iamTHROUGH Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I was honestly starting to get over my ex of 2 years. I had basically moved on. Then a few months ago he contacted me out of nowhere and does this an increasing amount. Since then Ive fallen into this horrible rut where I cant stop thinking about the situation. I really try to concentrate on other things but my mind falls back to it. How do I get out of such a rut? I would appreciate your help and advice. I really feel hopeless. I dont want to get back together. I just want to feel better. I want to get to the point where I can live my life without thinking about this mess. He treated me horribly...
Am4Real Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 What do you suppose he wants.... Since you probably don't care what he wants tell him exactly that: "I don't care what you need, what you want, what you have to say. You are in the past, buried deeply, and like I wouldn't dig up a corpse I will not dig up you or anything from that time". "Leave me alone, please".
tinke Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 how long have you been broken-up? did you begin n/c immediately? when did he begin to contact you after the break-up? where you receptive then? your thread is basic.....
Ocean-Blue Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Remind yourself of why you two are no longer together. You stated that he treated you "horribly" - is this something you want to go through again? It's likely that you are lonely at the moment (and having the ex back in the picture reminds you of a time when you weren't lonely, albeit unhappy b/c of the way he treated you). Do things with your friends. Go out more often. Try to meet new people. Explore new hobbies and interests. It's all a state of mind (this rut that you are in). Take care of yourself and do something for yourself. You'll soon find that you are too busy enjoying your life to think about the ex. Good luck!
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