Tom725 Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. We were moving too fast and I think maybe she got scared and ended it. Well, I kept trying to hang on and she totally didnt stop contact. She contacts me more and more and says she misses me but isnt sure it would work out but indicates like she doesnt wanna let go. I think she is just afraid. I told her that us keeping in contact would be bad for me because it gives me mixed signals....I dont know how I should handle this...it seems delicate and I wanna make the right decision without being a wuss.....i wanna be with this woman but i dont wanna cling to something that won't happen.....Im confused on what to do
YellowLioness Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 You've already answered your own question. She broke up with you, she has no idea what she wants, but yet is terrified to let go because she is selfish. Do any of those reasons sound like good enough reasons to "wait" for some one? Not to me, and probably not to you. You should be the one upset, because you were the one dumped. She's selfishly not giving you time to heal. She doesn't sound like anyone in which I would personally be interested to invest time, effort and love, but its your call.
Goodin Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Hey Tom - I am in a similar situation except with the roles reversed. Me and my lady split about three weeks ago (long story I won't go into) but we are trying to decide if it is posible to work it out. Basically I am unsure what I want and confused about my life right now. I told her I am not sure about getting back into it yet because i want to be for sure so she doesnt get hurt again, but I dont want to lose her either, however I also told her that it is not right for me to ask her to wait on me. It hurts but I understand that she might need to move on. I feel it is the right and noble thing to do. Sounds like your girl is confused but she should let you move on while she figures it out. I would say she is just not accepting that you might have found someone already if/when she decides to come crawling back to you. I know that's what I'm going through. In my opinion you should tell her to take some space and have NC for awhile until she figures it out and in the meantime, work on moving on....and who knows what will happen....you might meet someone better suited for you, or you two might get back together.
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