purety1 Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 If you are a girl and you are simply having a conversation... or you have frequent conversations with a guy or other guys.. you like them or are trying to get with them. It just drives me insane. I do not and will not date any guy at work.. I have recently but no one knows about that .. it ended bad anyway.. luckily no one knew...yet people start rumors and ask dumb questions because you are in a certain area or because you have conversations... with guys. You can't just be a nice person.. who thinks another person is a nice guy...and just be friends...people talk about your every move and I am fed up!!! I am a nice person...I am a people person.. I like to laugh and if people think I am trying to get with someone because I am having a conversation.... I don't give a damn.... they can spread all the rumors they want and even hate me because I am a nice person.. I could care less...I will walk around with my head held high... they can all buzz off... and go back to rumorville... because I am beyond that! Why can't people just mind their own damn business!
Star Gazer Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 You're probably coming off very flirty with your male co-workers, that's why, which is inappropriate in a business/professional environment. Why are you often in "certain areas" and having "frequent conversations" to get to know guys and not at your desk/work space/office? Your co-workers might be getting upset because they see you spending an inordinate amount of time not working and "making friends with guys." I often talk to men in my office and have made friendships with men at previous places of employment. However, I never had a rumor spread about me and any of these men, likely because I am professional at all times in the office. Point is, you can be a "nice person" all you want, but work is work.
Author purety1 Posted July 24, 2007 Author Posted July 24, 2007 With my job I have had nothing to do for almost 4 weeks. This specific person knows I have been waiting for some work to do. I do not have a designated desk or office. I may be in one building one day and another the next. I understand you have to be professional... I understand.. I work with guys that are young and sometimes alot older than me that flirt.. make dumb jokes...so my job environment is not very professional at all. Its' laid back.. mostly outside..I have conversations as I walk through to go to lunch, as I come back from lunch as I go to another building to talk to my supervisors. Simple conversations with a laugh..people tell jokes. Some guys come over to where I am and just talk to me.. but it is strictly platonic. I know how people are with talking flirty instead of just having simple conversations. I have those conversations. I understand what you are saying.. but it might be that rumors are not being spread just that these people ask me questions like are you trying to get with that person... blah blah.. and I say no it's strictly friendship I would not date anybody here. I guess I will pay more attention to how i deal with they guys in my work area. I will have to look at how I deal with everyone around me.
Star Gazer Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 You need to be proactive and professional, regardless of the environment. If you don't have work to do, you need to ask for it. You shouldn't be without something to do for four weeks. Point of the matter is, platonic/flirting aside, you need to be doing your job. People who are busy with work will become resentful that you're just hanging around chit-chatting, and that resentment will snowball into something you don't want to deal with. CYA and do your job. If these dudes want to chat, hang out, etc., do it AFTER work. Your boss isn't paying you to make friends.
Author purety1 Posted July 24, 2007 Author Posted July 24, 2007 I understand what you are saying... a little harsh but true. I will just reevaluate how i deal with my coworkers.
Heavenly55 Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 You're probably coming off very flirty with your male co-workers, that's why, which is inappropriate in a business/professional environment. Why are you often in "certain areas" and having "frequent conversations" to get to know guys and not at your desk/work space/office? Your co-workers might be getting upset because they see you spending an inordinate amount of time not working and "making friends with guys." I often talk to men in my office and have made friendships with men at previous places of employment. However, I never had a rumor spread about me and any of these men, likely because I am professional at all times in the office. Point is, you can be a "nice person" all you want, but work is work. Do you get any work done during the day or spend half the time chatting it up with guys? It has nothing to do with being nice or not it's how to act in an office env't. Sorry but if you're standing in "areas" laughing and giggling with mainly guys how do you think the average person would take it.
fairy_dust Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 You need to keep it professional on every level possible while you are at work. Keep your 'nice' conversations to a minimal. Making friends or getting to know your co-workers is fine, although, you must keep yourself busy as your purpose there is to do a job and get paid for the work you do. You can say "hi" and "bye" and just a "how are you today?" As for anything more during working hours can give off a bad taste about your professional ethics at work. Hope this brings enlightenment to you
Author purety1 Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 When i wrote the original post I was really mad or upset. I don't only talk to guys i work with I have conversations with everyone. I work with primarily guys. I say hi how are you...blah..blah. Even those simple daily hellos and 90% of the time I am talking to these people about work, while the nosey/gossipers start making assumptions. I don't just run around and try to giggle with all the guys out here. I could be a little more professional.... maybe because I have been sitting for like 4 weeks I carry more conversations that could lead to people resenting me for them possibly being a little more busy than me.. and I have looked for work to do.. but there is nothing. I just got word that next week I will have work to do... Yey!
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