oppath Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 While it is a generalization, fewer people smoke in high pressure, highly technical professions. Smoking is part of a lifestyle for some people. It doesn't mean smokers are bad. However, if I am making a commitment to someone, even if that commitment is only bf/gf, I need her to make a commitment to her life and her health. Why would I make a commitment to someone who isn't committing to themselves? I'll date girls who smoke, but I won't get into a relationship with them. Plus, it happens far too often that they run off to smoke while I am waiting for the bill. That is bs. Stay and talk to me. It's not the taste, it is the fact that they make smoking a priority over me due to addiction. If I have to wait 5 minutes for them to finish smoking, in my opinion, that is unacceptable, because I can't enjoy that time with them.
Pyro Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I really really like this guy and I'm pretty sure he likes me back. He's a good catch; he's funny, charismatic, good looking, has a good job, and he's nice to me. There is however one thing about him that turns me off, and that is that he's a smoker. I am a non smoker and hate the smell of smoke. Is it possible for this to work out between us if we did start dating? And what are your feelings on dating people that smoke if you don't? Well, you can either put up with it, or you do not. If that is the deciding factor in making the relationship work, then the ball is in your court. I am a non-smoker, although I will have a cigar every now and then when drinking, but I would not date a full-time smoker. I could put up with someone who smokes rarely or only when drinking, as long as that isn't overboard either. An ex of mine quit cold turkey for me when we started dating. Less then a week after our break-up (1.5 years later) she was back at it.
spookie Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 My reasons for not dating smokers are more practical. It's a fact that smoking takes years off a person's life. I want someone I can grow old with, so it's important for me to be with someone who takes good care of himself so that he can be around for as long as possible. It would be too painful for me to love someone who persisted in hurting himself like that.
lino Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 Most the women I've been with atleast smoked casually & also took party drugs recreationally. While those are habbits I don't particularly like, it's not enough to turn me off a girl I like alot. So yeah I have no problem dating a smoker as long as it's not multiple packs a day or something. I don't smoke or take drugs BTW. I do like to drink when out though.
peace_pipe Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I get bored just thinking about how prudish most of you that have posted on this thread are. It's really great when the pass laws that strip your freedem away so I can see how you really think that's great. Did someone mention college? Yeah, I went there but I wasn't drunk and on my back like you were.
bish Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I get bored just thinking about how prudish most of you that have posted on this thread are. Call it prudish if you want...I don't enjoy kissing a woman whose mouth tastes like total crap.
Lizzie60 Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 I get bored just thinking about how prudish most of you that have posted on this thread are. It's really great when the pass laws that strip your freedem away so I can see how you really think that's great. Did someone mention college? Yeah, I went there but I wasn't drunk and on my back like you were. Oh boy... you're soooo full of it... According to a British study, by Professor David Nutt... (excerpt from the article) Heroin and cocaine were ranked most dangerous, followed by barbiturates and street methadone. Alcohol was the fifth-most harmful drug and tobacco the ninth most harmful. Cannabis came in 11th, and near the bottom of the list was ecstasy. .... Tobacco causes 40 per cent of all hospital illnesses, while alcohol is blamed for more than half of all visits to hospital emergency rooms. The substances also harm society in other ways, damaging families and occupying police services. I am happy that here, in Ottawa-Hull, they now regulate tobacco use. Oh...btw I don't smoke (quit 14 years ago) and I don't drink, never did.
kittensmittens Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 My (ex)bf was a smoker. I wasn't especially crazy about it before we started dating. Now, I HATE cigarette smell. HATE. We lived together and he would always smoke outside--and still--all of my things, my hair, my clothes, smelled like cigarette. I put up w/ it for the most part, but I realize now how much resentment I really had over it. To the OP, just make sure you love everything else about him. There is always the possibility that he could one day quit....but don't count on that. Should you decide to date him, you MUST accept him AS IS. He could tell you he's going to quit (like my bf did). He may have every intention of doing so but still not be able to. He may only be telling you what he knows you want to hear. But if you expect (or really, even hope) that he's going to quit, you risk setting yourself up for resentment. And if you pressure him to quit, he'll resent you. So, basically, make sure you make your peace w/ it now, before getting involved. If you hate it now, it's not a smell you're gonna grow to love (and it'll be on everything).
katiebour Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 My boyfriend smokes, and I don't. I made it known that I was not fond of smoking before we met, but I decided, personally, that there were more important things to me than smoking, and if the person that I dated was wonderful in so many other ways, I could learn to put up with it. I still don't like smoking- the smoke stings my eyes and makes my lungs ache. My boyfriend knows this and will put out a cigarette or take it to another room when asked. But I knew from the outset that he was a smoker, and that it was his choice to do it or not do it. I accepted him the way he is, and will continue to do so because it's an otherwise good relationship 90% of the time. All of my parents (step included) have smoked or do smoke. I was around it all while growing up, and loving my parents the way I do, I can't see myself ruling out a person because of the habit. I don't notice the taste of cigarettes when we kiss- it's more the side effects that I feel when he smokes around me for any length of time. For me, personally, I have the generalized notion that I don't like smoking. But when it comes to evaluating people on an individual basis, I can't give a sweeping judgement that I will never date or allow myself to love a smoker. For me it's just one factor to be considered along with all the rest.
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