Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 day care centres??? i wish. most of my work is evening and over nite anyway. and yes... it i easy to be a stripper these days n still struggle .. do u know how many clubs there are in London now.. LOADS and more new ones are STILL opening. there are SO many girls doing this sort of work now so there is alot more competition. we get the illegal immigrants coming over here and working in the clubs now. the clubs are getting greedy and employing way to many girls so its alot harder to make money then it was 5-6 years ago. back then i would make £400 a shift EASILY.. i was clearing £1000 a week no problems. nowa days im happy if i make £150-£200 per shift. the lapdance industry has changed alot
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 i cannot move in with mum. very long stories but i cant
hotgurl Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 day care centres??? i wish. most of my work is evening and over nite anyway. and yes... it i easy to be a stripper these days n still struggle .. do u know how many clubs there are in London now.. LOADS and more new ones are STILL opening. there are SO many girls doing this sort of work now so there is alot more competition. we get the illegal immigrants coming over here and working in the clubs now. the clubs are getting greedy and employing way to many girls so its alot harder to make money then it was 5-6 years ago. back then i would make £400 a shift EASILY.. i was clearing £1000 a week no problems. nowa days im happy if i make £150-£200 per shift. the lapdance industry has changed alot If you worked or went ot school during the day could you find daycare. Would the counsil keep helping you if you went back to school? If you don't make great money stripping anymore perhaps it is time to find another line of work. Like I have said I've been were you are now and it sucks. But it made me take a long hard look at my life and where I wanted to go. I needed to change what I was doing so I could ensure a better future for my child.
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 no... i have never got to the point where i run out of food/money totaly before. i have been struggling for a few months but it hasnt been this bad yet.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 You know I agree that you have certain priorities in your life when you have children , food water shelter hugs kisses ect. .... But being a young woman that has also been a single mom of not one but three children ; I think there is almost always a day when you run out of money/ food ect . The key is that it only happens ONCE, you learn your lesson , pull up your bootstraps and fix the situation for good so that it does not ever happen again. The question for Emma would be is this the way her life is standard or is this an isolated circumstance? I agree. Only once. You have to learn your lesson. Emma has debt up to her eyeballs, a dead-end job which she's trying to correct and most importantly, a child to support. The best way to get out of that, is to try to get solvent and not rely on others in any way, offered or otherwise. One way to do that is to get rid of your luxuries until you're down to basic necessities. It's the same way a bank looks at whether they'll give you a loan. Try to reduce your monthly cash flow out so it's a reasonable amount.
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 well if i do one evening stripping i make about £150-£200.. somtimes on a good day £300. modeling i can get anything from £100-£400 depending on the job. i would rather do 1 evening n make that then do 1 day in an office, shop, etc and make £40-£50. as i said earlier... when my daughter goes to full time school in abotu year i am going to go to college to do personal training and nutrition diploma.. that way i dont have to pay for any childcare if she is at achool all day
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 ps - i dont have any luxuries. trust me... im living on bare essentials as it is for the time being.. i have the s***test tv ever.. the money i would get for it would be pointless. i lost all my fancy things when i split with daughters dad.. i left them all with him coz i moved out suddenly into a little refuge and would have had no where to put them. the computer is not mine to sell. i think some of you arent really reading my posts properly.. u keep repeating the same old things over and over and over and i keep answereing things over n over n over
Chinook Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 As far as Chinook, well just because he stole and got fired doesn't mean he doesn't have a job NOW. Believe me, I've hired people with felonies when I was a manager of a temp agency. So you must never assume. Chinook, are you saying that this man will NEVER work again the rest of his life? Come on! You know, I have hired and fired people day in and day out for years. Touche you don't live in the UK. The UK has a very large unemployment problem in the inner cities. If there is someone with a criminal record or a poor work record, I can quite honestly say that yes, it is very unlikely he will work again - because there are far more trustworthy people out there who will be less likely to cause their employer any issues. Similarly, if a person has a work record with large periods of unemployment, irrespective of the circumstances, that person isn't even likely to get an interview. It sounds harsh but unfortunately, it's true. The UK has become VERY profit and consumer led in recent years and employers simply do not give people the chance to prove themselves.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 ps - i dont have any luxuries. trust me... im living on bare essentials as it is for the time being.. i have the s***test tv ever.. the money i would get for it would be pointless. i lost all my fancy things when i split with daughters dad.. i left them all with him coz i moved out suddenly into a little refuge and would have had no where to put them. the computer is not mine to sell. i think some of you arent really reading my posts properly.. u keep repeating the same old things over and over and over and i keep answereing things over n over n over Is there any way to get them back or has he sold them?
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 alot of people dont understand how hard its getting to live in London and surrounding area. its got so expensive to live and getting work is alot harder. which is why the crime is just getting worse and worse as people are doing other things to get thier money.
Chinook Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Is there any way to get them back or has he sold them?TBF, Emma said this guy was physically abusive to her and kicked her in the stomach whilst pregnant with his child, I don't think that it would be in her interests to go back and get her things.
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 lol those things are long gone... he split up with his ex and he left them with her and she sold them to pay for the £3000 debt he left her with
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 TBF, Emma said this guy was physically abusive to her and kicked her in the stomach whilst pregnant with his child, I don't think that it would be in her interests to go back and get her things. If she brings people with her, I see no reason why she shouldn't be able to do this.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 lol those things are long gone... he split up with his ex and he left them with her and she sold them to pay for the £3000 debt he left her with Okay then it's gone. Do you have any jewelry left at all? Also, how much is your cable bill per month?
