Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Get busy Emma. Quick ways to save money. Cut: - internet and cable connections. These are for entertainment value only. - sell your TV. - get rid of your cell phone. These are luxuries, not basic necessities.
Chinook Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 In the US the power company will provide the last years use to you for free and all you have to do is call and ask them.. give them the address and tell them you want to know how much the previous bills for the last year were.Art, you'd never get a power company here doing that. (OT: By the way, I like your sig. Nice reminder in the hope for the future I have at the moment)
Lishy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Oh My God you are all on a witch hunt! Ok let me tell you guys - Emma lives in the UK (hence the name) so you telling her how it is in America isnt helping! Emma I suggest you turn your pc off and stop reading this stuff! I understand your predicament 100% and I know if I was you I would be crying at what they are writing! Dont justify yourself hon, you are doing what you can, but with no help its hard. I know that feeling I am in the same position albeit I dont go without food as that goes before any bill. So she should seel her TV and cut her internet? Why not tell her to sell her clothes and her left lung? If you want to help guys then think about what you aren saying. And Emma you will sort it out hon, we always do eh!
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 allina i didnt mean you.. i meant touche saying about me spreading my legs as if im some cheap slapper. i fkn loved the guy at the time and i was blinded by love ... like i always seem to get with guys. i have free interenet .. it comes with my cell phone. i am no way getting rid of cellphone .. i need it in case of emergencies... my daugther has seizures so do not want to be stuck without a phone to call for help if this happens. i dont run up phonebills anyway.. i jsut pay the basic package and if i need to talk to someone i text becuase i get free texts as i said.. my mum took me shopping earlier so i am sorted till the weekend and then i have a job anyway which is good pay n then another job next weekend... so it'l sort me out for a while. panic over.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 More ways to save money to feed your child. - if you drink, stop buying alcohol. - never eat a meal that you have to buy. Cook at home and use nonquality cuts of meat. - if you have any real jewelry or items of value around the house, pawn it. - if you own a car, sell it, so you can get rid of the cost of running it and the insurance associated to it. - if you have any nice clothing, go to a consignment shop and have them sell it.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 There must be other strippers who have children. What do they do? Start asking around and seeing if you can't organize a few of them so you can line up a good caregiver to take care of all the children. Possibly the mother of one of the children or a grandparent? Go after the counsel. Tell them that you can't afford the place and you have to get out. Try to find a day job so childcare is easier to do. You must have more skills than pole dancing.
allina Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Can your busy mom send you some money each month for food? She may be willing to help feed her grand daughter. How old is your daughter? Can you do jobs like cleaning houses, dog walking? These are jobs you can do with your daughter around. I think you're in a position where every little bit counts. Also check out the food banks that TBF posted, if you can get half of your food for free it'll give you that much more money for rent/bills/anything.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Come on woman. Start taking responsibility for your life and more importantly, your daughter's life. Do it so she has a chance at life too. Forget men. Your daughter is tantamount.
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 i wanted advice about if i was being a greedy witch or not asking if the BF wud still help me out with that money... i didnt want all this crap. im the sort of person who starts to beleive something if im told enough... do u think it was very productive of touche to keep saying im a bad mother???? i only wanted the money to help me out until the weekend and then im sorted for a lil while. PS - i totaly forgot .... i have a job interview next week presenting on a sky tv channel. if i get the job i will only have to work 2 evenings a week and it will sort me out for good. my friend will have my daughter 1 evening per week (its flimed in central london and i have a friend who lives there) and i will have tp pay for childcare for the other nite.. but as the money is so good it wont hurt too much forking out for childcare, so ive got my fingers crossed that i get this job.. my problems will be over if i do
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Btw, here's a link to a site about free online educational courses for self-improvement. http://www.free-ed.net/free-ed/
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Lishy, perhaps you should review your posts and tell me how you managed to provide her with possibilities to feed her child and improve on her life.
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 i have kept saying that i have work at the weekend and next weekend which will sort me out for a while so why do u keep on telling me how to make money. i have had a terrible few weeks with money which has been the result of a slow build up of bills falling on my doormat .. yes i have struggled more since moving here and the last 2 weeks has been the worst couple weeks so far and its not been nice. but from the weekend things are going to be a touch better and it will tide me over for a while... i didnt say i was gonne be without food indeffinitly. i jsut needed the £20 to tide me over till the weekend when i do the job. if i get the job with the shy channel .. then problems over for good... if i dont ... then will have to see if there is any odd jobs i can do while daughter is there on top of the bits of adult work i do as for my mum paying for food every week.. i wouldnt ask that of her... she works hard but doesnt make alot of money.. she has alot of bills to pay herself .. i do ask her for help when i really really need it but i dont like to ask her too much coz i dont want her to think things are bad n she start worrying loads... she not that well and dont wanna cause her any excess stress
Touche Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Trial I think you are a fekkin idot! Why are you here? All your posts are useless (just like you) Read you advice and ask yourself what you have said to help! This is an advice board, not a witch hunt place! You should be ashamed of yourself! Emma You are not a bad mum hon - Good luck with your interview! What channel is it on? Lishy, that's just wrong. TBF, gave EXCELLENT advice. Why are you saying that to her? As far as Chinook, well just because he stole and got fired doesn't mean he doesn't have a job NOW. Believe me, I've hired people with felonies when I was a manager of a temp agency. So you must never assume. I think in part, what makes her a bad mother, is that she's cheating her kid out of HIS support money. He owes the daughter that. And she's mistaken if she thinks that means he gets automatic visitation. It doesn't mean that. If the courts deems he's not a fit parent then he won't. But he still has to pay child support. Chinook, are you saying that this man will NEVER work again the rest of his life? Come on! She's dropping the ball on that. And sorry, Lishy, I like you but you're so wrong here. There is no witch hunt. We're trying to help. You do it your way, and let the others try to help their way. She needs to hear some of what's being said. Obviously her way hasn't been working for her, wouldn't you agree?
