blue16 Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 In the Fall I am creating a basketball team for a league with a few buddies of mine and some guys I played high school basketball with. Towards the end of last year I made comments to a friend of mine (who isn't a great basketball player, but not awful) how we should try to form a team for this league. He agreed and said he knew a couple of people who might be interested. We never made any official plans and talks about forming the team subsided as we both kind of forgot about it - myself included. But a few months ago I was speaking with another friend of mine (who is a good basketball player) said he played in the basketball league last year and mentioned it was pretty competitive...even the 'B' league was tough. I regained my motivation for making a team and I began to realize that in order to do well or even compete in the league I would have to assemble a strong team. I contacted a couple of my other friends and old high school teammates in order to get the best team I could. The league is in a couple months and I do have most of the roster assembled. A month or so ago my friend, the one who isn't great at b-ball, made a comment asking if I was going to create the team for the fall league. I told him I wasn't sure at this point (lie) and he questioned whether he is good enough to play stating "I'll probably get killed won't I?" I tried to brush off the question saying it was "up to him" etc... The main issue is that I don't want my friend on my team...but I'm not quite sure how to phrase it. He's a good guy and all but this is a competitive league and space is fairly limited on the team. I'd love to play with all my good buddies, but at the same time I'd like to win and I don't want to anger my other teammates for bringing 'sub par' basketball players on the squad. He is not a BAD player perse but he would definitely be draggin down the team to a degree when someone else could step in and do a much better job, sorry to say. I don't want to continue forming the team behind his back and then he finds out mid-season that I joined the league without his knowledge. I'm not quite sure of a way to let him know that "Yes, I am forming a team for the fall" but indicate that he's not quite ready (skillwise, or height wise ) yet.
norajane Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 I'd love to play with all my good buddies, but at the same time I'd like to win and I don't want to anger my other teammates for bringing 'sub par' basketball players on the squad. He is not a BAD player perse but he would definitely be draggin down the team to a degree when someone else could step in and do a much better job, Have you discussed with your other teammates whether they would care if a 'sub par' player joined the team, or are you assuming they would get angry? You have to decide what is more important - you friendships, or winning. From what I know of life, I would say protecting your friendships is a hell of a lot more important in the long run than winning a game. Your friends are with you your whole life, and in every realm of of your life. A game is an hour a week. From what I know of league play, there are often times when people can't make it to the game and the team has to forfeit because they don't have enough players, or they have to scramble to get a substitute. You might want to have extra players on your team. In the end, I'd say you're better off joining someone else's team on a league than starting your own if you're going to have to hurt your friend in order to do it. Or find a less competitive league. Or just plain old have fun and not care if you win 'em all.
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