nycboii Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Hey I really need some help on this... My g/f and I were only going out for a little over 2 months but she used to tell me how she just already knew that I was "The 1" and how that she had Never felt this strong about anyone so fast and just abunch of stuff like that... I didnt feel the same way or anything but it still made me feel good you know... Well about 4 days ago she just decided that we needed to take a break because her parents were way too controling of our relationship and she said she wanted to give them time to start being more trusting and give her a little more freedom... We're only 18 but her parents would Always make her be home at the very latest of 10 O'clock and would just all of the sudden cancel our dates at the very last minute when I would be like 5 minutes from her house so I understand where shes coming from... She said she still wants us to be "talking" though which means we're about to go back out and not see other people... The thing is she doesnt even act like she likes me that much anymore though which really worries me... She said to just give it a couple weeks and then everything would be fine but I dont know if it will... What could I be doing untill then to make sure she's still going to be there for me?... And why do you think she's been acting like that if she really meant everything she said to me only like a couple days before she wanted to take a break?... I would really appreciate it if I got as much replys as possible on this
toodamnhott Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 hey buddy, Well I think its her putting up a self defense mechanism, how did you act when she told you her feelings? She might just want to see how much you care about her, she doesn't want to put herself out there to get hurt, and you just step on her heart. I would say just be real sweet to her, nothing to fancy. Cook her dinner one night if you can, or just pick up a movie SHE wants to watch (or take her to one {HER CHOICE}) I know its hard brother man but if you want her you gotta work for it. One night maybe ya too just walk the park, you know just simple things, keep it fun and everything should work itself out. Defiantly don't put no pressure on her though, and Im not trying to contradict my above statement, But women hate needy guys no matter how much they love you. remember im a guy, so probably at least half of what I said is probably wrong. but good luck.
Author nycboii Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 Hey thanks for the reply... But when she used to tell me that, I would always just tell her how sweet it was and how I had never felt this strong about anyone so fast either... Yeah I guess that does make alot of sense if it is her putting up a self defense mechanism,, I really never thought of that... But I dont think shes really trying to see how much I care because she knows I think the world of her and would do anything for her... But thanks for the tips on what to do,, but one of the things is that she doesnt really want to hang out right now to give her and her parents just like a week alone without doing anything but I do think I will do one of those things for her next time we do get to see each other.... But since we cant really hang out any this week does anybody know what I could be saying and telling her to keep her feelings intact and not wanting other guys???
brockdarock Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Hey nycboii, I know I can help you out. After reading, I really got the feeling that you wanted to know how you could "keep" her interested in you, right? Well, here's my suggestion: Encourage her independence - Huh? What am I talking about? This isn't logical, but it's how the game of attraction works. You specifically said "But since we cant really hang out any this week does anybody know what I could be saying and telling her to keep her feelings intact and not wanting other guys???" What should you tell her? Tell her to have a good time! Oh yeah, and don't forget about yourself. Make it a point to enjoy your own life so much that you have to fit her into your schedule. In all honesty, you will attract many more women (including her) if you do this. Think of it this way...what are 99.9% of other guys doing? They are acting needy and treating her like a goddess! Just play it cool and treat her as "one of the guys". Hope this helps. Post any more questions that you have and I'll try to help you out. Brock
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