sonyjay999 Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 here is the situation and thank you for reading it i was involve with a girl who was very into me and very good to me in the relationship until one day i was having a bad day and something that im totaling against occur we had a big argument and because she wasnt listening i came out and call her a bad name, she told me i disrespected her and i know i did and i told her i was sorry. i regretted my action and was very disappointed in myself to make it up to her i brought her flowers and etc i tried to make it work, since that day she began to change her attitude towards me she began to distance her self, she chose to hang out with her friends more than i and i was left to hang out with my friend at one point i was hanging out with my friend more than her. i felt like i was being put on the backburner, everytime we will hang out she will always say im tired or i have a headache. from those excuses i knew we had problems, i tried talkin to her but one thing i have to admit she was always open about talkin things out or working on things but for some reason she wasnt makin much of an effort. i ask her several time what is going on, dont u feel that relationship is going downhill. we fought over petty stuff, but i still tried to make it work cuz i loved her. i asked her i wish the old u will come back and she told me it due time. ok, this was the killer, one day she calls me and tells me she is going out with the girls. i was cool with it but i told her to meet up with me afterwards because i wanted to see before i left on a business trip the following day and she agree to it, so when i got home my friend came over and pick me up to go to a bar, she text me telling me she will be going to this certain area which i was in, i suggested for us to meet up, she began to argue with me sayin this is girls night out my friend is havin issue and she doesnt want to be around guys and i was like ok there was no need for an arguement so she text 20 minutes later and said i will meet up with u in 30 minutes. i was cool with it, until a few minutes later we were given free premier tickets to watch a movie (blockbuster movie) so we decided to go. so i text her letting her know im going to see this movie. she call me upset telling me i dont believe your story, u think im fool to believe ur story she even ask which theater i didnt have nothing to hide so i told her, she began to argue and threaten me so i told her to relaz, then she told me im not going to see u tonight and i was hurt by it and i told u r a grown women u choose whats best for u but remember there consequences for ur action and i left it as that. so when i got out the movie theater i call her and she didnt answer she called me 3 hours later which is was too late to see eachother, i was so hurt by it and felt that the relationship lost its respect so i felt that it was time to end it and i did. when i got back from my trip she text me to read my email, in the email she wrote that she wishes me the best and hope to be friends and not enemies she wishes me that i find the person im seeking cuz she wasnt the one she still loves me and i will always have a place in her heart. i wrote back to her that i appreciate the kind letter and i wish her the best of luck. ok it has been close to a month since the break up she has contacted me atleast once every week, now i see this girl almost every morning on the way to work, she is always lookin at me and always tryin to catch my attention. the first incident her friend spot something on her clothin and she began to say why didnt i tell her that and i was like i didnt notice then she cross my path on purpose i walk very fast and i notice she was right next to me, but eveytime she sees me she always want to spark up conversation, just the other day i got a nice tan and her friend ask me where did i go and we began to conversate my x got into the conversation so when i was leavin i told all of them to have a nice day my x came out with a remark " u dont mean go ahead" and then i walk away she call me to wait for her to walk together we did small talk and that all. this is the situation, i still have feelings for her and i miss her i know she mess up at the end but i wont let her take the complete blame i did my share but she cause me to break up with her in the back of my head i wish she could go back to the way she was and if she could do that that we could be great together but i dont know what to do ? how to handle this situation>? if i should persuade her? with caution? (because i dont want her to toy with my feelings) any suggestions will be greatly appreciated? also do u think she still like me from what i have explain?
toodamnhott Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Dude man if you love her, defiantly go after her. And don't hold nothing back because if you do the relationship won't work, and you might as well not even get back with her.
brockdarock Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Hey sonyjay999, You wrote a lot, but to keep it short, I want to address the main point. "also do u think she still like me from what i have explain?" - Just to get you thinking in the right direction here...I want to throw out a few questions. Why do women gravitate towards the bad boys? Why do they want to feel a rush of excitement around them? Even if they know it's a bad relationship, why do women still stay in it? I'll tell you why...it's because ATTRACTION. Now, from what I've read, if you want to have a relationship with this girl you need to learn how attraction works. It's not a logical thing so you can't "persuade" her to like you. It just doesn't work like that. You need to trigger a spark of attraction with her to get things going again. But how? Well, for starters, use some cocky funny lines and be confident. Don't look for her approval and keep your cool around her. Show that you truly are the powerful man and that you can deal with issues. Also another main point: DO NOT accept second class behavior from her. If she throws a little temper tantrum (such as the one about the whole movie deal), just simply say "I'm not one of your girlfriends to complain to, so if you want to whine go bother them". I'm just trying to help you get some ideas of how to handle some of this stuff... Hope this helps you out a bit. Post if you have more questions. Brock
Author sonyjay999 Posted July 27, 2007 Author Posted July 27, 2007 thanks man how do u spark attractions? u mention not to chase her which im not but how do i get her back?
brockdarock Posted July 28, 2007 Posted July 28, 2007 how do u spark attractions? How do you spark attraction? Bust on her a bit. Misinterpret what she says to you - even if it's not intended to be a compliment. For example, let's say that you have a pair of shoes that you love to wear. Now, let's just say you're going out for a night out with her, BUT she can't stand it when you wear your ugly shoes in public! She could say something like..."Why did you have to pull those shoes out of the closet?" How would I respond? Put a little sly grin on your face and in a cocky & funny way say, "Hey, I never knew you liked these shoes! I'll make sure to wear them next time, too! You want this pair? I have an extras in the closet" Now, it's less about what you say and more about HOW you say it. Your body language, voice tone, eye contact....so many things will spark that attraction you're looking for. Just trying to get you to see some ideas.... Brock
Author sonyjay999 Posted July 30, 2007 Author Posted July 30, 2007 do u have email to chat thanks for the advice i havent contacted her in a while since last thursday i m just taking my time (not too much time) but i need to figure out if i want something with her sometimes i get mix feelings man sometime i get anxiety i dont know man i dont like this feelings and then there the time i miss her and wish everything was the way they were before we had that fight in the process i m working on improving my self and learning what cause us to fade and im working on improving that but i need to make moves soon or i might lose her what do u think which u think is more appropriate to do ask her for another lunch date or dinner? and why
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