Darth Vader Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 Condoms do not protect agains HPV which is at epidemic levels in this country. An affected area sheds cells which cling to other parts of the genetal area and is transfered via skin to skin contact during intercoure. Men's scrotum are particularly subject to carry these cells. These are microscopic and you would not be able to spot it. A vicious strain of HPV causes cancer in both men and women. Do an image search for HPV and you will never look at the risk the same again. And yes, it happens often. I know one BW who ended having a hysterctomy as a result of her husband's affair. Worse yet, I know for a fact her husband was back to cheating soon after her hystectomy. Sharing the wealth he was. That is the worst I have personally known of but I know of three BS who have gotten HPV. I can't imagine having sex with a MM without protection. He is having sex with another woman I don't know and who may herself be having sex with some other dude ... Like the old Breck Shampoo commercial ... I gave it to a friend ... who gave it to a friend.. who gave it to a friend ... P.S. - educate your children, friends and neighbors about HPV. You may save a woman's life. HA! Some friendship! With friends like that, who need enemy's? OK, you lost me on the HPV's thing, I know what HIV is. Is this HPV thing a new bug? A form of herpies? Sounds nasty!:sick::sick:
East of Jupiter Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 HA! Some friendship! With friends like that, who need enemy's? OK, you lost me on the HPV's thing, I know what HIV is. Is this HPV thing a new bug? A form of herpies? Sounds nasty!:sick::sick: That you have not heard of HPV illustrates why this disease is at epidemic levels. It is only in the last few years that they have started putting up PSA's on it. Here is some info: [COLOR=#800080]Genital HPV infection[/COLOR] is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) that is caused by human papillomavirus (HPV). Human papillomavirus is the name of a group of viruses that includes more than 100 different strains or types. More than 30 of these viruses are sexually transmitted, and they can infect the genital area of men and women including the skin of the penis, vulva (area outside the vagina), or anus, and the linings of the vagina, cervix, or rectum. Most people who become infected with HPV will not have any symptoms and will clear the infection on their own. Some of these viruses are called "high-risk" types, and may cause abnormal Pap tests. They may also lead to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, anus, or penis. Others are called "low-risk" types, and they may cause mild Pap test abnormalities or genital warts. Genital warts are single or multiple growths or bumps that appear in the genital area, and sometimes are cauliflower shaped. http://www.cdc.gov/std/HPV/STDFact-HPV.htm Google for images though I warn you, it is very disturbing. I have one sister, one cousin, one sister-in-law and two friends who have have had abnormal paps due to HPV. HPV can live in your system for many years without any symptoms.
Mr. Lucky Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 Some of us are striving to be like God wants us to be. Yes, we will fail we are flesh and ruled by the flesh, but that is why when tempted, praying for strength to resist those things that are going to hurt our selves and others is what makes us responsible and accountable. I wouldn't make decisions for others, but I would point out the consequences that some actions would cause. That is not a judgment of behavior, but a loving kindness toward your fellow man. I didn't say yell and scream sinner at the top of your voice, but the bible says to stir your christian brother/sister in the right direction in a loving way. But a sibling is an entirely different issue. If you can't talk to a brother/sister about their behavior, maybe you should readjust your relationship with them. You make some good points although siblings, like friends, do have differing degrees of closeness. I'm close to both my brother and sisters and always appreciate their counsel and advice. But the title of this thread is " should i tell my sister's husband that she's cheating on him? ". Going behind your brother/sister's back and gossiping to their spouse is another thing entirely... Mr. Lucky
Mr. Lucky Posted July 29, 2007 Posted July 29, 2007 If they are using them for birth control, why have them in the suitcase, why not leave them at home? Unless they traveled alot together, but still, to be taking a shower at someone elses place kinda clues you in as to why she was showering, Fingerprints, if ya know whadda mean! Again, you assume an awful lot and always from a negative point of view. He didn't see his sister and another man check into Motel 6, he "found" (still unclear how that happened ) some condoms in her suitcase. From there, none of his business... Mr. Lucky
East of Jupiter Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Again, you assume an awful lot and always from a negative point of view. He didn't see his sister and another man check into Motel 6, he "found" (still unclear how that happened ) some condoms in her suitcase. From there, none of his business... Mr. Lucky One doesn't have to be the spouse or partner of a cheater to have a gut instinct about a situation. The brother would not be so concerned about it if he did not have a very good reason to think as he is. We all have to do what we can live with. I have asked myself this question often, what would I do? I would not tell the unsuspecting partner. I would very much feel comfortable approchating the cheater and asking that they do the right thing. I don't think talking someone into stopping something detrimental to themselves and others can ever be wrong. You just have to be willing to accept that they may not appreciate it and if it is the case of a close friend or relative, that you seperate their bad deeds from the person and not write them off. 2 cents. I'll give you all change later.
Mr. Lucky Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 I don't think talking someone into stopping something detrimental to themselves and others can ever be wrong. You just have to be willing to accept that they may not appreciate it and if it is the case of a close friend or relative, that you seperate their bad deeds from the person and not write them off. Well said and, at least in my eyes, all true ... Mr. Lucky
East of Jupiter Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 Well said and, at least in my eyes, all true ... Mr. Lucky I can't tell you the amount of practice I've had. My oldest sister rarely dated a guy that wasn't married. She will tell you straight out that once she got her man, she lost interest. Hell we would have been happy if it was not the guy next door. That was lovely. His wife took it out on my Mom. It was ugly. In the end they broke up after he shot her. She has a scar from sternum to pelvis out of the deal and a very bitter disposition. But that didn't stop her. A few years ago it was the guy across the street. You see, I've lived with an OW all of my life. During a recent blow out with her (don't ask) she told me she was proud to be just like my dad. She's finally mellowed. She's too old to attract too many men and she has lost interest in sex. Thank goodness. She has a daughter (too late for bad examples there) and a young son (perhaps not too late for him, but enough already). By the way, both children are from the same man and he was not one of the married ones (luck). Heck she can't have a relationship with anyone. I love her deeply and my heart aches for her and has for a long time. Hurting so many people does not make for a happy life. But I also keep my distance. She can't be emotionally trusted. For those of you who think affairs don't hurt and influence your kids ...
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