Rowdy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I was once told by an attractive female friend of mine that the key to getting any girl is giving them attention. I don't really believe that, but I thought it would be interesting to get the general female perspective on this.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 No doubt she has to be aware you're alive before she can be interested. More importantly, can you retain her interest?
tinktronik Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I would say on a scale of 1-10 I'm at least an 8. I get plenty of attention from the male populace ...(your hot.cute. sweet. funny ...blah blah ). I would say the one thing I admired about the man I'm with and the thing that landed me is that he did not focus in on those things (attractiveness) he got to know me as a person and spent plenty of time making sure he did not overdo the attention, thus my initial interest in him....the one ignoring me. That does make sense in some strange way.
Enema Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I would say on a scale of 1-10 I'm at least an 8. I get plenty of attention from the male populace ...(your hot.cute. sweet. funny ...blah blah ). I would say the one thing I admired about the man I'm with and the thing that landed me is that he did not focus in on those things (attractiveness) he got to know me as a person and spent plenty of time making sure he did not overdo the attention, thus my initial interest in him....the one ignoring me. That does make sense in some strange way. See now that's one version of "treat em mean keep em keen". Women
veronica12 Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Not only "yes", but "HELL YES!!!".As a woman, I want to feel valued and that I matter in my man's life.Attention goes a L-O-N-G way....and it doesn't have to be anything monumental.....a text message saying "I'm thinking of you!" does wonders.
Lizzie60 Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I was once told by an attractive female friend of mine that the key to getting any girl is giving them attention. I don't really believe that, but I thought it would be interesting to get the general female perspective on this. with your friend... Attention is the key... and the attention comes in many ways... being a gentleman, complimenting, sending flowers, a nice message, a note, the whole nine yards... The only time it can be a turn-off is when it's overdone, then it looks more like desperation and lack of confidence.
jcster Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Attention, attention, attention. Oh, and remembering what I've said....which comes from paying attention!
daphne Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 In the beginning, attention is good only when used sparingly. Don't kill attraction by trying to buy a woman. However, after the initial stages and when I start feeling like the guy has long term potential, I like lots of attention. That way, I won't feel like I need to get it from all of the other guys. But you'll still need to make sure it's not a constant flow because the woman will tkae you for granted and think your'e conquered. This kills attraction.
Hazy Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Of course you should pay attention to her, and if she is interested in you, she should pay attention to you as well. This is a no-brainer and comes naturally if you really want to be with someone, you pay attention to them! However as far as getting ANY girl, that is never guaranteed. Just because you pay attention to her doesn't mean she'll be interested in you.
tinktronik Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 See now that's one version of "treat em mean keep em keen". Women Not mean at all...I think he just knew that I in particular do not like lots of outlandish smothering attention . I get the attention I would like now as well as the alone time I prefer when I need it . When I say ignore I mean the rathered ignored in the obvious "I'm attracted to you way" instead he was just there , just my friend . And it eventually drove me nutty.
IpAncA Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Of course you should pay attention to her, and if she is interested in you, she should pay attention to you as well. This is a no-brainer and comes naturally if you really want to be with someone, you pay attention to them! However as far as getting ANY girl, that is never guaranteed. Just because you pay attention to her doesn't mean she'll be interested in you. Good post!
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