Tom725 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Iam just curious on a womans perspective on this.....men don't like to appear needy but don't wanna seem evasive either. What seems to be a happy medium?
shadowplay Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Could you be more specific? How well do you know the girl? Are you sure she likes you?
chasinghappiness Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Well, because all women are different (and we are incredibly hard to understand)...this is a tough question. I can tell you that I, personally...don't like a man to appear too needy, but I definitely want to know that he's interested in me and things going on in my life. A relationship should be about two people that compliment each other and bring out the best in one another....not co-dependence and neediness. With this said...I think as long as you are yourself, you should be able to find someone that can appreciate you for you. Just know that although some women might want a man who clings to them, others want one they have to chase after. I truly don't know about a "happy medium". I would say...Just be kind, sincere, honest, respectful and interested in the other person's well being...and you should be just fine. Best of luck!
jcster Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 There's a big difference between being needy and appearing interested. I guess the easiest way I could put it is that you need to show the woman that it's important to you that you see her, without giving the impression that you will be crushed if you don't.
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 The word need is used in such a discretionary fashion per user... Be yourself from the start. If you're compatible, it will work, if you're not, it will either fade away or crash and burn. I really hate all the pretense. People utter so much garbage and pretend to be something they're not at the beginning of a relationship. Never pretend. If you plan to change yourself at core level, do so before entering any relationship.
LoveLace Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Think of it this way: if your dating a woman, at what point do you consider her to be too "needy"? Don't do anything you wouldn't want a woman to do. Don't make it seem as though you revolve your world around her, just let it be known if you like and want to spend some time with her. But some women might consider certain things to be over-the-top while other women wouldn't -- like some girls like to get flowers, but others think it's too much. You basically have to assess what kind of a person your talking about, in order to know what they are comfortable with or not comfortable with. Some people are only happy with at least a phone call per day, while others would feel smothered by that....But like everyone else would tell you, just be yourself and things will either click into place or they won't.
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