Sassysammy43 Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Me and my soon to be husband have been together for two years. We are madly in love and have been since the day we met. Our relationship is close to perfect and everything i could have imagined. We are soulmates. There is one big problem that is affecting us. Over three years ago he dated a girl in high school for 9 months, they were in that puppy love stage. My fiance's mother left when he was 6 so he had alot of mixed emotions and told this girl he loved her when he didnt. Thankfully therapy helped him get his life back together. Anyways, they had a terrible relationship, she broke it off and never talked to him again. That is until we started dating- 6 months after they broke up. She would email, call, and drive by our homes. The emails were threatening ones and she would prank call us when she was drunk. she would even call his mother and fathers homes! She even had her current bf at the time call me adn tell me he was going to slit my throat! This went on for about a year when finally we had enough. We called her up and told her if she didnt leave us alone we were going to file a restraining order. We have had to cancel everything, our emails, aim, myspace's, facebooks ect. For about 5 months we didnt hear a peep from her until she has contacted us until last night, i signed on to an old aim and saw she was on. I wanted to see if she would contact my man so i signed on his and before his buddy list could even load i got an im, she said "hey hows it going saw you at your new work whats up"? I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE! we have tried everything adn we feel like we have no freedom. What should we do? my fiance wants to quit his job, its like just when we forget she even exsited i get a nasty email. She is ruining our lives and we just want her to stop!!! I am sooo mad i feel so disrespected and i just want her to fall off the face of the earth!!! HELP US WE NEED ADVICE!!!
Hazy Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Sorry, but I really don't see the big deal. She's IMing every once in a while. How is that ruining your lives, unless your bf is less than honest about his contact with her? Do you suspect there's somethin' a goin' on with them? If you don't suspect that, there's really no reason to get all worked up. She hasn't actually physically harmed you or anything plus she wouldn't have IMed if you didn't sign on with your boyfriend's screenname, so it's sort of like you were asking for it. Also, of you changed all your emails, etc., why did she have your boyfriend's current screenname? I feel that there is more to this story. He gave her his new screenname because he WANTS to have contact with her.
Author Sassysammy43 Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 His old aim to be precise and I guess your right its not that big of a deal just a big pain in the ass, I have sever anxiety so I tend to over analyze
Hazy Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 See I'd be thinking that she is just pathetic and wacko in the head and be feeling sorry for her.
Krytellan Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 First of all I'm surprised you were willing to stay with him through that crap. Anyway, I agree, it sounds like you did what you needed to do. Then you go and stir things up by "seeing" if she would contact him. You just started everything back up potentially, so accept your role in this new event. Also, just keep your mind open to the possibility that she is/was being fueled by your fiance. Though he says otherwise, is it possible he was playing a role in the communication and just blaming her?
Author Sassysammy43 Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 I also went to high with this girl and we never got along, I think it was just a major blow when we started dating, its not so much that she wants him back but she wants me to be in misery, she hated me and vice versa
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