alexa137 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 i couldnt believe my life could any worse when my boyfriend tells me yesterday hes leaving me and wants me to have an abortion-I feel like dying! i feel ive been punished-all i do is cry and i cant eat and i am sick-he says he doesnt care-how can you say you love someone for a year and a half and then when he was the one who wanted me pregnant as soon as i am he acts disgusting-i want to kill him! and he is being so mean to me! i told him i was gonna throw his clothes out today if he moves out! he threatened to kill me-told him he better watch what he says or does to me or i will take away the Jeep(its in both out names) what i dont understand is that i have dealt with all his crap and now he is turning it around on me! wrong time for all this i am freakin pregnant! you dont do this to a pregnant woman! i am so furious! i broke the wine rack and a chair last night! threw away stuff-i have so much anger--im depressed and just would like to get hit over the head to get amnesia!
tinktronik Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Alexa, Im so sorry you are going through this. How old are you and what is your financial situation? Do you work? Go to school? Do you have family support, or family near by? How about friends? Don't worry about b/f threats right now , if he leaves , let him go and then sit down and make a list of things to straighten out and baby pros and cons to figure out what to do . How far along are you? Did you get preggers on purpose or accident? If he does take the car there is always another way .
Author alexa137 Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 i didnt get pregnant on purpose at all! i was on the pill for years weve been together since last april, this past march i stopped the pill and he tried and tried(everyday) even took male fertility test and wanted me to go to a clinic! i didnt though--i took home tests every other week or so and always negative-i didnt think i could get pregnant-but i just lost 23 lbs so maybe thats why then the beginning of july i started to get bad cramps, no period thought about STD, endometriosis, PID etc..til i decided to get urine test and yep positive-i was so disappointed(bad timing kinda) things were going ok we just got back together after fighting about him cheating on me-he was happy about pregnany til about a week ago started fighting again having problems(long story-i have numerous posts of here since march i could write a book!) i am 36 yrs old with a 10 yr old daughter who doesnt know her father and i told my boyfriend i will not do this alone again! hes been asking me to marry him for months bought me a ring and everything and now hes leaving me! i am about 6-7 weeks pregnant--supposed to get a sonogram today to find out for the abortion bcause i dont want to do the suction one thats gross--maybe the pill methodbut you have to me less than 7 weeks!
Author alexa137 Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 i work two part time jobs--financial situation sucks-he does give me some money weekly not as much as i think he should be he complains that my daughter is disrespectful and i treat him bad--but believe me i try--i do more than any other woman would do--and hes even told me that he would have left me before--i think its to the point we will never leave each other alone no matter what! i just wish he would be more sincere and do more of what he says and stop being so mean to me--i really havent dont anything wrong-ive tried to discipline my child and alot ive done wrong like when he came along( i was single 6 yrs before him) i gave all my attention to him-it was alot of first with him, first guy i lived with,first guy to tell me he loved me(and meant it) alot more! my family knows nothing! they would seriously disown me! they think men are out the make women pregnant and etc... they dont really like him either since all that he has put me through i have one good friend and she is against all i say so really we are butting heads right now
Author alexa137 Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 i dont want to--we were supposed to be in this together-i really didnt want a baby(too old) tired of being a single parent and he wanted it way more than me(its his first child) oh to add to the drama-i found out that the girl he cheated on me with is also pregnant! what a bomb dropped on me the other day! she says its his but hes saying its not-who knows? she has a boyfriend and i think shes a little tramp! who has ruined my life with him the past 3 months! yeah i know i shouldve have left him that time i found out! but its so hard to let go of your first love especially when they wont let go!
whichwayisup Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I'm sorry that you're going through this.... Please, go talk to a counsellor, be sure this is what you want. Your bf is scum! And, I think there's something wrong with him, he's done a 180 so quickly! Also, if he threatens you again, call the police.
tinktronik Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 i dont want to--we were supposed to be in this together-i really didnt want a baby(too old) tired of being a single parent and he wanted it way more than me(its his first child) oh to add to the drama-i found out that the girl he cheated on me with is also pregnant! what a bomb dropped on me the other day! she says its his but hes saying its not-who knows? she has a boyfriend and i think shes a little tramp! who has ruined my life with him the past 3 months! yeah i know i shouldve have left him that time i found out! but its so hard to let go of your first love especially when they wont let go! If you would not have the baby without him , get the abortion . This girl did not ruin your life , your lifes not ruined , but he cheated on you , not her . Let her take him, have his baby and you stay away from him and keep him out of your life for good.
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 If you would not have the baby without him , get the abortion . This girl did not ruin your life , your lifes not ruined , but he cheated on you , not her . Let her take him, have his baby and you stay away from him and keep him out of your life for good. Good solid advice tink. If for some reason you feel you can't have an abortion, consider adoption as a feasible alternative.
Freedom Now Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Please consider adoption. It really is the most loving option for your baby.... Peace to you... FN
darrin Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 i won't comment about the abortion possibility because i'm a man and no one really can tell a woman what to do in this situation. i do feel strongly that the man is your problem, not the baby. true, the two would always be connected and you would have a tie to your ex. for sure kick him to the curb.
Author alexa137 Posted July 30, 2007 Author Posted July 30, 2007 hes against the adoption he couldnt believe i even said something! he would want me to give it to him-i am so confused- i have so many thoughts etc going through my mind all day long andto make it worse he left me and moved out last night-- this might sound wrong but i think if i dont have the baby and 9 months down the road the other girls baby is his then i feel like she won him or whatever! then again i think if i do have this baby my life will be ruined for 18 years! but i will also have contact with him(which is wrong) but i just wished i wasnt pregnant it would be so much easier to break up this was all his idea and now all we do is fight yesterday he kicked me and i threw a vase at him bcause i keep accusing him of being with the slut! he says hes not doing anything this time! i feel i need some kind of revenge for all the hurt he has caused me
a4a Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 hes against the adoption he couldnt believe i even said something! he would want me to give it to him-i am so confused- i have so many thoughts etc going through my mind all day long andto make it worse he left me and moved out last night-- this might sound wrong but i think if i dont have the baby and 9 months down the road the other girls baby is his then i feel like she won him or whatever! then again i think if i do have this baby my life will be ruined for 18 years! but i will also have contact with him(which is wrong) but i just wished i wasnt pregnant it would be so much easier to break up this was all his idea and now all we do is fight yesterday he kicked me and i threw a vase at him bcause i keep accusing him of being with the slut! he says hes not doing anything this time! i feel i need some kind of revenge for all the hurt he has caused me Well have the baby and of course use it for a pawn for revenge! Face it .... he doesn't want you or this child in his life. You can force that as much as you like but it want serve you to do so, nor the child. If you so wish you were not pregnant - you have a choice not to be. Tell him to pay for the abortion and get out of your life. From this physcial altercations it is a clear sign that neither of you are prepared to be parents. Doesn't a child deserve a loving home with loving capable parents?
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