DateAnalyzer Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I mean do you think it's weird? I been questioned because of not having a cell phone and the truth is I just don't have that much of an active outdoor life or that many female associates so I see know reason for a cell phone right now. I'm defintely not going to pasy $41 a month to receive calls from my mom or any other relative. So Ladies do u care??
Ocean-Blue Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Believe it or not, not everyone has a cellphone. If you not having a cell deters a woman from dating you...well...do you really want to date such a stupid creature?
katiebour Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 It's not a big deal when you're first dating, but once you get somewhat serious, it's nice to be able to contact each other easily. I know that if I run into a problem, car breaks down, etc, that I can call my b/f and he'll come and help me (and vice versa.) Because we live together and know each other's schedules, if I come home and he's not here, or if he's late, I can call and make sure he's ok. I wouldn't care much initially though. And when I got my cell I just added a line to my plan and gave that phone to my b/f- it's an extra $20 a month and we have unlimited calls between the two of us. If you are curious, here's a little break-down of costs (I used to work for Qwest so I am VERY familiar with typical phone and cell pricing): 1 cell w/500 minutes a month: $60 2 cells w/500 shared minutes: $80 local phone line: $20 unlimited LD plan: $20 These are rough after-tax prices. It's a little more expensive, but you have the added security and convenience of being able to call anytime, anywhere. I have a lot of family on the West Coast, so the free long distance on a cell is a big bonus for me. My boyfriend and I don't have a big circle of friends that we call a lot either, so the 500 minutes is more than enough for both of us.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 It's not a big deal when you're first dating, but once you get somewhat serious, it's nice to be able to contact each other easily. I know that if I run into a problem, car breaks down, etc, that I can call my b/f and he'll come and help me (and vice versa.) Because we live together and know each other's schedules, if I come home and he's not here, or if he's late, I can call and make sure he's ok. I wouldn't care much initially though. And when I got my cell I just added a line to my plan and gave that phone to my b/f- it's an extra $20 a month and we have unlimited calls between the two of us. If you are curious, here's a little break-down of costs (I used to work for Qwest so I am VERY familiar with typical phone and cell pricing): 1 cell w/500 minutes a month: $60 2 cells w/500 shared minutes: $80 local phone line: $20 unlimited LD plan: $20 These are rough after-tax prices. It's a little more expensive, but you have the added security and convenience of being able to call anytime, anywhere. I have a lot of family on the West Coast, so the free long distance on a cell is a big bonus for me. My boyfriend and I don't have a big circle of friends that we call a lot either, so the 500 minutes is more than enough for both of us. Well unless I get a RAISE at work there will not be a cell phone in my financial situation. Now if I get serious with someone then I may consider it but being single right now and on the hunt would make cell phone a pointless bill
corazoncito Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 If a woman won't date you because you don't have a cell, she sounds a little off. But if it's just a matter of her asking you for your cell number (her just assuming you have one) and you saying you don't have one, I wouldn't read too much into that. Yes, not everyone has a cell these days, but I know more people who do than don't. If you decide to get a cell, you can probably hunt around a little and find something cheaper than the monthly plans pp suggested to you. I find it useful to have a cell phone, but don't use it a lot. So I got a prepaid account and a cheap phone ($20). The calls themselves are more expensive per minute($0.25/minute), but if you don't call a lot, it comes out cheaper overall than a monthly plan. The phone I have has no fancy extras, but I only want it to make calls, not take pictures, listen to music etc., so it works for me.
Chinook Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I only got my cell phone earlier this year. It has been a never-ending headache since. I keep calls on divert and messages on silent. My Mom goes ape because she says it wasn't worth me having a phone when she can't contact me. My argument is, she can contact me where ever I am. The only time I don't have my phone with me is in the car - it stays in my bag because it's now illegal over here to use a phone in the car. So I can check my voicemail and messages periodically - which still gives me control. So no, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all...! What did we do in the days before phones...???
Nemo Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Believe it or not, not everyone has a cellphone. I make the jokes around here.
