her...once. If she doesn't return the call or seem interested or whatever, you've done your part in letting her know you like her, and that's all you can do at that point. After that, let it go.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 DA take the board out of your @$$ and relax alittle. sheesh. did you ever set up another date with the pretty girl that you blew off? In the process of setting up a date with her now
Krytellan Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 If 2 days go by and your anxious, just call her...once. If she doesn't return the call or seem interested or whatever, you've done your part in letting her know you like her, and that's all you can do at that point. After that, let it go. Agree completely. Look DA, every girl is different than the one before, not an evil twin of the girl before. Learn that or be miserable (notice the direct causal relationship is not implied but stated). Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at least once. How many times depends on where you fall on the assertive------------------passive continuum. If you make it an understanding within yourself beforehand that you are OK with 1 follow-up phone call after leaving a message, then doing it does not make you weak. Weak is when you buckle in the face of your own convictions. Know your convictions, follow them, and you will always have pride in your actions.
tinke Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 i have to agree with switching over to call waiting, i find it rude, also. if at times an important call is expected, say so upfront. many times i will just ignore call waiting when in a conversation..it will show up on caller ID, and the call can be returned. just something that gets under my skin....
underpants Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 I agree with some of the posts here. You seem to have ...a list of points that a girl must adhere to to (in your eyes) be deemed acceptable. This train of thought however (healthy on basic terms) can also be limiting. I fear you might be too...cross off the list before you really know them and can say...Hey, whats up with that? Without sounding ...early. I don't have call waiting, but if someone calls me and I feel ...ignored. I simply end the call and say I'll catch you later. Some of your rules just need a little behavior modification. You are obviously dating and that is great. It should be great (darn it to heck). Have fun, thats all I want to say. If you meet a girl that floats your boat then, still have fun (don't judge), and be yourself. However, someone wise once told me that "you have to love yourself before anyone else will." There should be no rules to being yourself, just be open and accepting. The rest (I hope) falls into place.
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