vivi Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 One of the more valuable things about this board for me is sharing information about MM patterns, and realizing that something I thought was unique and special is really typical. This board, for instance, made me realize that "I'm not having sex with my wife," is a line. He means "I'm not having enough sex" or "I'm not having the right kind of sex." The healthy man I know could no more be in bed with a woman without doing something about it than he could grow wings and fly. What other lines are out there, and what do they really mean? I know the big ones are "I can't leave because of my kids" and "I don't want to hurt my wife." What other lines have you heard and in what situations? I want to be prepared. thanks
Author vivi Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 Oh, wait! How about "I wish my wife would find another man and leave."
TogetherForever Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 "I'm leaving you ***, I'll be over to pick up my belongings" That was s/o's line to his wife. Just to add a spin on it instead of mm lines to ow. That was a line said to a bs. But in my case, it wasn't just a line, it was a truth:).
justice Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 How about the one my exh when I found out about his affair said to me? "It didn't mean anything, it was just sex, and it wasn't very good sex?" Yeah, riiiight! That's why I'm divorced.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 My wife doesn't understand me. I think she's had an affair. My wife and I have no sex at all. My wife only does it missionary position... no other way. My wife refuses to give me heads. My wife is not a good lover that's why I lost interest. This is my secret garden. We are the best friends in the world... only the sex sucks. My wife gained so much weight that I am not sexually aroused anymore.
Hazy Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I love you. (I am not an OW and never will disrespect myself to be one, however.)
Author vivi Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 Wow! This is my secret garden!! That's a beaut, Lizzie!! and Justice, thanks for that one, too. I'll bet another popular one is "She's not as good looking as you/I don't know why I did it..." keep them coming. this is HUGELY entertaining and enlightening. How about those vague, meaninless promises, like "You'll meet my folks...someday."
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 We're joking about it... but a lot of these lines are the truth though... Some MM DO fall in love with the OW... it is not uncommon... and I know, from some W, that there is no sex in their M. So we can joke about it all we want...but the reality is that some lines are true...
TogetherForever Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 "I'm really excited for you to meet my family" Another truth not just a line.
forbidden fruit Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 If I would met you before I was married I would be with you..... If I was single I would be yours..... I love my w, but I am not in love with her...... I sleep in my own bedroom....... You are my best friend...... You make me feel young......... You are what I want, but she is what I can do........ I do not want to hurt you, but I can't hurt my family either....... My w changed and not for the better the minute wwe got married..... We can't have sex because I feel too guilty, but I still want too..... We will be together someday... I will care about you until the day i die...... I think about you all the time........ If only my W was more like you........ I am just getting started these were on a daily basis
Author vivi Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 Yes, "I love you." That's the neutron bomb of MM lines when push comes to shove....the structures remain but there's no life inside. Oh, wait "I never felt like this before."
Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Gosh I have so many but let me pick some of my faves: On his wedding day: "I had to get drunk on my wedding day just to get over the whole day, and I don't even drink" On his feelings for his W: "I love her like you love your dog" On why he dumped me with no explanation once she found out we were together: "If I leave her she suffers and I hurt her and feel very sorry for her, if I leave you we both suffer so I don't feel sorry for you because I hurt myself too" (that's my fave line of all time LOL, unbelievable) On what was taking him so long to get his D: "I need time, everyone does things in their own time" On why he was dragging his feet re the D: "Do you want me to buy more furniture for my place to ensure you I will not got back with my W?" On why he moved back in with his W after we broke up: "You wouldn't return my calls and plus she needed me there...she lost her job" Could post so many more lines but I am embarassed to even keep going WOW how did I EVER fall for all that crap?!!
Author vivi Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 FF, I hope this doesn't hurt you, but this is really valuable and I think it will be helpful to other people. I am hearing similar stuff, like "I'm not going anywhere/I hope you'll be in my life for a long time." I'm also interested in lines you hear when the MM has been caught in a lie.
Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I'm also interested in lines you hear when the MM has been caught in a lie. "I don't know why I did it?"
justice Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 "If you love me, you'll wait for me to get things settled" My ex told his ow that. Right afterwards, he threw her under the bus. Sucked to be her.
tinktronik Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Im not an OW but my exH was a serial cheater..... .I don't know what to do ..... Im so confused ........... He used that one so many times on the OWen , plus others listed here .. But it was amazing how much time confusion will buy with some people.
Meaplus3 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 One of the more valuable things about this board for me is sharing information about MM patterns, and realizing that something I thought was unique and special is really typical. This board, for instance, made me realize that "I'm not having sex with my wife," is a line. He means "I'm not having enough sex" or "I'm not having the right kind of sex." The healthy man I know could no more be in bed with a woman without doing something about it than he could grow wings and fly. What other lines are out there, and what do they really mean? I know the big ones are "I can't leave because of my kids" and "I don't want to hurt my wife." What other lines have you heard and in what situations? I want to be prepared. thanks Good Thread! "But we have a History Together me and W" "If I were not married I'd have you here all the time" AP:)
TogetherForever Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Good thread but very sad to read all the "lines" that were given.
justice Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 "I'm really excited for you to meet my family" Another truth not just a line. My ex h's family, ugh, they were every bit in on his affair and knew before I did. If someone ever uses this line on me, I'll run in the opposite direction just as fast as I can go, of course, I'll never be an ow so this won't happen. LOL
TogetherForever Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 My ex h's family, ugh, they were every bit in on his affair and knew before I did. If someone ever uses this line on me, I'll run in the opposite direction just as fast as I can go, of course, I'll never be an ow so this won't happen. LOL When his family came to the realization that I was not just a fling, they were more willing to accept me into the family. That realization happened not too long ago after quite a few years. They were never "in" on our relationship. It wasn't until his wife told them that she would no longer be involved in any family fuctions , that they were willing to meet/accept me.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 "If you love me, you'll wait for me to get things settled" My ex told his ow that. Right afterwards, he threw her under the bus. Sucked to be her. I agree...it sucked to be her...but at one point, it sucked to be you..too the W....
Hurt & Alone Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I have only been with three woman in my life. 1. highschool girlfirend 2. College girlfriend (current wife) and 3. You I would be with you if I could You are one sexy woman I cant leave my w because we have been through to much together and she needs me For what it is worth I miss you (text messages) These are a few of the things I recall my xmm saying
Mino Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 How about " I am stucK" my brain wont let me think of leaving. My family is coming next month, I have to wait till they are gone. The summer is to stressful, Let wait till the fall. I can't think, I am numb right now because of all this stress. I think we need a break, cause I can't see you hurting like this everyday
TogetherForever Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 All those curves, and me with no brakes. :laugh:Lizzie you're the best!:laugh:
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