Author kobegirl Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 well here is something dumb from yesterday ... we all went to the beach and all of us used sunblock , my teenager on the other hand was being a hard head and decided that he wasnt going to use sunblock . i was trying to convince him several times but he was like " sorry mom " in a sarchastic annoying way as if to say i dont really care what you say .. so I was like ... OOOOOKKKKKK ~ . ha ha well obviously he is burnt bad and this morning he was so mad at me! like it was my fault for taking him to the beach ... what a nut case he can be .
Author kobegirl Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 well , I am really worried about my teenager now ... when am i not anyway .. since the other day he has been acting strange , he stays in his room more, doesnt really talk to us ( only the past 2 days) he makes small talk but that s it . when i ask him what is going on , he says he is just relaxing , ect. he seems really aggitated like he is angry with us but he wont say he is . I am just soo fed up . I am starting to think he is just a wierd guy . he always talks badly about peers, and just is always analyzing things , and it is so annoying. I tried to talk to my husband about my concerns but he keeps telling me to leave my teeanger alone. tonight my teen mentioned that he had a great conversation with someone online , but he wouldnt tell me anything about it other then he felt enlightened. to me this means many things. so i ask him , what did you talk about ... my teen wont say . i said is it how much you hate your parents? ( jokingly ) he said no ... i said did this person ask you personal info ? he said no ... he just said it was good conversation . . good grief . i tell you it is always one thing after another with my teenage son (17) . I am just so sick of it . but there seems to be nothing more I can do but hope for the best. he just is acting like he is above us ( his parents) and that he has got a plan that we dont know about . I just dont know if this is normal teenage stuff , or if there is something more to it . I am really frustrated cause I am starting to feel the only ones in my house that are normal are me and my toddler. I am really feeling super annoyed and aggitated at this point.
Author kobegirl Posted August 23, 2007 Author Posted August 23, 2007 looks like my teen is back . i swear his mood swings are ridiulous and make me totally stress out . I know there is a deeper issue here , my husband says I should just leave him alone and support him ( not in his obnoxiousness but his confidence since he is very insecure i think and therefore lashing out or rebelling.) maybe i should leave my teen alone , i am lecturing him alot lately . that 's my job right ? anyway , it is tough . he came out of his room wanting a pizone that is in the fridge , i said no it is too late, he said that he is 17 already and should be able to eat what he wants when he wants to . I said 17 ? and so ? dont eat before you go to bed. but i am sure he is staying up waiting for me to sleep to attack the fridge , or even worse he will be out soon to argue with me untill he gets his pizone . very very annoying.
Citizen Erased Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 looks like my teen is back . i swear his mood swings are ridiulous and make me totally stress out . I know there is a deeper issue here , my husband says I should just leave him alone and support him ( not in his obnoxiousness but his confidence since he is very insecure i think and therefore lashing out or rebelling.) maybe i should leave my teen alone , i am lecturing him alot lately . that 's my job right ? anyway , it is tough . he came out of his room wanting a pizone that is in the fridge , i said no it is too late, he said that he is 17 already and should be able to eat what he wants when he wants to . I said 17 ? and so ? dont eat before you go to bed. but i am sure he is staying up waiting for me to sleep to attack the fridge , or even worse he will be out soon to argue with me untill he gets his pizone . very very annoying. Tell him that he may be 17 but if he wants a pizone (no clue what that is btw lol) after dinner to buy them himself. Your food, your house, your rules. He won't like it, but you need to show him you won't back down. You give an inch he will take 10 miles.
Author kobegirl Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Tell him that he may be 17 but if he wants a pizone (no clue what that is btw lol) after dinner to buy them himself. Your food, your house, your rules. He won't like it, but you need to show him you won't back down. You give an inch he will take 10 miles. pizone is a new pizza pie thingi they have at pizza hut LOL. well , my teen really got on my nerves tonight , i mean seriously just is pushing me too much . I know i am going to sound just horrible right now but i am going to say it anyway because my anxiety has reached the breaking point. i am so entirely fed up with my teens attitude .. just pure arrogance it seems , and just his constant picking on my 5 year old when told a billion times to just STOP ALREADY ! and him just being a total jerk .. i mean this is just not normal teen behavior. somedays i thought he was normal that maybe i was over reacting but i am soooo stressed out tonight i am actually considering asking him to leave at 18 . just go and get out. thought about giving him money and saying good luck . i dont want to do that , i really dont , it would be hard ,i had plans to pay for his college ect .. but my mind cant take much more abuse from this teenager of mine . he just wont stop . he was in the living room today and when i came out of the bedroom where i kept my toddler in with me cause i didnt want my moody teen picking on him , my teen tells me "what are you doing out of your room ?".... let me just say you dont want to know the impulse i had at that very moment. but the thought of just saying goodbye and goodluck in the near future was just so relieving to my mind . I dont think anyone can take what my teen is dishing out right now. no normal person at least. my teenager is 17 , how can he not understand that how he is behaving is wrong ? i just dont believe that it is ignorance .. it is more defiant and in my face .. "what you going to do " attitude. his mood swings are ridiculous ! some days i think he is normal and maybe i was over reacting and days like today i wonder if he needs mental help . i am just soooo over living and feeling like this . when i hear his door creak open I swear it is starting to be like he is the monster in the basement . i just get chills and my skin crawls every time . I am just really overwhelmed right now . dreading tomoro with him . it is just a looney bin cycle this is becoming . some days he is normal some days he is crazy and angry depressed and VERY abnoxious. sorry , just had to vent .
