rainfall Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 I don't think I would fall out of love with him. However if it was ALOT of weight to where it became a health issue I would probably always be nagging him to do something about his weight so that would probably cause other problems in the relationship.
Inmyopinion Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Im in this situation now. My wife has gained over 60 lbs since we met. Now I dont love her any less than the day I met her when she could wear bikinis that would fit in a cigarette pack. I love her more than anything in the world and wouldent leave her. But there is one problem. As Im not physically attracted to larger women, I have a very difficult time performing sexually. I wish it wasent this way but its a fact.
yergawd Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Im in this situation now. But there is one problem. As Im not physically attracted to larger women. Yeah, I was at the point with my ex, sex was maybe once a month. She went from 110 to 250+. I did not WANT to have sex with her, shallow? yeah I guess, but she had become less and less attractive. I stayed for almost another year before I left at that point no sex, no talking, No love, no point in being there. Let's flip the table a little, the man you married was in Law school very ambitious wanted to make a great life for the two of you, a year in he spends all his time on the couch and works at 7-11 do you stay?
Mary3 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 No ,I would not. A little extra bun in the oven is acceptable
directx Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 No ,I would not. A little extra bun in the oven is acceptable What if its the whole damn bakery?
shadowplay Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 She went from 110 to 250+. How did that happen and over how long?!! I've never heard of such a dramatic weight gain!
Arizona100 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 What the heck... 5 pounds? I am 5.7 for 140 pounds and I love my body. I don't want to lose weight and I know guys check me out. To answer you, no, I wouldn't leave him because he gained weight.
yergawd Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 How did that happen and over how long?!! I've never heard of such a dramatic weight gain! We were together for about 11 yrs. The weight did go up over night though. She went into a depression, stopped doing anything. I would work 40 hr weeks, and go to school full time. Come home to a disaster of a mess in the house, so then I'd clean, study, and go to sleep. She did take care of our son so I put up with it till she was pulled out of the depression.Then I ran like h3ll. I didn't see the part about 5 lbs that's a huge difference from my experience.
Arizona100 Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 The weight really wasn't the only issue though.
yergawd Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 No, not at all. but gaining 100+ lbs very rapidly (maybe 2 months) killed any physical desire for her. But you're right she had more issues than national geographic. The op suggested massive weight gain to me. 5 lbs is nothing that is shallow and petty.
Arizona100 Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Weight wouldn't be a killer for me, I think what would kill my desire would be the lack of confidence. And the lack of will to lose weight; it's not all about appearance, it's about health too, and longevity. If he gained weight, I'd suggest activities such as walking, etc ... Would go with him.
Yamaha Posted August 12, 2007 Posted August 12, 2007 Better question: have you in the past? This has been the nagging thought in the back of my mind as I contemplate the demise of my relationship. I don't want to develop body image distortion but I can't help thinking that if I had been in better shape, the ex would have stayed in love. I had gained approximately 5 pounds around my middle at the time of the breakup... no one else noticed since I am 5'8 and that put me at 138 lbs, still a good healthy weight, but, thinking back, I can't help remembering him telling me I'd probably look really hot if I lost 10 pounds. And being critical whenever I ate. Hypocritical if you ask me seeing as how HE never moved at all. I would not fall out of love if they gained some weight. It would strictly be a health issue. The mind is the biggest sex organ and if I was in-love with them they would remain sexy to me. Only people whose identity of themselves(and others) is in their outward appearance would fall out of love. Now it might be harder to have sex in some of our favorite positions so we might want to consider losing the weight so we could still enjoy all aspects of sex.
Mary3 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 What if its the whole damn bakery? If the bakery is *larger* than a refrigerator then I would have to say Nope !
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