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 i dont need money quick now. i have said this a few times. my mum has sorted me out till weekend n then ive got a job and another one the following weekend and i have had a few emails which will probably lead to a few more jobs. if i get this job at sky im going for then i will be sorted. i think i have a high change of getting it though coz it was them who saw my portfolio and offered me the the interview i dont have any stuff that is worhty of selling .... i have never brought expensive jewlerry as i always lose things n itd break my heart to lose something i had spent alot of money on. i just buy silver with cubic zirconia.. and i would get f-all money for that
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 cable???? i dont have cable.. im not that stupid as u all may think i have freeview which is free
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 anyway...... moving on... i did actualyl make the post to ask if yuo do thikn im a greedy B***h for expecting that money off the BF after we had the arguments. i would liek it if i got an answer to that by the way.. he phoned up and apologised earlier while i was in the middle of being called a bad mother and said he is sorry and he loves me and he knows he been really angry and irritable lately and he didnt not put the money in on purpous and he forgot and he was already out in resturant eating lunch when i sent him the text n didnt have time to go to the bank. i explained that i worked out my food, bills, around his £20 and i was kinda of relying on it and he said he understands and he is sorry. so i dont know wot 2 do now
tinktronik Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 anyway...... moving on... i did actualyl make the post to ask if yuo do thikn im a greedy B***h for expecting that money off the BF after we had the arguments. i would liek it if i got an answer to that by the way.. he phoned up and apologised earlier while i was in the middle of being called a bad mother and said he is sorry and he loves me and he knows he been really angry and irritable lately and he didnt not put the money in on purpous and he forgot and he was already out in resturant eating lunch when i sent him the text n didnt have time to go to the bank. i explained that i worked out my food, bills, around his £20 and i was kinda of relying on it and he said he understands and he is sorry. so i dont know wot 2 do nowJust b/c he appologized does not make him okay. Forget about him move on focus on yourself and eventully you will meet a guy who will want to meet standards much higher than this one.
jcster Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 by the way.. he phoned up and apologised earlier while i was in the middle of being called a bad mother and said he is sorry and he loves me and he knows he been really angry and irritable lately and he didnt not put the money in on purpous and he forgot and he was already out in resturant eating lunch when i sent him the text n didnt have time to go to the bank. i explained that i worked out my food, bills, around his £20 and i was kinda of relying on it and he said he understands and he is sorry. so i dont know wot 2 do now He didn't have time to go to the bank because he was eating lunch?!? What a jerk! No, I don't think you were greedy to want him to give you the money that he promised. I think he was ridiculously cruel to make the comment that he did over (essentially) $40! This guy made you wait for the money he offered, insulted you for inquiring about it, all the time knowing your situation and that you have a child. He's a jerk, plain and simple, and you would do well to stay away from him.
Touche Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Not that you care what I think, but I must say that I agree with Tink and JC. If you stay with this guy, then you're just not ready to break the pattern of destruction that you've created for yourself. Please try to reach down inside you and do better for yourself. You can do it. Many of us have.
Hazy Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Emma, my opinion now is that a couple posters were harsh on you, and gave you unsolicited opinions and advice about your job and child situation when that is not what you were posting to inquire, so I apologize you were treated that way. A poster stated that you were bordering on being a bad mother, and that is just wrong. As far as the guy thing, he did apologize and he did end up helping you. So he may be OK. I hope things work out. I wish you well.
zilverenvlinder Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 What a jackass. 20 freaking pounds?! He wouldn't fork over 20 freaking pounds to help you out?! Do you have parents or grandparents or anyone that can loan you any money, Emma? Or anyone you know that will pay you to just do some extra work for them for the time being? Like, I don't know...clean their house or babysit or do some yard stuff? I really, completely, honestly know what it's like to not have a SINGLE cent. For the month after I got fired, I was so poor that having gas in my car made me feel totally lucky for that day. I wouldn't worry about him. He's an immature moron. Take care of yourself and your kid, sweetie.
VIP Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Like many others, she seems to have a pattern of choosing losers. There may be an issue with self-esteem somewhere. If she could find a nice guy who would be serious about her, life would get a lot easier.
corazoncito Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Emma, I'm sorry this thread has gotten so weirdly off topic and people are making lots of unsolicited judgments. I hope you have had time to calm down and feel better. I just wanted to say that in answer to your original question, no you weren't being greedy or out of line to expect him to follow through on his offer of financial help. That said, let me offer my unsolicited judgment. PLEASE don't get back together with him, even if he apologized nicely. From your other threads it is clear that all this guy brings to your life is stress, anxiety, insecurity, and instability. This will never end. It's just the way he is. Everything positive you have in your life right now has come from YOU. You don't need him and I bet that if you stay away from him you'll find you are happier and calmer. 20 quid is probably EASILY what he spends on a night out with his friends, drinking, smoking, etc. But he was reluctant to give that much to you and your daughter when you're in need? Remember that if you are considering reconciling.
Tony Posted July 26, 2007 Senior Moderators Posted July 26, 2007 Posts that don't give caring advice to this member as it relates to the ORIGINAL POST in this thread will be deleted. This is a sensitive issue and you will see that if you will read the ORIGINAL POST in its entirety. This woman did not come to LoveShack for a lecture about her personal conduct. However, if she should subsequently ask for that in this thread, then fire away!
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