frd150 Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 Well, Sad to say but i am not surprised. I found out today that my ex has been indeed testing the waters. My question is this... Do People in general tend to attract or gravitate to a certain kind of person? I ask this because she has or was talking to a guy that from what i gathered was or is not treating her well. According to her good friend my ex seems to date the same type of guy. Controlling, Insulting,needy, overweight (no offence to anyone). I do not fit any of these peramiters and this is why those closes to her were so happy while we were dating. Now shes back to her old ways:sick:. Any ideas????
lino Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I don't have much to say of your situation because I don't know it well. I seem to attract only women who like 'badass' 'too cool' type guys. I'm not that type, especially not with women but often I'm seen like that probably because I've got a toned & muscled build & 2 tattoos. I've been told my face looks naturally abit aggressive but not really much I can do about that. So unfortunately pretty much all the girls I get are very hot girls but with alot of attitude most of the time. Which was not so bad when I was younger & just wanted sex with hot girls but now that I want to love & be loved in a relationship it's not much use because they just dump me straight away once they find out I'm not a badass. What's even worse is that the cute 'nicer' girls aren't attracted to me, most probably because of my appearance
Author frd150 Posted July 24, 2007 Author Posted July 24, 2007 Any one else? Yeah i cant say as i have the same problem. I tend to attract the cute ones. The young teacher types. Noy bad. They seem to be a bit more grounded. Well, most of the time;).
quankanne Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 you were the exception to the losers that she chooses – it might be low self-esteem (she doesn't deserve a good man, just the guys who treat her bad), it might just be a sick attraction to "fix" them up, etc. And yes, some folks tend to follow a pattern in the kind of people they date for these reasons ...
Trialbyfire Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 Yes, no matter what you say, each person cycles. The reason I say this is that everyone's positive attributes are also their negative ones or can cause offsetting negative attributes. For myself, I'm drawn to confidence, intelligence, sense of humour,etc. The offsetting side to that is, they tend to be self-centered.
LoveLace Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 OH YEA I think so...I swear the only guys that want me are jobless/mindless/alcoholic etc...it's never a decent-looking, well-dressed man with a good job and ambitions...well wait a sec it is that type sometimes, they just only want sex. The losers wants love and marriage...unbelievable!
jcster Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I tend to attract narcissists. Utterly self-centered, oblivious a-holes. Yay me!
IpAncA Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 Hahaha!! I attract the wrong kind of men. Always have. I seem to be every dirty trashy mans fantasy girl and I in no way look dirty or trashy. Go fig. Guess opposites really do attract. At least on their end. Not saying that's all I attract but a lot of it is.
lino Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 The young teacher types. Noy bad. They seem to be a bit more grounded. Well, most of the time;). Well funnily enough 2 of the women I've been involved with were young teachers & still the type of girl I mentioned in my earlier reply They come from all types of occupations. Personal trainers, accountants, teachers, dancers, supermarket workers, real estate agents & unemployed. That is one of the reasons why I said in another thread that a womans occupation is not an important attribute/quality for me, infact its almost insignificant, even if they don't work at all! you were the exception to the losers that she chooses – it might be low self-esteem (she doesn't deserve a good man, just the guys who treat her bad), it might just be a sick attraction to "fix" them up, etc. And yes, some folks tend to follow a pattern in the kind of people they date for these reasons ... Not sure if this was aimed at me but I'll reply anyway. What you're saying makes sense but I'm not so sure if its the case for me. In my opinion it is me that has a low self esteem & not much confidence. Its something I'm trying to improve but easier said than done To me the women I've been with have always seemed quite confident even if some of them were shy. They still knew they could have pretty much any man they want & they definitely knew I wanted them. Not sure about the sick attraction to the idea of 'fixing' someone up, possibly its the case. However I do think they deserved a good man & I wanted to be that man but they thought otherwise
miabobia Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I always attract guys looking to settle down and take someone home. It's not a good thing. Usually, they dont know me long before they are trying to create this instantaneous romance, usually without chemistry. And the other guys are looking for their best gal pal, to take the place of girlfriend until someone who's more their type shows up.
high_boost Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I don't have much to say of your situation because I don't know it well. I seem to attract only women who like 'badass' 'too cool' type guys. I'm not that type, especially not with women but often I'm seen like that probably because I've got a toned & muscled build & 2 tattoos. hahaha im sorry this just made me laugh. 2 tattoos and your a badass to these women lol!!! i must be freakin satan!!! no hard feelings bro.
high_boost Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 i dont seem to have a pattern with the women i attract. some recent have been teachers, metal chicks, club chicks, old ladies lol (no lie its insane) a yoga instructor (that was fun) none of them have been the same really as far as lifestyles. im not really attracted to one type either. well i am kinda hung up on this brit who is a teacher and everything i want ina woman but i dont know what to do about it right now.
lino Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 hahaha im sorry this just made me laugh. 2 tattoos and your a badass to these women lol!!! i must be freakin satan!!! no hard feelings bro. Well in my opinion neither 1 or 1000 tats makes anyone a badass or not. Its the attitude of the person which determines that. I don't consider myself to be a badass at all. Unfortunately not many think that way & go purely by appearance. No hard feelings taken I don't have a specific type either. However the only types I seem to attract are the types I've mentioned earlier & while I am into these women too they eventually stop being into me. The 'nicer' ones most of the time don't even give me a chance to present to them who I am.
high_boost Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 hmm thats kinda strange lino. maybe you look like a player so the smart/nice ones dont bother with you???
lino Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Well that could also be a possibility. In my view I don't look like a player, though I guess others could think different. Yeah it is strange & annoying! Sorry if I'm taking yor thread off topic frd150.
spookie Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Hm. I think I actually do attract the exact types of guys I tend to want to date, though of course not all or even most of them. And only rarely have I attracted the types I typically wouldn't go for (type that turns me off MOST is the All-American hottie/ frat boy).
Hazy Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 Well, Sad to say but i am not surprised. I found out today that my ex has been indeed testing the waters. My question is this... Do People in general tend to attract or gravitate to a certain kind of person? I ask this because she has or was talking to a guy that from what i gathered was or is not treating her well. According to her good friend my ex seems to date the same type of guy. Controlling, Insulting,needy, overweight (no offence to anyone). I do not fit any of these peramiters and this is why those closes to her were so happy while we were dating. Now shes back to her old ways:sick:. Any ideas???? No. You are just really bitter from being dumped. She likes someone else, you just have to get over it instead of making yourself look like this awesome guy and the other guys she dates looking like losers. I don't think they are all the same "type" you are just biased and judging them because you were dumped.
Author frd150 Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 No. You are just really bitter from being dumped. She likes someone else, you just have to get over it instead of making yourself look like this awesome guy and the other guys she dates looking like losers. I don't think they are all the same "type" you are just biased and judging them because you were dumped. So let me see if i got this straight. The guys before me were a myth? They did not exist and they were not all carbon copies of each other? HMMM. I guess i was wrong. My OP was merely a general question stemming from a discussion me and some mates had the other night. For the record i am not bitter. I think that she is well within her rights to date. We are not together she owes me no explanations. I have said it before and i will say it again, "my love for her is unconditional".
Author frd150 Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 Well that could also be a possibility. In my view I don't look like a player, though I guess others could think different. Yeah it is strange & annoying! Sorry if I'm taking yor thread off topic frd150. No worries Lino, My intention was to start an open discussion. frd
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