julia pearson Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 So, my husband has been working with this fellow since he first started his line of work. They went through early training together. They were the first couple I met when I started dating my now husband. Time went on and we both started families. We weren't celebrating every birthday of the kids together but yes, we did keep an eye on how things were going and enquired about the health and adventure of each child frequently. So their oldest daughter is getting married and all the way along when I run into the wife I ask "how are the plans going? Is there anything I can do to help?" that sort of thing. Awhile ago she runs into my husband and announces rather abruptly "well, we've had to drop you from our guest list. The numbers are getting too high. So sorry, you won't be coming to the wedding." Just like that! Didn't bother me at first. However, it has been niggling at me and the more I think of it the more insulted I'm becoming. I know my husband is very hurt as well. Since our careers have moved along and promotions have taken place and all that our friends seem to have lost sight of what is real. Who long time friends are. They're more concerned with "who you know" and what their "monetary worth" is. I feel sorry for the daughter who has been incredibly stressed by all of this. I guess it caused us both to take a very hard look at the friendship. I don't think we have much in common with these people anymore. Our own daughter just landed a scholarship that will be sending her overseas to school for two years. They haven't said a word to us about this. No congratulations to her either. Perhaps jealousy has a role to play? I don't know. I do know that the faster I get past this the healthier it will be for me! (Sorry this was so long)
quankanne Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 that's too weird ... sounds like Wifey must have felt snubbed by something y'all said or did, and is now retaliating? Even if nothing truly happened to set her off? Some folks can be like that, unfortunately. like you, I feel bad for the kids, because I'm sure they've got kind memories about your family. If anything, consider sending the bride & her husband a card of congratulations, she would prolly be thrilled to know that you remembere her big day! and congrats on your daughter's scholarship! Overseas studies? Sounds like a wonderful adventure for her!!!
Author julia pearson Posted July 24, 2007 Author Posted July 24, 2007 Yeah! Its soo cool she's heading overseas to school. Its not without twinges on my part (see somewhere in Parenting). You're right. My connection with the parents has been damaged beyond repair but this has nothing to do with the kids. I will find a nice card and send it to the new couple. I do care about her! Thanks for the reply!
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