Lucky555 Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 So now i am just living a semi-lie. Well my interest in this guy i wanted to "stop seeing" has declined do to his drinking, smoking, and drugs. He said these things 1. I don't ever drink i know u think i drink a lot. 2. i am going to stop smoking.. 3. I only do weed now and then I had read that if i cannot except this man the way he is now, then there is no point in carrying on with this. So i decided even though i like him, care about him, ect. I can't live with anyone nor do i want to kiss anyone with those things about them. I only find them out later on moreso. i thought he was a casual drinker hhahaha right. i didn't know he smoked either of the two......until later. Now i am working with this guy and a bunch of his friends. When i was about to call things off i let a friend of mine know at work that i was going to call it quits. Then he called me to discuss our circumstances...and i was honest i do enjoy time with him, and he has said before that he knows what the problems are, except he isn't done with smoking either of the weed or the cigs, he has cut down on drinking though. But, still its not enough for me. Hes cheap, i had paid for our last two meals, i drive us places, and then my birthday comes- do u think he did anything special? Flowers? Card? ANYTHING! "happy b-day" is what i get. seriously!!!!!!!! this is a ladies man for sure, he knows i have caught on and has become really attentive. He invites me to go places except i don't want to anymore for fear i will have to PAY or DRIVE him around. Now i want out but i ran into attitudes from the last guys "his friends" that i work with. Another thing is that when i told him this tues, that i want to take it slow and just hang out now and then if we both decide to that it would be ok. There was a point where he wanted to call me his girlfriend. I had also caught on to the fact that for about the first 4 dates we went to "NICE" places after that he started saying lets stay at home and watch movies and then he tried to make his "moves" I have met his family and friends but i think its a ploy to get me to open up to him to let him be my boyfriend so he can get some action. He parades me around to all his friends and brags about me, maybe he should do something with his life and brag about himself! I hate living a lie but work will be over soon so i am planning on sticking it out till then and then i will get very busy, he isn't losing interest its moreso a challenge for him i think.. If he was interested in a relationship then he would be wanting to see what i want out of life and my dreams and goals ect! he never talks about my family either, he doesn't ask how many brothers or sisters i have or anything personal like that. I just hate being kissed and knowing that its not what i want....freaking cigarettes disgust me seriously. SUCKS TO BE ME right now. I also hope that the more lax i seem the less interested he gets hoping!
Cobra_X30 Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Sounds like you have things well in hand. Good for you! Best of Luck.
jcster Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Are you saying that you will have trouble at work if you break up with this guy? That's terrible! I hope your job ends soon. In the meantime...why don't you start getting "headaches" in the evening, and tell this guy you can't hang out.
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