Yosef Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Here's a tactic that worked for me. I used to be similar to your son. I would play videogames to midnight, get up the next morning and do it again. I would be stressed out by the slightest mishap. I never got to the point of breaking anything... except my spirit, but I constantly exiled myself from others to play a game. Eventually my life went totally off track, im still rebuidling it today (i quit a year ago). I'm definitely not the person who I used to be. I'm much more evolved now. Tactic 1) Sabotage. Sabotage the system so the game won't work. He won't know how to fic it and therefore drive into a withdrawal and try every possible means to fix it. Don't let it get fixed. If he asks you to fix it, take a look at it and pretend you have no idea how to fix the problem. Remove the wireless. Remove the game. Remove the addiction. If you remove his connection to the game, the connection dies away. It may never be totally lost, mind you. Once addicted, it's very hard to leave it behind. Tactic 2) He needs to become spiritually injured. He needs to get impacted. Impacted with something so stupid it changes his life. I finally crossed the line. My grandma asked if I wanted to help her with a Garrage Sale and to be a bodyguard. I'm always thinking of something like this happeneing, but I would never want to be a body guard. I told her about the same thing, and my mom annihilated me. I died inside once I thought back on that moment and wondered "What have I become?" I ended my addiction from there. I felt like the devil and I didn't want to be like that. I wanted to be a good kid. It could be just a phase, but it's hard to know now-a-days. You didn't have such technology back in your day so experience of this type of life is totally new and strange. Unfortunately, something needs to impact his life, something big. Taking his game system totally may be the easiest option, but you don't want to cause him to hate you.
justice Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 For the better part, he is being a typical teen. When mine were teens they tended to get real quiet and take it out on inanimate objects when they were mad about something and didn't want to talk about it. It's frustrating been an older teen, you are right on the brink of being an adult, are expected to act like one, but you have none of the independance of an adult. Teaching responsibility should help if you can get that point across to him. For instance, the broken desk, give him odd jobs or something and pay him for it, and see to it that he fixes the desk he broke. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It's a great lesson to learn. I wish you luck and thinks how glad I am that both my girls are now grown up with kids of their own. LOL
Author kobegirl Posted September 17, 2007 Author Posted September 17, 2007 aahh ~ all grown up ! must be sooo great ... i wish ! lol... i know what you mean i wish i could do that but i am afraid my teen just doesnt have that listen to me attitude. when his attitude started to get worse recently i just told him , straighten up or you wont be here after the age of 18 . I said it cause i was just so overwhelemed. my teen is going to give me a heart attack or an anurism . after i told him that he seemed to have straightened up a bit but not as much as i would like . I am tolerating alot of things from him .. just letting go of things not so serious although it bugs me to death . as long as he keeps his grades up and goes to college i try not to grouch so much . i have to say though .. that he really is still driving me up the walls. his self esteem is in the pits.. and no matter what i say it doesnt help and he likes to take out his frustration on me and my younger son. honestly i am sick and tired of him . i tried my best and i am completely burnt out . right now i am going with the attitude of supporting him but if he keeps pushing me even when i ask him to please not to .. then somethings got to change because i have another son to raise and i am not going to go to the looney bin for my teen . sometimes i see other boys his age and they dont act this way .. what the hec happened i dont know . but it makes me ill . why my son has to be this way is beyond me . but it isnt really a surprise , every month of his life in school there was always some problem or issue . he is like the never ending story . i have noticed that i am soo stressed out that i unintentionally block out things that my teen says to me .. i have to ask him what he said again , and i dont know why i ask cause clearly i dont want to here it anymore. the same old thing over and over. the same annoying attitude .. i am just fed up . sorry about the rambling .. but man ! i am really starting to lose it ! .
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