Star Gazer Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I the truth is I just don't have that much of an active outdoor life or that many female associates so I see know reason for a cell phone right now. If that's your stated reason, then YES, it would bother me. A LOT. You're basically saying "I have no life, date me." Ick. Now, if you were rebelling against technology, as my friend who walks most everywhere and rides his little Vespa to the places that are too far away, and only uses email for work purposes, fine. But otherwise, I do think it's a little strange. Pre-paid cell phones can be dirt cheap. You can terminate your land line and get a cell phone instead - believe it or not, it works indoors.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 If that's your stated reason, then YES, it would bother me. A LOT. You're basically saying "I have no life, date me." Ick. Now, if you were rebelling against technology, as my friend who walks most everywhere and rides his little Vespa to the places that are too far away, and only uses email for work purposes, fine. But otherwise, I do think it's a little strange. Pre-paid cell phones can be dirt cheap. You can terminate your land line and get a cell phone instead - believe it or not, it works indoors. I'm saying that on here, I would never tell a woman that I'm just meeting-lol
Star Gazer Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I'm saying that on here, I would never tell a woman that I'm just meeting-lol They're gonna ask why...
Hazy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I don't think it's a big deal. I don't call guys very often anyway, they call me. I don't think it should be a problem. I just got one three years ago. Now I don't have a landline. If anyone judges you for not having a cell phone, they're stupid.
spookie Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I hate cell phones. I hate how they have everyone on a leash. The whole point is that you can carry it around and therefore ALWAYS be within reach. There is no time out. If someone calls you, they know you know they called... their number is stored right there in your phone, which is wherever you are. Obligations, expectations. I think cell phones have significantly changed the dynamics of all relationships, and I don't like it. I miss land lines, miss feeling out of reach, miss coming home to a flashing answering machine. If my parents didn't insist on paying for a cell phone for me, I wouldn't have one. As soon as I finish growing up and getting financially independent I'm going to cancel it. So to answer your question...no, I don't think there is anything wrong with a guy not having a cell, as long as you are reasonably easy to get a hold of.
axisdenied Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I think cell phones have significantly changed the dynamics of all relationships, and I don't like it. Here here! I can nearly swear that I recently lost a decent dating prospect just because she couldn't text me (I don't do cell phones). Talking to somebody on their home phone is so taboo for some people anymore.
amaysngrace Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I don't have a cell phone. I don't care to get one either. They irk me. It's liberating not to be tied to your phone all the time. And I've heard they cause brain tumors although they haven't really been in existence long enough for scientific evidence of that rumor. If it even is a rumor. I'm leaning towards fact. Which is why they invented text.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Good Grief! I turn around to get mine if I leave it. I could care less about the land line, generally let the machine answer it. I always have my cell phone but that doesn't mean I always answer it. Recently I have grown to appreciate text messaging. I abhor using it myself as I am slow but its great to answer yes or no instead having to start what could be a long conversation. Voicemail is what I can't stand. I know if someone called and will call them back when I can, calling VM just to hear, call me, makes me nuts! Most of my friends know this so they don't bother, plus the inbox is usually full because I don't listen to them which settles that! I can't imagine how people parented without it! I call it PBC, that's parenting by cell! I remember having to say where I was going as a child and find a phone if plans changed. I feel a hundred times better knowing my driving age child can call anytime, the younger one wants one but doesn't even use the phone, and is never unsupervised. I know children as young as 8 in the neighborhood that have them though, so their parents don't have to track them down, they can just call the cell. My rule there is just call me from where you are and let me know if you change places. Has anyone tried to find a payphone lately! I looked recently because I wanted to see a phone book. Not a one to be found.
amaysngrace Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Has anyone tried to find a payphone lately! I looked recently because I wanted to see a phone book. Not a one to be found. I get harped on for not having one. My mom and BF mostly complain. My BF even wanted to put me on his plan but I told him no. My mom's biggest concern is if I get a flat or something but I told her I'd just wave down a car, any car, and use their cell phone.
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