thegoodshepard Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 The beginning of July I broke up with my g/f. She told me this March that she had NPD and I hadn't a clue in the world what that was. We had been together for 2 years. I saw things but was in pure disbelief. It was like she turned a switch off and from then on it was pure h**l. I did as much research as I could. Everything I read was her and said pretty much run, but I couldn't run as she has a son and he means the world to me. So, I told her I would support her if she went to thereapy or I would leave. So, here I sit, single. I'm not too worried about me, I know I did everything I ever could for her and nothing I could do would be good enough, it is her son and mother that I am still sick over. Her son is the "most wonderful" kid in the world. He is 9 years old and so quick to learn anything. It kills me to see what she is putting him through. His natural father is an abusive drunk and has very little contact with him, one night a month. He now wants to move in with his Grandmother, her mom. He understands how instable his mother is and just wants stability in his life. I don't blame him at all:cool: Next is her mother, the most wonderful woman I have ever met. She is so caring and compasionate. She has helped me alot with everything her daughter has done to me. Two weeks ago I started getting emails of everything about her, who she is dating 3 days after our split, all of her bills that she had lied to me about, and almost a daily schedule of what she is doing. I really think they are from her. There is also a 15 page conversation that reveals every lie she has ever told her mother. So...stupid me contacted my ex and asked what the heck this was all about. Of course, she freaks on me and deny's everything. Then a day later she wants the copies of those emails I have. I know it is true, everything in there is so true. I want her mother to read them but I also know it may ruin there relationship. I don't want anything negative to happen with her son either. So, with that said, any suggestions on what to do?
tinke Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 don't send the e-mails..you owe her nothing. plus, you are placing yourself in a position you shouldn't...don't interfere with family business. if she is out of your life, don't continue to read/concern yourself with future e-mails. you can suggest to the mother that the son wants to live with her, perhaps to give the mom time to get herself together, etc. also, you can mention your concerns for the child...let the mother monitor things from there. it is very unhealthy for you to be out of the relationship and keep involved within her family.
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