tinktronik Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Emma, I would suggest dumping the boyfriend and focusing on improving your lot in life. I can hardly believe that you are a stripper but live in sub or council housing and are having so many money problems. How much do strippers make over there? You have been given many very good suggestions here . Most importantly , focus just on your circumstances and forget the guy and all guys for that matter untill you can stand well on your own two feet . I know just how hard it is but it can be done. I would check out the food banks and the educational links that were dropped here as it seems you have nothing to lose by doing so . Just because you have not figured out all of the solutions to your problems does not mean you are a bad mother , just that you should be focusing on something other that the latest dirtbag.
hotgurl Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I don't know how providing a link for free education is being an idiot. So I take it there is no daycare centers in London. What about University,.At my college they had daycare available and it was rolled into your fees. I have to say I know where Emma is comign from. I had my daughter at 16. There were times where we coulkd barely afford to eat. where I would cry myslef to sleep. But I never told myself I can't. I always found a way to make it work. Now I have a career a great BF & my own home. So you can do it. What if you move in with you mom and go back to school?
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Eggs in one basket again Lishy... The job isn't guaranteed. Her bills will not change.
Lishy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 She had a few bad weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!! She had alot of bills to pay - She never once said her kid was starving and crying for food. She asked for advice about her boyfriend, she had already sorted the food problem! Look at the advice ... Sell your tv your clothes and your phone WTF was that about???????????? I would agree with that if she was homeless and starving and had no prospects \ Jeeeeeeeze just read what Emma is writing you are not helping here you are making her feel useless! Ps ... I like you too Touche and this is not personal to you hon
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 She had a few bad weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!! She had alot of bills to pay - She never once said her kid was starving and crying for food. She asked for advice about her boyfriend, she had already sorted the food problem! Look at the advice ... Sell your tv your clothes and your phone WTF was that about???????????? I would agree with that if she was homeless and starving and had no prospects \ Jeeeeeeeze just read what Emma is writing you are not helping here you are making her feel useless! Ps ... I like you too Touche and this is not personal to you hon Wow, now that is self-entitlement. How much more important to own things... That's right, rely on someone else to bail you out for food. Unbelievable.
hotgurl Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 She had a few bad weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!! She had alot of bills to pay - She never once said her kid was starving and crying for food. She asked for advice about her boyfriend, she had already sorted the food problem! Look at the advice ... Sell your tv your clothes and your phone WTF was that about???????????? I would agree with that if she was homeless and starving and had no prospects \ Jeeeeeeeze just read what Emma is writing you are not helping here you are making her feel useless! Ps ... I like you too Touche and this is not personal to you hon I would sell my clothes, tv & jewelry is I need money for food because of a couple bad weeks. Yes she does have some jobs lined up with will help her short term but she probably needs to figure what to do long term so she won't be in this situation again. Plus your are not finacial stable if a couple bad weeks can put you in such a position. Is there no way to talk to the council about her increase bills? explain the situation. Maybe they can give her extra money for electricy.
Author emmaUK Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 no im not cheating daughter of out ex's money actually... i had the child support agency here (the people who deal with child maintenance) and i told them about him and they decided to let it stay how it was. THEY DECIDED TO NOT INVOLVE HIM. if he is out of her life HE DOES NOT HAVE TO PAY. get your facts stright before u keep going on n on n on (YAWN ZZZZZZZZZZZ) about what a bad mother i am.
Lishy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Have you never asked for help? She didnt even ask her boyfriend for help, he offered and she accepted and then he backed out of the deal. She will sort herself out but it cant all happen in one day and you telling her to sell everything is not helping her better herself is it? How would she attend interviews with no clothes? How would she get calls for interviews with no phone? How many jobs would she miss out on with no internet? She is being told to rely on friends and family for childcare after she stated she has NO-ONE to help!
Lishy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Try listening to what she is is saying before you clap your gums and make her feel worse! To call someone a bad mum is not very nice!
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Lishy, do you understand the term fiscally responsible?
hotgurl Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I do agree that it is hard to pursue child support in some instance. I have an order on my ex but he sleeps on people couches and works under the table gets fired a lot. So I rarley get supprt and the state pursues him. He'll get threatened with arrest and pay for 6 months or so and it all starts over again. What about moving in with you mom? Is that not an option? Won't england pay for School. I can't beleive there are no subsidised daycares!
tinktronik Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Lishy, do you understand the term fiscally responsible? You know I agree that you have certain priorities in your life when you have children , food water shelter hugs kisses ect. .... But being a young woman that has also been a single mom of not one but three children ; I think there is almost always a day when you run out of money/ food ect . The key is that it only happens ONCE, you learn your lesson , pull up your bootstraps and fix the situation for good so that it does not ever happen again. The question for Emma would be is this the way her life is standard or is this an isolated circumstance?
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