KittenMoon Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 your S/O was reading a book (or watching a movie, etc) and was so saddened by it that they cried and sobbed? Like really cried, not just leaking tears. Because I do this often (like now, having just finished the last Harry Potter book, which had had some pretty sad parts). I've told people I cry, and I certainly know others do it too, but I gotta admit I'm pretty mortified at the thought of doing this around an S/O, being that none of it is real. I know these things can be emotionally investing, heck, I'm a writer so I know both sides of emotional attachment to a character or story, but still. I just imaging sitting on a couch someday, sobbing at some point in a novel I'm reading, and my S/O seeing it and having them react negatively. If your S/O did this, would you comfort them? Be unnerved? Be embarassed? Angry? Sympathetic? What?
alphamale Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 If your S/O did this, would you comfort them? Be unnerved? Be embarassed? Angry? Sympathetic? What? early on I would let it slide but if it became a frequent habit I would be pissed off and then ignore her.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I would definitely comfort him. I am extremely sensitive... I cry a lot when I watch a sad movie... I even start sobbing really loud one time at the cinema... my SO then, just put his arm around my shoulder and kissed me... I've seen my SO cried over a sad movie too... it's normal.. we're human, some emotions just can't be kept inside. It's all good... I like a man who is sensitive... soooo cute..
tinke Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 it would be very refreshing to me for him to show a sensitive side. after being with a non-communicative SO for many yrs., i would find the open emotions very welcomed.
sparkie Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 it would be very refreshing to me for him to show a sensitive side. after being with a non-communicative SO for many yrs., i would find the open emotions very welcomed. i dated a guy for a year and a half once, and at the beginging i loved that he was a "guy's guy", but still OCCASIONALLY shared his emotions.... then as the problems/fights began he kept crying more and more often about how he wanted to stay together.... im a very emotional guy, and fairly effiminate... but at the end i just thought he was being a big pussy...
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Shedding a tear here and there is sweetly sensitive, sobbing, get a grip...
Nemo Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 , get a grip... There's nothing like a good jerker. Tear jerker, I mean.
Trimmer Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I guess I would feel OK about it if the emotional reaction were in reasonable proportion to the issue at hand. Open sobbing might seem a bit excessive for Harry Potter. On the other hand, the end of Dr. Zhivago... But we all have our different sensitivities, of course... "Who saw Old Yeller? Who cried when Old Yeller got shot at the end? Nobody cried when Old Yeller got shot? I'm sure. I cried my eyes out." - Bill Murray, Stripes Another consideration - I would probably notice whether your reaction was in reasonable proportion to your emotional personality within our relationship... For example, if you were kind of emotionally buttoned-up and not overly demonstrative within our relationship, and yet you sob openly when an owl dies in Harry Potter, I might wonder how you are able to expose so much emotional energy to a book, and why you don't do so interpersonally in our relationship. So I guess for me, it would be all about how consistent and proportional your reactions are in the context of the rest of your life, personality, and relationships.
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